Struggling to cope

[pinkgem100]

I have got my 12 week scan a week on Tuesday and I am terrified, I just keep getting this horrible feeling that I am going to go in to the scan room and there is going to be no heart beat like with my last I don’t know how I am going to get through the next week, I keep breaking down. I knew this pregnancy was going to be hard and I haven’t even go to the point where I lost my last but I am so scared.

 

[banana1975]

What you are feeling is completely normal, and that is why we are all on here together, trying to cope with the endless worry and stress of our pregnancies after loss. Hang in there, because as my sister told me...constant worry isn't going to change what is meant to be...good or bad, it's really out of our hands....I will pray for a wonderful u/s and a strong beating heart for your baby...

 

[dakron67]

my heart goes out to you hun, wishing you all the luck in the world, im sure all will be ok...xxx

 

[Smiler13]

Hi pinkgem, completely understand, felt exactly the same way, my scan went really well and even then it has been hard to stop worrying!

Just do whatever you can to keep going until the day - I like to watch and read trashy, light-hearted stuff, wander round shops, concentrate on work, anything that passes the time.

Best wishes for your scan.

 

[eckarta]

i feel for you all!! we lost our angel at 6w4d and so i never got to see a heartbeat or anything like that... when we went for our first appt i thought for sure there would just be an empty uterus.. a big black nothing on the ultrasound... first thing we saw when she put the thing on my belly was a big black nothing... she held it there for a while and then asked me if my bladder was full (in the meantime im not breathing!!) and i said yes and she said yeah it looks that way.. and i was like so that big black thing is my BLADDER?? yep and she said the baby is just over here to the side of it and she moved it over and we saw it!!!! our baby!! so i know the feeling of dread... just try to keep as positive as you can..

 

[Mrs Doddy]

I know EXACTLY how you feel and am a mess myself, my scan is this thursday and im feeling really down - can't seem to pick myself up and be positive.

I wish there was something I could say to comfort you

 

[millwallrose4]

I too know how you are feeling. I've got my scan tomorrow and have been looking forward to it/dreading it for weeks. Luckily enough I have a doppler and I've been listening to the heartbeat every day for the last week - it is the only thing that has kept me sane because I was going crazy worrying about it. I really hope everything is ok for your scan (and yours Mrs Doddy).

 

[Mrs Doddy]

I too know how you are feeling. I've got my scan tomorrow and have been looking forward to it/dreading it for weeks. Luckily enough I have a doppler and I've been listening to the heartbeat every day for the last week - it is the only thing that has kept me sane because I was going crazy worrying about it. I really hope everything is ok for your scan (and yours Mrs Doddy).

Thanks sweetie, and you, you are lucky to have the doppler and that it has worked I hear so may stories to say that you cant hear anything at this stage, I will looking into getting one at the end of the month - I think for me that would be a good thing to have to ease my mind

 

[lottie7]

Wishing you all the best for your scan. I'm sure you're little baby is just fine.

xx