Started spotting day of expected period, still spotting. Opinions? (tmi pic)

[Oasis717]

Hope, Ah that is very hard these days love I have to admit, of course I don't mind, I think possibly with me its my age as never, ever had any problems with fertility til I was 40 when the losses started. Got pregnant first month trying no problems before this then I fell in 2012 and sadly lost my lo at 12 weeks in July, followed by a blighted ovum in September cp at 4 wks in Nov then finally fell with our little rainbow prince now two in Jan 2013, I was absolutely terrified all the way through but this pregnancy was so diff with really strong symptoms. It took til may 2014 to fall again another cp, no symptoms, another cp July 2014 no symtoms again. Then nothing at all until a 6 week loss in Feb this year followed by another devastating 12 week loss in may after two perfect scans at 6.5 and 8.5 weeks, two more cp,s since. I read that by my age 90% of my eggs are chromosomally abnormal, I guess I'm just praying that we might just hit that 10% one month but my faith is def dwindling, I'm so sorry for your losses and I totally understand the fear I'm exactly the same but our lo is proof that miracles do happen. I'm hanging onto that xxx

 

[Oasis717]

I totally know how you feel and I hate the not knowing, I grasp at straws constantly and although I know the spotting I had a full week before AF is due won't be implantation bleeding as at one point it was bright red plus the neg ICS I'm still convincing myself I'm in with a chance, right up until I see full red flow I hope, I really hope your squinter turns into a bfp! Xxx

I've got my fingers crossed, but still just waiting.
I'm getting a little concerned, though.
I do keep getting a cramp on my left side... comes and goes.
I've heard that can be a sign of an ectopic? Especially early on?
But I wonder where exactly the cramp usually is for that.
Because mine is kind of... well. I'll attach a pic I guess.
It's not down low, it's kind of midway up the side.
(Where the circle/dot is on the picture.)

Anyway, so I've gotten this cramp a few times.
It's usually around when I'm ready for bed or getting up.
So I keep thinking it could be tension. My SO rubbed it last night.
He said it felt like a really bad tense muscle. It did ease up.
I'd like to trust his judgment since his dad is a chiropractor.
I would guess they have to determine this stuff regularly at the office.
Buuut.... erring on the side of caution?
Staying neutral about it.
If it hurts worse I'm booking to the ER no questions asked.
But so far it hasn't seemed too alarming.
Just out of the ordinary/something I don't usually have.
(Sleeping like a pretzel probably doesn't help.)

Still haven't had a regular AF. No more spotting either.
Haven't tested again yet. I may hold off until the 9th.
That would be a day after my next AF is due (if 21 days).
In the meantime just trying to take care of myself.

Symptoms lately: fatigue, that cramp in left side,
a burny cramp on both sides once in a while,
slight pressure in pelvic area, very slight nausea,
headaches, and tender breasts.

That about covers it.

I hope you get a bfp soon.
Makes me feel a bit loopy wishing for it with all the negs I got.
But you never know, it could happen for the both of us.

I so hope so. Its such a worry and every little twinge means something in my head! I find it so hard letting go every month and I hate those stark white tests, I'm wishing you SO much luck xxxxxx

 

[Hope16]

Well I wish you the best! I think it's wonderful that you don't give up hope. All it takes is one little miracle. Would you consider IVF? I know it can be quite costly if insurance doesn't cover it, however I believe they retrieve your best eggs which might make be beneficial in your case.

 

[Oasis717]

Thankyou I've come really close to giving up a few times but something always spurs me on. I think I'll know when its time to say enough enough. I hope anyway! Ivf would not be any good for me as in my area they wouldn't use my own eggs anymore. I guess I'll just have to hope for a miracle xx,

 

[Wishu]

Well... starting to experience some spotting again.
This time it's more of a pinkish color.
I'm not sure what is up. Maybe start of late AF?
I guess I'll update if it stays the same/stops/gets heavier.

The only things I've done today:
Made breakfast, retaped my future MIL's toes together (got on/off floor),
carried laundry basket in/out of my room to fold stuff.

