that comment usually comes from the ones who have never tried for a baby or the ones who got their BFP in 2-3 cycles.
noone seems to understand how hard it is when it's been 14 months.
This, this, and thrice this!
I realise everyone interprets their own situation according to their own circumstances, but it's exactly this: personal interpretation. Something that cannot be passed as actual advice, even more so when people tell it with a pseudo-scientific certainty (mommydreamer this by no means refers to you; it's a general rant
).
And to be honest? None of my close friends or relatives ever said that to me. Sure, they did say 'try not to stress', but there was always a very significant 'I know it can be difficult' accompanying it. And that made all the difference in the world. The people that usually say to be 'you're trying too much' are usually the ones that think their opinion is more important than its effect.
I've been trying for eleven months. The first seven months I was absolutely fine. This was an adventure. Did not temp, did not use OPKs, did not take EPO, nothing, nada. I was very, very relaxed indeed. When I reached the 8th cycle mark, I cried my eyes out for two days. I'm better now but I'm also undergoing fertility tests.
Okay, sorry for the rant. But the 'don't stress and it will happen' is my red flag. I've stopped talking to people because of that (I mean about ttc. And I've actually been avoiding them since). It's hurtful, and to be honest, it's very offensive.
It's as if they're accusing us for being
responsible for what we're going through.
No. Sorry. Think before you talk.
