soooo pi$$ed off!!!! :((

[xxfluffyxx]

ok so hadnt heard from FOB im like 3-4weeks(i ignored him neway!!) his noghts out etc were more important than me and my bump and he spoke to me like crap!!,he went away with the army for a week and heard from him(via text) on his return...I IGNORED! anyway for the past 2days hes been constantly textin me! lastni I let him have his say and man I am angry!!!!! Its all about ahat "hed like!" about the hospital etc,and that he is sorry for the part he played in all this but would like if we werent fighting and is now aparantly"here to help"!! WHERE??? i asked him!! he can talk the talk but cant walk the walk!! If he cares enough he would have picked up the fone!! R would be bangin my door down to make sure everything was alright etc!!!...Im so mad!! hes goin on and on about how he wants wats"best 4 the child" if that was the case he wouldnt have put me thru so much stress durin pregnancy that id to see a councillor!! Or he wouldn end me in hospital with a badly sprained wrist!!! GGGGGRRRRRRRR.........!!!!!!! i HAD THOUGHT(FOR A SPLIT SECOND) that maybe he was seeing sense but was only lookin out 4 himself!! atarted telling me that"deep down in my heart and soul I want him at the hospital and I know its best for the baby" etc!! why should he have that privilage after treatin me like shit and not been any kind of support network for me and my bump! the times gettin closer and I think hes gettin freaked! this mornin saw pics on facebook posing with all he mates/and girls on nights out!! IM FUMING!! the day he came back from army...If he cared at all hed hav came straight here or even picked up the phone! not go clubbing!! (.....................so on a happier note! I am stronger than I was a month ago and have gotten thru the past 3-4 weeks without him(although hard). Iv text him saying that I tryd to listen to him,I never said Id stop him from sein the baby but that I also exist and hes hurt me and been a heartless prick,and if he cares where has he been for the past MONTH?the odd text to make himself feel like hes doin sumthin isnt good enough for us!!,and also I have no obligation to him,his family or anyone else!!! because he chose this!!)................OK LADIES!! RANT OVER!! haha!.....I feel better now!!

 

[xxfluffyxx]

,

 

[LittleMadam]

Well done, honey! You're doing great.

Screw him and worry about yourself and LO.

xxx

 

[gemabee]

well done hun!!
u stay strong for u nd bubba... let him act like a prick all he wants... u don't need to put up with his shit anymore
xx

 

[billy2mm]

well done!!!

you aere alot stronger than you gave yourself credit for hun!! you have proved you dont need him!!!

 

[xxfluffyxx]

aww girls!!! your all tellin me im strong!!! yes i am but still in a pickle! an even bigger mess.............they thought my waters had broken lastnight and had no1 to come t the hospital..mam told me to ring him and give him a chance(see his response!) see if hes as good as his word or just full of shit!! anway full storys on me other thread!! heads melted!! any advice greatly recieved!! ..no baby yet either btw xxxx

 

[bloodbinds]

Big hugs hun


Sorry that you are annoyed at him and that he has neglected you in the past, though it does sound that he is trying to make an effort now for the baby's sake, so it would be worth a thought of giving him a chance? It's awful that he hasn't given you any support in the past, but at least he seems to be coming round to the idea, which is a lot more than i can say for some of the FOBs in this place, lol! Looks like he has done some serious thinking so you should take him up on his offer to 'help' and see if he really means it. As long as he wants what is best for the baby then i'm sure you can find some common ground there xx

 

[xxfluffyxx]

Big hugs hun


Sorry that you are annoyed at him and that he has neglected you in the past, though it does sound that he is trying to make an effort now for the baby's sake, so it would be worth a thought of giving him a chance? It's awful that he hasn't given you any support in the past, but at least he seems to be coming round to the idea, which is a lot more than i can say for some of the FOBs in this place, lol! Looks like he has done some serious thinking so you should take him up on his offer to 'help' and see if he really means it. As long as he wants what is best for the baby then i'm sure you can find some common ground there xx