I felt a bit of wetness after carrying the basket to the laundry room.
So went to the bathroom and nothing on my pad.
Was wearing one just in case...
But when I wiped I had some pink discharge.
So yea... meh. We'll see where this goes.

 

[Oasis717]

If only we knew I hate not knowing! I looked up ib loads today and the colour is very often pink. I've only ever had it once with my 12 week loss and it was yellow/brown and after my bfp and lasted 5 days! I hope we all get our little miracles xxx

 

[Wishu]

Just an update.
The spotting from yesterday stopped.

Had some cramping in my sides and pelvic area.
Sleeping with a pillow between my knees helped a LOT.
Seriously the best sleep I've had in days.

Nothing going on aside from that.
Think I will still wait until at least the 9th to test again.

I have a very weird theory about what's happening, but we'll see.
Theory is that the spotting from the 18th-21st was from ovulation.
That would be late ovulation on the 22nd day of my cycle.
Probably ovulated from the left side, the side where I've had a cramp.
And I know it's less likely, but implantation - possibly yesterday?
That would make it at 11 dpo. Kind of on the far end.
But I have heard that it's possible.

So if my period doesn't come around on the 8th.
I'll test the next day.

Kind of hard to hold out, but I want to wait and see.
Instead of wasting a ton of hpt's when my next period is so close.

On the other hand, there's the chance that the spotting was -
a light period for 3 days and this pink spotting was ovulation @ 12th day.
All depends on where things go from here I guess.

Either way, it means I need to probably miss my next period. lol
Unless I get to be one of the "lucky" few that still has one the first few months.

 

[Hope16]

I can see why you are so unsure of what's going on. Is your AF due exactly?

 

[Wishu]

I can see why you are so unsure of what's going on. Is your AF due exactly?

Well, that's the thing. I have no idea if it's due or not.
My last actual/undeniable period was 9/27/15.
I stopped taking my BCP starting in July.
I had my normal withdrawal bleed on time with that.
Then the next few cycles were about 21-22 days.
The last cycle, worried me and made me feel bad. 9/11-9/27
Because I had a drink of wine on 9/26 (I shouldn't have).
My period came a full week early, but like a normal period, just shorter.
Now this cycle has seemed longer because...

I had ewcm on around CD 14-16 (10/10-10/12).
I can't tell for sure if what I had after that was a period.
It wasn't heavy, red, and didn't last as long as my periods do.
My expected period for a 21 day cycle was 10/18.
Well, I got some light tan discharge/spotting that evening.
So I figured AF was coming on.
But, over the next few days until 10/21 it was still that spotting.
It never got heavier, I didn't pass any lining, etc.
Then 10/22 I got a cramp on my left side.
Nothing beyond that.

I've taken a few hpt's, all a week+ after first day of the spotting.
Which I thought I saw a faint line on one.
But nobody else saw it so it could've been my imagination.
I had pink spotting yesterday (10/29) about mid-day, and it stopped.
I noticed it after I had been carrying around laundry.
I wasn't thinking, I used my belly to help lift/carry it.
It's hard to carry them to get them through the doorway.
Anyway, so when I took the laundry back to the laundry room.
I felt wet, so I went to check and didn't see anything on my pad.
But when I wiped I saw pink tinged discharge.

Going from if the 18th was a period, only a spotty one.
My next period would be on or around 11/8.
And if it wasn't, then I have no idea when one is due.

 

[Oasis717]

Hope you get answers soon xxx my spotting is back dark brown so am thinking AF in one or two days what a weird cycle! Xx,

 

[Wishu]

Hope you get answers soon xxx my spotting is back dark brown so am thinking AF in one or two days what a weird cycle! Xx,

Well shoot, if it's AF I wish you very good luck next cycle.
I'm starting to think if we stop thinking about everything it might happen.
I've heard that's worked for some women, but it's hard to stop.
You always worry if you're DTD on the right days etc.
Symptom spotting for anything out of the ordinary.
Just... it's a lot to stop thinking about and not easy to ignore.

