Struggling and need advice

[Welshcob]

Thank you everyone who replied to my last thread about BF not communicating. Well its now been around 5 weeks since we found out we were expecting and I have not heard anything from him except my very failed visit when I tried to sit him down and talk things through. That meeting ended disasterously with him just turning me away and refusing to discuss anything. I flipped out - which I have to put down to being ignored for three weeks prior and then having to run around the houses at his beck and call only to find he then just blanked me and said get out!
Since then I have invited him to the first scan and no response and I have sent a couple of texts - no response. I haven't contacted him in 5 days now as you suggested and I am finding it so hard. My family will be totally unsupportive - I have told my sister and she is my best bet and yet that did not go well. I am feeling totally alone and wonder why he is shutting me out, I really feel he hates me and its turned just like that! Or.... it was all a lie when he was telling me how much he loved me and wanted a baby? I so need him and so does this baby. But I need your advice. Should I not contact him now? should I invite him to the 12 week Scan? I just find it utterly incomprehensible - but I know its not the first time he has done this. He has no ability to feel for others and so I know hes not thinking about me at this time. What should I do? Also if I know hes not going to be around then when I tell my family I will have to tell them that the father was a donor and anonymous because they absolutely hate him and therefore I and the baby will suffer all the more - if anyone can advise how to handle that I really would appreciate it. I had just thought about saying that the father was someone they don't know and who does not want the baby - but it hasn't gone that way telling my sister- I out and out lied and feel awful! She interrogated me and said it better not be "that mans". So I said it was an anonymous donor. Yuck, I´'m not happy about that and have to fix it in some way. I think this is also putting pressure on me to know what BF is thinking and wants to do as I need to tell folks in the next three weeks or so. Any help at all!!!! Please! I would be so grateful! I feel such a mess and a fraud

 

[Amy-Lea]

I know a girl who lied about her babies dad to her family for the same reasons and she is racked with guilt! He is now 1 years of age and every day she is tryna figure out how to tell her parents who the dad is. I think you're best off telling them the truth, it will hurt a lot less now than if they found out in the future. As the rest of your situation goes I dont know what to say except good luck and i hope things work out!

 

[Welshcob]

I have resolved to take your advice and tell the truth. I'll face the consequences of my family after!