Stress and anxiety

[LollyPop24]

I've just found out I'm pregnant after more than 2 years of trying since my loss. It feels like the last 2 days have been forever and I have 8 weeks to go until my first ultrasound! I'm analysing every twinge, symptom and feeling and I'm so worried about losing this baby too. I can't feel happy or excited, I'm just numb. Please tell me that this will change!? Anyone have any advice about how to stop feeling so stressed?

 

[happynewmom1]

I'm so sorry for the loss you had. I know it's devastating and it must have been so hard trying for so long. Congrats on your current bfp though!!! I think it's just hard.. Part of being a mom is worrying and it starts at the very beginning. I will say I started to relax a little after the point of my latest loss but have been relaxing even more now that I'm feeling kicks and hearing the heartbeat at every appointment. I did have an ultrasound around 8 weeks and even that helped SO much to see baby and the heartbeat. I know a private ultrasound around here ( in the states) can be as low as $40...Maybe you could look in your area and book something private? I wouldn't book anything earlier than 8 weeks just to be sure you'd see baby and heartbeat though seeing baby does have a way of easing the mind. I have seen quite a few people getting doppler which seems to help them. Those are some suggestions but ultimately in the early weeks I had bad cramps and back ache and worried constantly. It's hard but dh encouraged me to take baths, to rest and to try to take care of myself to not stress too much. I had to keep telling myself stress wouldn't help baby and to enjoy every day I knew I had a living baby in me and take it a day at a time. It does get easier.. Hang in there. Congrats again!

 

[Dill]

This is my fifth pregnancy, and will be my first child, so I totally sympathize with the nerves-after-a-loss thing you're going through. It's tough. I was extremely nervous through the first part of my pregnancy, hyper-vigilant about every little thing, terrified I would suffer another loss, and scared that I wouldn't be able to handle it if I did. Seeing the heartbeat after the first ultrasound did a lot to help. After that, I just celebrated every survival milestone -- chances of loss drop significantly once you have a viable heartbeat, and again at x months, and then survival becomes possible at xy months. I had the Panorama blood test done to make sure there were no issues that could affect his survival in and out of the womb, and while the wait on that was brutal (albeit short), getting those "you've got nothing to worry about!" results saved me so much worry! And once I could start feeling him kick, it really settled into my brain that he was here to stay. It's been much easier for me ever since. Hang in there!