I hope I do get answers soon too.
I can just tell that something seems different.
Whether that's pregnancy or not, I have no idea.
And to be honest at this point, I'm okay with any answer.
I just want to be sure of what's happening, you know?
I've kept DTD despite everything just in case.
So one way or another, if I caught the eggy in either cycle.
I should be missing my next period.
That's why I'm holding off to test until 11/9.
That would be the day after my "expected" period.

If I still feel weird after that and no period, but negatives.
I'm just going to go to the dr. to rule other issues out.

 

[Oasis717]

Yes there's nothing worse than not knowing I hate it! We haven't been trying as such since my last mc and not managed too fall whereas fell twice in a row at the beginning of the year using opks etc so I think we will go back to making more of an effort as the relaxed approach hasn't worked! AF for me today but I knew tbh. 26 day cycle again. Hoping I'm not going into perimenopause. Thankyou wishing you loads luck too xxxx

 

[Wishu]

Hi Hope and Oasis, I hope that you're both doing alright.
I've been doing okay myself. Just still concerned.
I haven't done any more hpt's yet, still waiting.

I have been spotting off and on, though.
I noticed I spot after I'm more active in the day.
i.e. made dinner (on feet for an hour or two), did laundry, etc.
Even bending down to get pans out of the cabinet does it.
It's mostly been off and on brown, but I've had spots of red too.
I'm planning to stay off my feet as much as I can.
No more carrying groceries for me either.

Hopefully I have a clear answer by the 9th.
And if not, off to the doctor for me.
Fingers crossed that it isn't bad news.

 

[Oasis717]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you love, as I said spotting lasted 5/6 days with my last pregnancy and I'd never had ib before! AF came a day early on sat so CD 3 four me now onwards and upwards! Xx

 

[Wishu]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you love, as I said spotting lasted 5/6 days with my last pregnancy and I'd never had ib before! AF came a day early on sat so CD 3 four me now onwards and upwards! Xx

Thanks for keeping your fingers crossed for me Oasis.
Maybe this cycle will turn out to be better for you.
Hope that you're not cramping much or anything.
I always like to do plenty of R & R when AF is visiting.
I swear I must sleep so much when she's here.

Spotting stopped again.
I really do think it's from active days.
Like anything where I'm lifting or bending.
Because after sleeping it off it stops.

 

[Oasis717]

That's really odd isn't it? I'm excited to see if anything comes of it for you I'm OK worst day for me is cd3 tablets and rest are all I can do, can't go out as always too heavy day 3! Xx

 

[Hope16]

Hi girls- well I'm out this cycle. AF showed up this morning. Really terrible cramping too. I go back Friday for bw & us and to find out what this next month's game plan will be.

I'll still be here rooting for you ladies!

 

[Oasis717]

Aw so sorry I hate the witch! Let's hope she stays away for us all v soon xxx

 

[Wishu]

Good morning!

Is it odd I get on here every day just to see about you two? lol
I'm in the middle of some breakfast.
I made some for my SO, but he was in a hurry for work.
So... now I'm stuck eating his and mine.

I'm thinking there must be something wrong with me.
Maybe I had a very early miscarriage.
I still got a negative hpt yesterday (caved and tested).
I am still going to test on the 9th, though.
I just wonder what is up with the ongoing off/on spotting.
It just keeps stopping and starting.
No cramps or anything else to note.
Just feeling some light nausea.
Not to go into tmi, but nearly got sick from "helping" the SO last night.
That wasn't a pretty thing. He freaked out and I'm like !!! I'm okay! lol
So that was a first for me. I'm not sure what that was about.
I'm abstaining from DTD because I don't want to start spotting more.
Also trying to subtly avoid lifting and/or bending much around the house.

Hopefully I can get in to see the dr. soon after the 9th.
Get all this stuff sorted out and see what's going on.

 

[Oasis717]

No its not odd xx its v nice I wish I could help more, I think I've possibly had a couple!e of really early mc even before the few chemicals I've had as I read recently the egg can implant then fail almost immediately, a couple of times I've had the hint of a line on ICS that's been gone by the next day along with days of spotting, that happened this month around 6 dpo I had two faint but pink lines on ICS but negatives on all tests the day after when the spotting started. If only we had a little window so we could see what's going on! Xxx