Starting to feel a bit sad

[Darlin65]

I was 100% okay with my c-section until recently. I just really miss being pregnant and just feel that it was all over so fast. One min I was pregnant the next I wasn't. I never really got to have that transition from being pregnant to going through labor. I feel like if I would have gone through labor I would be able to be more accepting. I have no clue why it is bothering me all the sudden. I love my baby to death and have bonded with him extremely well. I don't have any problems with that aspect. My c0section wasn't planned at all. I never even started to labor. We went in for them to try and turn him and they couldn't so they went ahead and did the section. I sort of am feeling like I missed out a bit. Not to mention the healing process is a bitch.

 

[hopeforamirac]

totally understand what your saying

its hard to get your head round, mine was an emergency section due to placenta abruption and went downhill very fast i was put to sleep so was out of it for days after and the pain was terrible, its been difficult for me to get through and i still struggle at times but i hope in time it will sort itself out..

sorry ive not really offered advice but wanted you to no your not alone

 

[Peters Pooky]

I feel exactly the same way. Like part of the process was stolen from me. I too was put under like the pp. It's hard missing those first moments that you've been thinking about for 9/10 months. My doctor told me that sometimes we need to allow ourselves time to grieve our "perfect birth." I still get very upset if I think about mine... So what you're feeling is perfectly normal and should heal with time... I just keep reminding myself that Meap is here, healthy and happy. I'm always here to talk if you need to Just fb me xx

 

[Darlin65]

I wasn't even put under. It's not the actual section even I never got to experience labor at all and that's what bothers me. I remember up until a certain point but I ended up passing out in the OR and then waking up in the recovery room trying to bf and a bunch of people in the room. Itwa a big mess. I was happy with it all a 1st because it wasn't near as bad as I expected so was being positive but now kind of makes me sad cuz I know it could have been much better. Hard to be be upset tho because if I had gone into a natural labor he may not have made it because of his heart condition. Might have been too stressful.

 

[Peters Pooky]

Then you need to look at it as a blessing he didn't turn. My doctor told me I was lucky she was breech because she never would have fit through my pelvis and we both could have been seriously hurt. But I understand. I wish I could have had her naturally and now I'll never experience natural childbirth because of my pelvis size

 

[hastbury]

Then you need to look at it as a blessing he didn't turn. My doctor told me I was lucky she was breech because she never would have fit through my pelvis and we both could have been seriously hurt. But I understand. I wish I could have had her naturally and now I'll never experience natural childbirth because of my pelvis size

I was told the same thing - DS wasn't breech but back to back and the MW's said it was a blessing. I was furious at the time that they wouldn't allow me to push any more.

I did find it very strange for the first few days - rather than the pain and soreness I'd expected, I had nothing there but a wound that just didn't compute to being how he came out. I'm still getting my head round it but I am bonding with him now.

I just thought I would feel him come out. It's such a strange thing.

 

[Darlin65]

Then you need to look at it as a blessing he didn't turn. My doctor told me I was lucky she was breech because she never would have fit through my pelvis and we both could have been seriously hurt. But I understand. I wish I could have had her naturally and now I'll never experience natural childbirth because of my pelvis size

I was told the same thing - DS wasn't breech but back to back and the MW's said it was a blessing. I was furious at the time that they wouldn't allow me to push any more.

I did find it very strange for the first few days - rather than the pain and soreness I'd expected, I had nothing there but a wound that just didn't compute to being how he came out. I'm still getting my head round it but I am bonding with him now.

I just thought I would feel him come out. It's such a strange thing.

I didn't even know they had started! I asked DF when they were g2 start and he laughed at me and said they already had. A min later DS was here

 

[Arisa]

Well you need to look at the positives, not being labour is a good thing, you were in no pain or screaming and retching etc and there was no ring of fire or forceps, episiotomy or tearing of the vagina or perineum these are the things I think of anyway as i was a bit down after my emcs even though I wanted a planned C-sec i did not get it due to pre eclampsia but i do not regret for a second missing out on labour, I also had a terrible pregnancy and am so glad its over, i just love having a baby and having her smile at me and cuddling her

 

[Darlin65]

See I was a little different. I had a wonderful pregnancy I loved it. I'm ready to do it all over again just not ready for another baby I also had a natural water birth planned. I knew there would be pain but didn't care. I was just admiring his perfectly rounded head today tho

 

[Arisa]

ah I see, yeah i understand how you would feel disappointed if you had a good pregnancy and had a natural water birth planned. YES my little girls head was perfectly round, not a cut or bruise on it and no moulding so you can look at that positively but i know it wont change how you feel but remember you are still hormonal and feeling up and down with emotions, it will pass

 

[miss cakes]

it sure is a shock to the system just thinking back on the csections ive had one min your laying there chatting to the docs and u can feel tugging but nothing major and i remember laughing at the surgeon who was singing to the radio and the next thing i know theres a cry and your baby is here its just so sudden! i understand its quite hard to get your head around there isnt the same build up you get with a natural but for me all three of my sections were very positive experiences x

 

[Claire300]

I really didn't want a c-section. I had a 3rd degree tear with DS1 and took about 9 months to be pain free, so was advised to have a section this time. It didn't bother me at first, but as the pregnancy progressed I got more and more upset, and agonised over whether to just risk a normal birth. I finally decided to go for the section after a midwife at the local birth centre where I had all of my pre-natal appointments said that if I did decide to have a natural birth, the risk of another tear similar or worse was too great and I wouldn't be able to have my baby there, I'd have to go to hospital in a nearby city so they could be prepared to patch me up!
When I was in hospital the morning of my section, there was a lady in full blown labour in the next room. I got all upset cos I wouldn't get to experience that again (this is most definitely our last baby!). An hour later I was in theatre getting my spinal, in floods of tears because I really didn't want a section. I felt that I was robbing myself of an experience I'd never get back. A nurse calmed me down and assured me it was the right thing to do, and I was ok by the time they started.
Looking back at the experience though, I must say it wasn't as bad as I had expected it to be. A few things occured to me in the days following:
1. My natural birth was very fast, and it took me a while to get my head around the fact that my baby was here, I think I was just so tired as well, all I wanted to do was rest! This time, I just had to lie there and wait for my son to be here, it seemed so much calmer and I found I was so excited to meet him I cried with happiness when he was born, something I didn't do the first time.
2. After my tear I had to go to theatre to get stitched up and basically re-modelled down there. I went an hour after my baby was born and was away for over 2 hours. I hated this, as I was seperated from my newborn son just at the time I felt he needed me most. This time he never left my sight, and I got to spend the precious first few hours cuddling him.
3. Labour hurts like a bitch. Sorry, but it does! Looking back, it's nice to know I didn't have to go through that. Oh, and the section was a lot for dignified. I had a water birth the first time and poo'd in the pool. It floats. Oh the shame!