Stressed and Pregnant

[AubreyDavis]

I recently found out im pregnant again for the second time. After having a MC back on mothers day im very nervous and stressed with this pregnancy. Every ache and pain that I feel makes me freak out and im going to the bathroom constantly to check if theirs anything wrong (like brown or bloody discharge)

I know feeling this way during a pregnancy isnt good for me or the baby but i dont know what to do to try and keep myself calm. I decided not to tell my family this time around just in case something goes wrong. My boyfriend is gone for work 2 weeks at a time so i feel very alone

Ive been wanting this for so long and im so scared its going to be taken away from me again. I try to stay away from the internet as much as I can so i dont read anything that will put me more into a panic than i already am!

Is anyone else feeling this way? I need support !!!

 

[ctimi16]

Hi,
First, congratulations on your pregnancy I am very happy for you, it's such a great thing after all.
I am very much in the same boat as you are. I had a mmc last year and now I'm pregnant again. I am 11 weeks right now which I have no idea how I got to, it seems forever since I got my BFP last month. I've been acting quite crazy...going to the bathroom constatly to check for bad signs, poking my breasts to see if they hurt, being happy when I throw up and sad when symptoms disappeared. I went in for an extra scan, bought a home doppler...and I'm still stressed. I don't want to tell anyone except my husband and parents because I feel very uncomfortable with sharing the news.
I'm sorry I cannot be of more help, I have no anti-stress recipe but you are really not alone. I try to take it one day at the time and not think of 9 months which is incomprehensible right now.

 

[AubreyDavis]

I'm only just beginning. I've known I've been pregnant for 4 days now and each day is just as hard as the day before. I'm trying to be happy but it just seems so tough. I try not to think about the 9 month mark. I'm just trying my best to get to 13 weeks.

I don't have sore breasts but I'm having a lot of heart burn and feeling really run down. I wake up in the early morning starving and feeling sick. But I've never puked. When did you symptoms really start??

I get nervous that my lack of symptoms aren't a good sign people told me before that the more morning sickness you have the better chances of a healthy pregnancy. Is that even true?

 

[ctimi16]

I didn't have symptoms when I got my BFP just sore breasts like before getting my period. Then, quite gradually they started showing up after around week 6. At first just loss of appetite and fatigue then downright throwing up almost every other day. Now I have days when everything's fine and days when I throw up water. I read that too, about morning sickness, not sure if it's true. I try to think about getting to 13-14 weeks but even that is far away. I feel quite powerless and sometimes depressed because I cannot really sit back and relax. Every day is hard but time somehow passes regardless of my worrying.

 

[AubreyDavis]

I'm sorry so I totally forgot.... Congradulations on your pregnancy!!!

Feeling powerless is the worst part! Not being able to control anything besides eating healthy and taking vitamins. Right now that's all I can do and hope for the best. I'm not even enjoying being pregnant right now. Its so nice when the day Is finally over cause that's one less day to worry about. I wish there was an easier way to get through but I doubt my worry will ever stop.

I'm still very new to this site and don't understand a lot of the abbreviated words lol. What's BFP?

 

[croydongirl]

So sorry that you are feeling stressed. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
How far along were you when you had your m/c the first time? I know how terrible that can be. I had 5 before this one stuck.

Having one m/c is so sad, but it is also so, so common and most women go on to have no problems in their subsequent pregnancies at all.

I will say that the early days of pregnancy after a loss are super stressful but there is sadly not much you can do. Finding support on here is a great place to ask questions and find reassurance.
I hope that I can offer some of that by saying that in the early weeks of pregnancy feeling period type cramps is totally normal and even light spotting can be too. I was sure that my period was coming with this pregnancy but it was just my body stretching out and making room for this little peanut. You will feel tired and a little'off'. Some women feel fine through the whole pregnancy. For me I was never actually sick, but I felt super nauseous from about 6 or 7 weeks until aout 9 or 10 weeks, and by 12 that feeling was gone. I was always hungry but felt sick at the same time. I tried to eat when I felt hungry and found green apples settled my stomach. I also drank a lot of fizzy water which helped.

I was tired from the beginning too but I never really had sore boobs ever.

I wanted to share some of the symptoms just to reassure you that each pregnancy can look a bit different. Just because you are having a symptom or not having one shouldn't worry you.

The only time to worry is if yo have heavy bleeding or if your cramping gets really bad. My doc told me if the cramps don't get worse then you can relax. I thought my cramps were stronger than the "mild" ones everyone says are normal but they never got worse or stronger so I felt a bit more confident.

When will you go to the docs for blood work? Sometimes seeing that hcg hormone level rising can be very reassuring.

Try to get rest, and try to believe this will work out for the best. Its so true what you said that you have no control, so I felt as though I might as well enjoy it and assume it was going to be good because either way there was nothing I could do and either way and feeling sad wasn't going to change the ending.

Also, BFP means big fat positive, and people use it to mean when they pee on a stick and get a positive (BFN is big fat negative)
PAL is pregnant after loss (PARL is pregnant after recurrent loss)

It took a while for me to pick up all the acronyms too - feel free to ask for any more you are confused about!

Wishing you every success in this pregnancy.

