Hello, ladies. I could really use some advice or support. Something.
My husband, before we were together, had a son with another woman. Sadly, their son passed away from SIDS at 8 months old. It's been about 5 years since then, and every time he cries for his son, I cry with him and for him. I know his pain will never go away. I asked him if he would be okay with having children with me one day, and he said he wanted nothing more.
A few months into our relationship, I did end up getting pregnant. I was overjoyed not only because it was my first pregnancy, but I felt like somehow maybe our baby would help ease his pain over losing his son. He was the happiest I'd ever seen him when I told him I was pregnant. And then I lost our baby at 7 weeks. We were both crushed, but agreed that after we had healed we would try again.
Fast forward 5 months of no luck conceiving. DH asks me out of the blue one day if I'm really sure I want to have a baby. Then he said exactly what I was so afraid he might one day say: "I don't know if I want any more kids. I couldn't handle it if something happened again"
I really want kids with him, but he's obviously not ready anymore. What should I do? How can I help him heal and feel okay about trying again with me?
My husband, before we were together, had a son with another woman. Sadly, their son passed away from SIDS at 8 months old. It's been about 5 years since then, and every time he cries for his son, I cry with him and for him. I know his pain will never go away. I asked him if he would be okay with having children with me one day, and he said he wanted nothing more.
A few months into our relationship, I did end up getting pregnant. I was overjoyed not only because it was my first pregnancy, but I felt like somehow maybe our baby would help ease his pain over losing his son. He was the happiest I'd ever seen him when I told him I was pregnant. And then I lost our baby at 7 weeks. We were both crushed, but agreed that after we had healed we would try again.
Fast forward 5 months of no luck conceiving. DH asks me out of the blue one day if I'm really sure I want to have a baby. Then he said exactly what I was so afraid he might one day say: "I don't know if I want any more kids. I couldn't handle it if something happened again"
I really want kids with him, but he's obviously not ready anymore. What should I do? How can I help him heal and feel okay about trying again with me?
