Stolen my thunder!!!

[Belle]

Hi all ,
I dunno if i'm being over sensitive but my OH's sister has just announced she's pregnant and due a week after me!!!!
I feel like she's stolen my thunder and i feel really gutted and angry about it! I dunno why i'm feeling like this as i know i should be happy 4 them. I think i feel cuz i want a girl so much its kinda a race now to see who gets their girl 1st as we both have boys. I can't snap out of it and my OH is a bit annoyed that i've expressed my anger about the situation. Do u think i'm being silly about this? xx

 

[Sparky0207]

I dont think you're being oversensitive at all - Ive just posted a fairly similar thread on the family bit!

My future sister in law has just announced shes pregnant too, 2 months after I announced my special news! I too feel like what should have been a really special time for me and OH has now been somewhat overshadowed by her.

Ive been given some great advice, both on here and by family. I think the best thing to do is try not to let it get to you and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you possibly can - im sure yours and OH's family wont let you feel left out and will give you all the support that you deserve

 

[Ann-Marie]

Aw hun.... it's not over sensitive to feel this way.... and I admire you for admitting to feeling this way. It's still your special time, it just means you have to share some of the attention and excitment. I bet in a few weeks, you'll really appreciate that you can share your pregnancy with someone so close.... and just think how close they'll be as cousins

 

[pocahontas35]

Oh, I know what that is like. Listen, even though she kinda stole your thunder, you still get to have your own experiences and your own fun. Just think about how great it will be to have someone to share all of your pg stuff with (if you are close enough to do that). If you want something of your own, don't tell her about this site!
bren


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[Belle]

haha very true, i'm not sharing all u lot with her!!

 

[Ann-Marie]

bless'ya

 

[Becki77]

Hi,
Ive actuallty been in the same situation as you but ive been the person who 'stole the thunder'!
My sister in law announced she was pregnant afew days after i found out i was expecting however i kept quite so she could enjoy all the attention/ her special time. ( im due 2 weeks before her)
I felt awful telling people that i was expecting because i didnt want to take that special time away from her and my brother however i was feeling gutted that i hadnt spoke up before hand!
Its a horrible situation to be in if you are the second person to announce something like this in your family, maybe she knew she was pregnant before you but kept quite to give you some time to enjoy your news.
Dont be too hard on her, you may feel disappointed but think how she feels too! Hormones can be horrid during pregnancy!
Shes probably just as excited/ disappointed as you that she has to share her good news! xx

 

[Mervs Mum]

I dont think you're silly.

x

 

[m_t_rose]

I dont think your being silly, but she had to tell people sooner or later. It will be nice in the long run because having a cousin close in age to yours will make family get-to-gethers more enjoyable in you LO has someone to play with.

 

[nikky0907]

You're not being silly,and it takes a very honest persone to admit this...

You want these nine moths to be yours and when the baby comes for people to be excited and all worked up over it,and you're afraid that they'll be more excited about her,and that she'll have the first girl...

But remember that your baby is just as big news as hers and that it'll be very cool for them celebrating birthdays together and it's gonna be a very big week for your family!And you have someone to talk to even after the baby is born cause you are in almost the same situation(sons and a baby)...

 

[Dona]

Your not being silly - its pretty normal to feel like this. I agree with the others in that you will be glad that you can share these times with your sis in law. My sister has only just had her baby in December and she's been a life saver with any questions I have as she has just been through it. I can't imagine how much better it will be going through pregnancy with someone else.

 

[Gabi]

I wouldn't say you're being silly. I've done it too. With my last pregnancy. Except people started announcing their pregnancies shortly after I'd m/ced.

Jealousy is a useless emotion that we could all do without yet somehow we all seem to fall back on it more often than advisable.

I'm dreading anyone coming and announcing their pregnancy. I've had my cousin telling me she's going to soon. (In a new relationship, just out of school, seems to think it'll be cool to fall pregnant, is running away from home, all rebellious etc) I have nothing wrong with it at all but it still annoys me a bit when she goes on about it as if the only reason why she wants to fall pregnant is to steal my thunder. It's all pretty silly in the end I suppose.

But we're pregnant! We're allowed to be irrational!

 

[gde78]

I'd feel exactly the same if my SIL announced a pregnancy now. It would be horrible, I would be gutted too. But like the others have said, it might be nice to share stuff and they will amuse each other at family 'do's' which is a good thing!

 

[anita665]

My step sister announced her pregnancy about a month after me and is due 3 weeks after me. I don't see my family that much but she's there every week so obviously she gets a lot more attention than I do but for me personally I don't care. When I was told she was pregnant I was shocked that it had happened for us both so close together but not worried about it. It's good having someone at a similar stage.

She on the other hand does always seem to act like it's a bit of a competition which can annoy me a little. She really relies on my family for support and I'm much more independant but she doesn't seem to understand that. One day I was visiting and every time I'd go to talk to my mum, she would drag her off for a private chat. She talked non stop about her pregnancy but quickly changed the subject if mine came up and even asked my mum to tell me not to talk about it. I'd hardly said anything anyway except reply if someone asked a question.

I hope this doesn't sound too harsh but pregnancy (for me at least) is an experience for you and your partner. It's not about getting attention from other people or being in the spotlight and it doesn't matter what they think.

 

[Belle]

Thanks all!!
I feel so much better about it today and it will be so nice 4 the babies to be so close in age!
I think it was shock yesterday and my hormones playing a big part!!
Thanks 4 all the kind words and advice.xxxxxxxx

 

[bubbles]

Same sorta situation here but completely opposite. I really don't get on with my sis in law so took great pleasure in announcing my pregnancy to my parents in front of her and my bro (I know it sounds harsh) there a a couple of reasons I did it. Firstly they tried to steal my thunder on my wedding day but bragging about how much money they were spending on theirs and how it was going to be bigger and better that ours. Secondly knowing how much I wanted a baby they rubbed it in that she had got pregnant without even trying or particularly wanting a baby and I was jealous for ages. But I know I would feel exactly the same as you if it was the other way round, it's not silly at all it's just human nature

 

[Jules]

My friend is having a baby and is due the day before me. Its actually quite fun, because we can share all our experiences and get advice from one another!

 

[mrscookie]

i would feel the same hun, dont worry.
xxx