 

[AubreyDavis]

I was 7.3 weeks when I lost my first pregnancy on mothers day of this year. Doctors said I had very low hcg levels, 500. So they assumed I lost it a while back but it didn't show till then. I'm trying my best to stay positive and enjoy everything but it hard sometimes. Where I live the doctors won't see you till your 9 weeks and then they go and schedule your blood work right after and first ultrasound at 12 weeks. I hate our medical system here! So my first appointment isn't till August 21st.

And thanks. Its nice to hear other people opinions and that all symptoms can be different I feel a little sick sometimes but never enough that I actually throw up. I have heartburn all the time! And I really don't feel like my normal self. I seem to not be able to eat much in the mornings but once lunch time comes around I can't seem to eat enough lol. Then again at night I feel a little ill and don't want much to eat. Its weird lol. I get very sleepy as well and seem to be getting headaches a lot! So I guess in a way I have quite the normal symptoms just not sore breasts or throwing up.

And congradulations on your pregnancy! I can't wait till I'm as far along as you are!
What are you naming your baby boy?

 

[croydongirl]

We still haven't picked a name, we have a few that we like but at this point I think we will wait until he is here.

I was able to get blood work done right away and had scans every week from 6 weeks because of all our losses - BUT if everything is looking normal which it sounds like it is for you then I am sure your 12 weeks scan will be amazing! It will seem like forever to wait, but I am relly hoping it passes quickly for you.

My ms (morning sickness) was much worse after about 3 or 4pm. I was fine in the mornings. I was told to try travel sickness bands that you wear on you wrists, they push a pressure point which can ease some of the nausea. They don't work for everyone but they helped me a bit so I wanted to pass on the tip.

Fingers crossed for you. Have you booked your appointment so you have date to count down to, even if it's far away?

 

[AubreyDavis]

The only appointment I can book is with my OB. She schedules everything else like ultrasounds and blood work.

My countdown right now is for august 21st for my first appointment! hopefully it won't seem to long to get to that.

Its better to have some names then once you meet him you'll know which one suits him best! I've already picked out names from the first pregnancy lol so I still have those stuck in my head

 

[baileybubs]

Hi there aubrey!

I am in the exact same boat as you (as you can see from my ticker). I lost my baby at 12 weeks in march and today I found out I am pregnant again!! I am so excited and so scared at the same time but I love believing in PMA (positive mental attitude). If you can believe it it will happen!!

And croydon girl is right, every woman and every pregnancy is different. So don't panic about symptoms or lack of. My mum never had ms or much in the way of symptoms but never had a mc whereas I was a bundle of symptoms and I did. I also never had ms either though so FX'd it's not a bad sign, its just a sign of a strong stomach! Plus I am only 12dpo (12 days after I would have conceived, or days past ovulation) and I've already got 2 positive pregnancy tests so I know my hcg is high and hcg is what they think causes ms.

Sorry I'm a rambler!! But if you ever need any reassurance or a chat I am always on here willing! We can help each other through!

 

[AubreyDavis]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss must of been so hard being 12 weeks and all. Although I don't think its ever easy no matter what point you are in your pregnancy.

Congrats on being pregnant again! Its so exciting but nerve wrecking at the same time. Its nice to have someone to talk with while I'm pregnant. Especially when were around the same stage.

My name Is actually stephanie lol. Aubrey is the name I picked if I have a girl, and davis is the name if I have a boy

Yesterday I had a bad day I had some cramping last night and starting freaking out. But after sleeping ( not well) I woke up this morning feeling slightly better! I just can't wait till I can go to the doctors and see how everything is going so far. I'm hoping it'll put my mind at ease a little

 

[baileybubs]

Lol my name isn't bailey either, thats my dogs name my name is siobhan. Nice to meet you Stephanie!

And it is so hard not knowing whether it's all going well! I live in the uk and they don't give you any special treatment or tests or anything if youve had a mc, or even 2, you have to have had 3 before they do anything to help!! So my first scan won't be until 12 weeks again and I am dreading it slightly because last time I saw my baby but she had died just a few days before apparently.

But that won't be happening this time! This is my little sticky hobbit! (me and my oh are only 5 foot 3 lol, so we are small and our baby will be teeny like a hobbit lol)

Keep the faith and we will be fine. And don't worry about cramps. They are perfectly normal, as long as they don't get worse or are excruciating then it's normal coz it's just the uterus stretching they say.

 

[AubreyDavis]

Its the same way here. They won't do anything special unless you've had 3 MC which I think is mental!

That's so cute hobbit ! Lol right now we just call our baby our little sesame seed lol since that around how big it is

Yes I know cramps are a normal part. But every ache and pain still freaks me out lol I'm a basket case!

 

[baileybubs]

We can be basket cases together!! I keep thinking I'm gonna start bleeding and it will be a chemical pregnancy! It's such a shame that I can't just enjoy it!

 

[AubreyDavis]

I'm the same way. I keep rushing to the bathrrom double checking. I wish there was a way I could calm down but I guess just taking it day by day is my only option.

We can work through it together lol

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah each day as it comes! We will get through. What's your edd?

 

[AubreyDavis]

I believe it would be april 2nd

 

[baileybubs]

Mines April 9th if you go by my ovulation date but April 2nd if I go by my LMP, April 9th is more likely but that depends if I got my ovulation date right x

 

[AubreyDavis]

That just going off of what I think based on my last period. It may be different but ill let the doctors figure that out

 

[baileybubs]

I've just read up and apparently your edd is just based on you LMP so mine will be April 2nd too, was your LMP 26tj June like mine then?