hey girl!!
my mother said the same to take him up on the offer and spend the day with him go shopping ,let him help etc...so I did,well he did pay 4 sum things but it wasnt worth it!! I asked him about me and did he care for me etc?he said he does love me and find me attractive but cant be with me as "a couple", so I told him to leave me alon until the baby came so I could enjoy the last few weeks!! he hit the roof,couldnt even hold a conversation without cursing and shouting and calling me a horrible person!...I think hes just been "sweetening me up" as the time nears and because his parents are telling him to copp on!! Hes only in it for himself!!...not evn 3hours went by and he had me in floods of tears!! I told him i was given him an oportunity to see if his actions were as good as his words....BULLSHIT!! hes so selfish!!............even demanded that he be in the hospital,wanted to sort out when he can have the baby(visits) etc!!!! I couldnt believe it!! the baby isnt even born yet and hes all about "rights" like the lil guy is some kind of contract and not a person!! ....im so hurt for evn giving him a chance!! ended up not getting half the things on my shopping lst and getting a migrane from being so upset!! he even had the cheek to tell me that"maybe we could have a relationship a year or so down the line!!!" WHAT AN A$$!! his texts etc will not be entertained now.....4weeks I did fine without him and as soon as hes given an opportunity he screws it up and puts all the stress back on me and bump!!............not fair!! my mams gonna be there for me! FU*K him!! if he can emotionally and physically abuse me and then reject me when carrying something so precious and when Im so vulnerable and he should be taking care of me...then hes not worth it!! WE deserve better!!!...............

 

[bloodbinds]

Big hugs hun


Sorry that you are annoyed at him and that he has neglected you in the past, though it does sound that he is trying to make an effort now for the baby's sake, so it would be worth a thought of giving him a chance? It's awful that he hasn't given you any support in the past, but at least he seems to be coming round to the idea, which is a lot more than i can say for some of the FOBs in this place, lol! Looks like he has done some serious thinking so you should take him up on his offer to 'help' and see if he really means it. As long as he wants what is best for the baby then i'm sure you can find some common ground there xx

hey girl!!
my mother said the same to take him up on the offer and spend the day with him go shopping ,let him help etc...so I did,well he did pay 4 sum things but it wasnt worth it!! I asked him about me and did he care for me etc?he said he does love me and find me attractive but cant be with me as "a couple", so I told him to leave me alon until the baby came so I could enjoy the last few weeks!! he hit the roof,couldnt even hold a conversation without cursing and shouting and calling me a horrible person!...I think hes just been "sweetening me up" as the time nears and because his parents are telling him to copp on!! Hes only in it for himself!!...not evn 3hours went by and he had me in floods of tears!! I told him i was given him an oportunity to see if his actions were as good as his words....BULLSHIT!! hes so selfish!!............even demanded that he be in the hospital,wanted to sort out when he can have the baby(visits) etc!!!! I couldnt believe it!! the baby isnt even born yet and hes all about "rights" like the lil guy is some kind of contract and not a person!! ....im so hurt for evn giving him a chance!! ended up not getting half the things on my shopping lst and getting a migrane from being so upset!! he even had the cheek to tell me that"maybe we could have a relationship a year or so down the line!!!" WHAT AN A$$!! his texts etc will not be entertained now.....4weeks I did fine without him and as soon as hes given an opportunity he screws it up and puts all the stress back on me and bump!!............not fair!! my mams gonna be there for me! FU*K him!! if he can emotionally and physically abuse me and then reject me when carrying something so precious and when Im so vulnerable and he should be taking care of me...then hes not worth it!! WE deserve better!!!...............

Right ok, hmmmm.... let's try and see if we can sort this out then. Well, i suppose isn't it a good thing that he is talking about 'rights' and visiting baby etc? I mean, you do need to discuss that and it's probably best to do it before baby arrived?
Also prob wasn't the best idea to talk about if he cared for you etc, as if he has already said he doesn't want to be with you it will prob be easier for you hun if you don't bring it up again and it's just going to hurt you more every time he says it. I made this mistake with FOB and kept bringing up our 'relationship' to see if maybe he felt differently, but every time he told me he still doesn't want to be with me, it just broke my heart even more, so it's probably a conversation best stayed away from!

If we look on the bright side we could say that maybe he was meeting up with you and buying baby things to maybe try and be civil and get on for baby's sake? He might not be 'sweetening you up' but maybe just trying to do what is best for maybe? so maybe he didn't mean to screw it up, he just wanted to get things sorted and to let you know where you both stand?

But that is looking at the best possible side, of course it could be that he was just doing it to be selfish and an ass like you said, but i wouldn't know without being there lol!! But from what you said i don't see that what he did was all that bad, it might just seem worse to you because you are hurting still and he broke you heart and it will hurt more and more every time you see him xxx