SPD/PGP with a baby/toddler

[Caroline:-)]

Hi all, I'm just looking for some advice/experience from anyone who has coped with SPD/PGP whilst also having to look after a young child. LO is coming up to a year old and we are just starting TTC #2... with my last pregnancy I had awful SPD/PGP, crying in pain every night, barely able to walk by the end, in pain doing everything really... so, I know the chances of me getting it again are increased, and I'm just wondering how other people copes in this situation? It really terrifies me, and sometimes I think I'm being cruel to LO, that he could potentially have a mother who isn't able to do anything with him for 8 months of his little life (last time it started right from just a few weeks). But then the reason I'm doing it is for him really, that I want my kids close in age so they can be closer and have more in common, etc... so anyway, despite my fear I'm going ahead with my all-time plan to have a 2 year gap if possible... but well, I'm scared how I'll cope. I'm scared of LO seeing me crying in pain. I'm scared of LO not understanding why I can't do things with him. I'm scared of missing out on time with LO. Well, you get the idea, lol... I'm lucky in that my mum only lives 10 mins walk away so would be there to help me... But well, I just wondered whether anyone else had been though this and how they coped/are coping and whether they have any advice, etc...
Thanks in advance

N.B. Also posted in pregnancy club and baby club

 

[Firef1y72]

Hi,

I've not just had one toddler while suffering with SPD but at one point had 2 under the age of 4 and was suffering with SPD. This time round I'm 6 weeks gone, with a 2.5yo, and the SPD still hasn't resolved from when I was pregnant with him.

The most important thing is to not push yourself too much, find new ways of doing things and get treatment asap. I've stopped all my painkillers, but have codeine to take if the pain gets too bad. As pregnancy progresses try not to carry the LO too much and certainly not on one hip. If the LO is still in nappies then put them on your bed to change them. Other than that take all the precautions you took in your last pregnancy, stairs one at a time, not opening legs too far, correct way to get into/out car/bed, etc.

Hth

 

[mandaxx]

Hi hun, I don't know how good my advice will be to you, but I have an 11 month old and am 12 weeks gone with third. I had terrible SPD with my 11 month old, and am already feeling horrible pains with this one. Don't really know what to do. Just hoping it will not get bad until at least 6 months xx

 

[lynnikins]

I just gritted my teeth accpeted my limitations and got on with it when it happend to me both times, its about managing it so you are in as little pain as possible