Spending time with FOB

[Blue_star]

My FOB disappeared for two months of my pregnancy and then randomly called me in June to invite me out just out of the blue. He now suddenly talks to me, takes me out to eat movies things like that we live close so we go for walks and that kind of thing. Has anyone experienced this type of thing with FOB? we haven't talked about about our baby who is due next month he just says that he's worried about what kind of dad he is going to be.


I never invite him into the house anymore I make sure that when we spend time together it's out in public or out walking. I'm trying to be very cautious I don't know why he changed his mind about talking to me and moving back into town all he told me is that he had an "epiphany" one day.. He's been working full time for awhile he is only 21 and i'm 22 I don't think he knows truly what it means to raise a baby I don't think he expects that he is going to have to pay child support. This is my first child but I have four brothers and sisters all younger then me I have grown up with babies and toddlers.

I also have help i'm living at my grandparents they have a nice house and 6 bedrooms and a room for the baby so I can get alot of help well I finish University.

I'v asked him to help me out with some things like buying baby supplies car seat, crib that kind of thing because I can't afford it alone and it would only be my parents buying these things for me. I feel it is FOB responsibility to buy alot of these things for the baby I don't want to start a fight with him as everything has been good and I want the baby to arrive that way but when I asked him to join me for shopping for baby things he said that if he's working he won't be able to make it but it's good that I have my maternity leave money to buy everything !!!!!

 

[teal]

I don't think it's fair he can swan in telling you he's worried about what kind of dad he's going to be and then expect you to be providing everything for your baby. It doesn't say much that he can just disappear when he wants and then come back in to your life. At this point he should be offering you support, not saying you can buy everything.

You're right to be cautious because what's to stop him doing this again once your baby arrives. I'm so glad you have your grandparents support and you'll be able to finish uni.

I know I can be quite cynical but I hope you're ok xx