Stealing someone elses name choice?

[Aphrodite]

We were discussing names yesterday and my brothers on off gf (with whom she has a son) said she has a top girl name that shes not saying cause she doesnt want anyone to steal it! So I said I love the name Lexi for a girl. She looked gutted and said thats the name she wants. I said don't worry, DH doesnt like it anyway. Well, later that night he said he didnt mind it and was 50/50 over it. I was so happy! I can work on him Im sure. Trouble is....Id feel bad about it cause thats the name my bros gf wants. However,they are on and off and she might not have another child with him, and even if she did it might not be a girl anyway.

Would anyone feel bad about doing this???

 

[FayDanielle]

No, personally I wouldnt.
Its not like she mentioned the name first and you used it.

And like you said, they MAY not have another baby together and even if they do it may not be a girl.
And Im sure by that time, she'll have picked another name she likes!!
x

 

[Blah11]

No one owns the name.. she can call her baby lexi too if she likes.

 

[jojo2605]

Agree with other posts, she's not pregnant or even thinking about having a child and even if she did she may not have a girl. You are pregnant and like the name and its not like she said it first and you went 'oh i love that!', you said it first!!

Go for it I say, it's a lovely name

 

[RubyRainbows]

My OH & i had chosen the name Giavana if we have a baby girl someday -- we both absolutely love this name! And then bam! My brother & his GF name their baby Gianna. Which is way too similar, so now we can't use our favorite name!

We were a bit dissappointed... but i wasn't mad bc i knew they didn't "steal our name" since we hadn't told them. It was just a coincidence.

I say if you & hubby both love the name -- go for it!

 

[Aphrodite]

Cool, thanks! I really hope I can talk hubby round on this one cause not only do I love the name, with our surname, I personally think it sounds fantastic-Lexi Lavender. Just need a good middle name. My SIL had May, which is nice, but that would be stealing so I wont use it.

DH is so funny though. I know he doesnt listen to me. Ive suggested Ashton to him for a boy a few times and every time its been 'NO!' 2 nights ago he was looking through the book and said, 'What about Ashton?!!!'

MEN!!!

 

[shayandbump]

I was really gutted when my SIL 'stole' our girl's name. OH mentioned, while they were talking about baby names, that we were thinking of Abigail for a girl and just a few weeks later when their little girl was born we found out she was an Abigail.

I was upset but I got over it. We have a beautiful little Amy and Abigail wouldn't have suited her anyway.

I'd say go for it! It's not like she told you the name.

 

[LoolaBear]

i was gutted when i found out that a so called friend of mine, who i now no longer talk to, changed the name of her baby girl the day she was born to the name i liked after insisting to everyone since her 20 week scan that she was going to be called scarlett, everyone even called her bump scarlett.
then bam the day she was born she announced on facebook, 'would like to welcome the arrival of my baby girl Little Lola Grace, sorry peeps the names changed as we decided it suited her better'. three days before she was born we were sat at her kitchen table and becuase she had already chosen a name i didnt mind discussing names i liked and had in mind for future babies, then she goes and steals the whole thing, i had even chosen the middle name grace and told her i loved Lola Grace.
its not just because of the whole name thing we've fallen out though. i dont think i would have minded so much if it wasnt for the fact that she had already insisted to everyone that she was going to be called scarlett.
if friends or family had names for their children i liked i would still use them as its up to you what name you call your child no one else, you cant help what names you like. i am a bit wary of sharing names i like but wont get too down hearted about things if someones chosen the name ive chosen. it just means we've both got good taste and my mind is constantly changing as well as there are so many pretty or unusal or different names out there to choose from, if your adament that you dont want a certain name becuase it sounds too similar or is the same as someone elses go out and look for a new one and if you cant find one you dont like anywhere near as much as the original one you had then use it as it means you are meant to have that name, thats the way i look at it anyway.
like you said she may never have kids with him again and if she does who says its a girl, if you like the name use it, she didnt tell you she liked the name you were the one who said it out loud.

oh and since the lola thing i have two or three new favs now anyway lol, cant make my mind up. got a fav fav fav boys name just got to try and persuade OH into liking it xx

 

[RubyRainbows]

Lexi Lavender sounds so cute -- although i think i would personally go with a longer version (Alexis, Alexandra, Alexia, Alexa) and then call her "Lexi" for short...

Lexi Elizabeth Lavender
Lexi Paige Lavender
Lexi Peyton Lavender
Lexi Grace Lavender
Lexi Amelia Lavender
Lexi Sophia Lavender

 

[loulou10]

when i found out i was pregnant i said to my SIL that my eldest daughter loved the name Taylor (because of high school musical) and she said im calling my baby that well it was only a name and i wasent to bothered she wasent even pregnant but didnt want to use the name after that im happy with the name i chose and that it was unusale you should call your baby whatever you want hun and dont feel put off like i did.

 

[Jody R]

We have two Lexie's in our family, Dh's brother and my cousin both chose it for their little girls.

So it's not like it's a name she has prior claim to, you said it first when she was being so cagey about it and other people have discovered it too. And she's not even pregnant so she can't place a hold on a name. If she does get pregnant again in the future then she might have gone off the name and you will have given up on a name you love for nothing.

I think Lexi Lavendar sounds really cute and would suggest Lou as a middle name because Lexi-Lou Lavendar just sounds perfect to me.

My cousin already had one little girl and they didn't find out the sex of their second before the birth. Their baby was due three months after Joseph and we hadn't chosen a name or found out the sex either. So when we announced it they said "That's our boy's name!" as it turned out both me and my cousin wanted to use it after our grandad. They said they were still going to use it so I was relieved when they had another girl.

I still vote Lexi Lou Lavendar!

 

[MUMOF5]

Like others have said, you didnt steal it off her, its just coincidence that you both like the same name, she hadnt even told you the name before you said it, and shes not even pregnant yet . Id go for it if you like it. Someone stole me eldest daughters name, I wanted to call her Georgia Rose and a girl I knew was due 2 months before me and I remember having the conversation with her and I stupidly told her what I was calling her, then sure enough her baby was born first and she called her Georgia Rose . That was name stealing in my book as she told me that she didnt have any idea what to call her little girl. xx

 

[Aphrodite]

Thanks so much JodiR and Mumof5 for your suggestions. I DID consider Lexi Lou!! Im more convinced now thats what I want. Only hurdle is DH isnt convinced-he said he's 50/50 but he changes his mind like the weather lol

Ur right tho, it is just a coincidence, and to be fair, I have liked that name for YEARS before she was even on the scene. I wonbt feel bad about using it. PLEASE let DH agree I love the name so much!

Lexi-Lou Lavender!!!!!!!!!

 

[LoolaBear]

bargain with him lol. just say to him if bubs is a girl and she looks like a Lexi-Lou that can be her name and if not then i wont get my heart set on it too much and we can choose something else if she doesnt look like a lexi-lou. thats what i did with my OH and it worked and i got the names i liked hehe he did have a choice in it though as he chose our little mans name x