MizzPodd
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Hi ladies,
This is for anyone who has had any type of loss. I'm venting because I'm currently 31 weeks on bed rest with crazy complications and tryin to stay stress free! Why is it that everytime you talk to someone and say I'm doing pretty good but please don't mention my loss and try and bring it up.... They still ask questions??? Omg!! Really?! Stop asking about it, stop talking about it after I've asked a million times not to talk about it. And then they proceed to tell me how to cope when I didn't ask or even talk about how I'm grieving and what not! This is why I have been avoiding conversations with ppl because it is like opening a sore wound and poking at it over and over! I understand that ppl are only trying to comfort, but if I say it's better not discussing it or mentioning it everytime we talk and you still do it, what am I supposed to say? I've already expressed these feelings that I don't like it when it is brough up alot because I am coping in my own way, but it goes in one ear and out of the other!!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!! With pre e I do not need to be getting this upset and this is why I told them please don't talk about it something this upsetting to me especially while I'm still at risk for pre term labor!!! I think I will just start avoiding the convos again. I need to get through this pregnancy without more stresses added. Woooh! Okay, I feel better getting this out! But usually I can exercise or something but I'm bed rest and can't move so imagine wanting to explode but having to stay still and calm... Thanks for listening girls! This was just me venting because unless you suffer a loss you can't tell me what is best or how to cope or when and when not to talk about it!
This is for anyone who has had any type of loss. I'm venting because I'm currently 31 weeks on bed rest with crazy complications and tryin to stay stress free! Why is it that everytime you talk to someone and say I'm doing pretty good but please don't mention my loss and try and bring it up.... They still ask questions??? Omg!! Really?! Stop asking about it, stop talking about it after I've asked a million times not to talk about it. And then they proceed to tell me how to cope when I didn't ask or even talk about how I'm grieving and what not! This is why I have been avoiding conversations with ppl because it is like opening a sore wound and poking at it over and over! I understand that ppl are only trying to comfort, but if I say it's better not discussing it or mentioning it everytime we talk and you still do it, what am I supposed to say? I've already expressed these feelings that I don't like it when it is brough up alot because I am coping in my own way, but it goes in one ear and out of the other!!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!! With pre e I do not need to be getting this upset and this is why I told them please don't talk about it something this upsetting to me especially while I'm still at risk for pre term labor!!! I think I will just start avoiding the convos again. I need to get through this pregnancy without more stresses added. Woooh! Okay, I feel better getting this out! But usually I can exercise or something but I'm bed rest and can't move so imagine wanting to explode but having to stay still and calm... Thanks for listening girls! This was just me venting because unless you suffer a loss you can't tell me what is best or how to cope or when and when not to talk about it!
How insensitive of them, if you ask them not to talk about it, they should respect that! x
this is why I posted here because I know you all definitely understand 
