STILL so scared and no one understands

[Daisypetals]

I'm sorry-I'm not trying to be whiney, but I still get so scared that I'm going to lose this little one. I'm 41, this will be the first baby for me and my husband, and I've had three previous miscarriges. I've had every test and blood work done-every thing is normal for both the baby and me. It's a girl. I'm 15 weeks, but I still get so scared. Then I get scared too that God is going to punish me for a lack of Faith. My friends and hubby say everything is fine, but when I am alone and at night I cry and beg God to protect my baby. Is there anyway to get over this fear? I love and trust Him, and yet am so filled with fear. Does it ever stop? Sorry- I iust think I needed to get some of this out.

 

[Bumblebee24]

Hi Hun didn't want to read and run. You mentioned you've had 3 other losses, if you don't mind me asking but what stage where your previous losses. Maybe this might play apart in your worry.
I can say after being there myself, honestly the worry doesn't ever go away right up until giving birth. It just gets a little easier to cope with. I found that once I started feeling baby move things became a but better but I would constantly be check for babies heartbeat with my Doppler. I even checked it when I was in early labor at home. I just found it so reassuring to know little one was ok. At times I did got a little obsessive & had to tell myself everything's fine STOP checking
Am sure everything will be fine what your feeling is normal just try to stay calm & rest whilst you can't because once little one is here goodness me you don't get any

 

[Topanga053]

I agree with PP. Feeling stronger movement helped a lot, but then I would worry when LO didn't move. I also got a home Doppler and found that reassuring. A lot of the time, like PP, I really just had to force myself not to think about it. I really threw myself into work and other projects and tried to forget that I was pregnant. It did get easier after my gender scan (when they confirmed that everything looked perfect), but I would still have moments of terror. I even refused to post on Facebook when I was being induced because I was terrified that if I talked about it publicly then something would go wrong.

When you've lost a baby, you're obviously going to be scared of losing another one. And I can't even imagine what you're going through w/3 prior losses. What you're feeling is entirely normal. Keep trying different ways to relax and enjoy the pregnancy. Prayers for a continued healthy pregnancy!!!!

 

[StillPraying]

I don't believe God will punish you for a lack of faith. I honestly don't. And I do know how you feel. When my DD was born I was afraid to go to sleep because I was terrified she'd pass away in her sleep and I wouldn't know it's part of being a mom I think, and harder when you've had a loss/losses. I'm 15 weeks today and everyone says "see it's fine you got passed the first tri." I go to an U/S and I'm relieved and so happy that it's all okay, but 2 days later I think "what if when I go back to my next u/s it isn't ok?" It's hard to stay excited. but like a pp said, it gets easier to cope with.

 

[Hopefulk]

I completely understand and am sending you lots of love, hugs and support. You will feel baby start to move soon and that will help (the number of times I held a packet of frozen peas against my bump to get baby to kick me for reassurance was crazy when I was having my dd!)

Also invest in a Doppler and read statistics.

This states that after seeing a heartbeat at 10 weeks, the chance of a successful pregnancy goes up to 99.4%

https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/ultrasound-scans/

I also used to look at every person I passed mans remind myself that they - along with all the other billions of people in the world - are examples of successful pregnancies.

Just a few coping techniques for those difficult moments. But you will always have the difficult moments - like pp, I panicked at 4am because I hadn't hear dd move all night and she's 22.5months now! It's all part of the love you feel as a mummy.xxx

 

[tulip1975]

Please don't beat yourself up. You are a human who has doubts and fears. And that's perfectly ok.