Stupid Car Ad made me upset

[owo]

I really thought that i was doing ok now. Upset that i miscarried, but optomistic for the future. i hadn't cried for over a week. Then a stupid car ad, i think it was Renault came on the TV last night with the opening words "You're going to be a dad" and then the guy paints the garage blue for his new beloved car.
It just got to me, as i was sitting on the sofa with DH and i really wish i could say that to him. I know that we're not even trying yet as we waiting for first AF. It just made me feel a failure. I know that it wasn't in any way my fault that i miscarried, but i can't help feeling useless.
Thanks for reading.
xx

 

[Happyabi]

Aww hun
I also saw that Ad and its quite heart breaking isnt it - I did have a little lump in my throat!

I had a traumatic week die to my bro and wife having a baby on Tuesday - everyone was happy adn I was then went upstairs and sobbed my eyes out for an hour - felt terribly selfish but its only natural I guess...

Being on here really helps cos you are nt alone with your feelings

Abi xx

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh sweetie, you are by far a failure.

5 months on and I had a little cry a couple of days ago. I thought to myself if I hadnt picked up that heavy box, things may have been different.

Take care lovely

 

[owo]

Aww hun
I also saw that Ad and its quite heart breaking isnt it - I did have a little lump in my throat!

I had a traumatic week die to my bro and wife having a baby on Tuesday - everyone was happy adn I was then went upstairs and sobbed my eyes out for an hour - felt terribly selfish but its only natural I guess...

Being on here really helps cos you are nt alone with your feelings

Abi xx

Sorry to hear about your traumatic week. Is it just me or is everywhere you go there are babies and pregnant women. Maybe I just notice it more now.
I guess it is only natural that we are jaelous by other people's baby success. Trouble is those Maternal instincts are tough to ignore.
i love that i have you girls to chat with. Makes me feel like I'm not as daft as i feel.

Take Care hun
Chris
x

 

[NikiJJones]

Owo,
So sorry to hear that you're feeling rotten again. I think it will come and go. I went on a walk with my Mum yesterday to clear my head, and saw a couple playing with their baby on the beach. I was just beside myself. Sobbed for ages. I think we will have good days and bad days, and things will set us right back to square one every now and then. Thinking of you and sending .

Happyabi,
Poor you! My three best friends are all expecting in August, Sept and Oct. I am already dreading how I will cope. I love them all dearly, and they have been so kind to me about my MC, but deep down I am so jealous of them and their pregnancies, and feeling so guilty and for feeling like that. It must be so hard for you.
Don't feel selfish. You need to grieve for your loss.
Sending you .

xxxx

 

[Happyabi]

Thanks Niki
Just so reassuring cos i did feel so guilty as I was happy but then being selfish about mysel - But it was only 5 weeks ago and its hardly ages ago. Still you think you are getting over it and bless them they probably didnt even think of what i had been through as they were so over the moon and my mum was crying cos she was so happy as its her first granddaughter ( I have 2 boys and my bro already has a boy)...

See theres already 3 of us here that have our little sobs (well in my case it was a huge one!) and its so great we can talk about it instead of bottling it up !!

Abi xx

 

[Gizz]

I'm really moved by your post... I wish I had the right words to make you feel better!

I send you lots of

 

[GemGems]

I'm so sorry you're having a bad time at the minute. Things do get better, trust me.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Sorry to hear you feel so down hun

 

[tillymum]

It's 4 weeks since Erpc and 5 weeks since I found out and tbh most of the time i'm fine, but some things just set me off. I go for a walk in the park everyday and 2 weeks ago I had to run home to cry as there were babies and pregnant women everywhere and I just missed being pregnant and had to cry about he unfairness of it all.

I cried last week when a friend sent me photos of her new baby which really surprised me as 2 days before I held my cousins 2 month old, yet I'm avoiding meeting another friend because she has a new born and I'm worried in case I get teary eyed.

Though it's funny when the add you mentioned came on the tv the other day my DH looked at me nervously in a sort of oh god will she cry or comfoting I'm a supportive husband look, which just made me laugh cos he looked so funny!

 

[Mynxie]

sending you a huge hug - people in advertising, most of them are gormless anyway and don't think .... and usually the worst ads are the ones that get through

thinking of you, i know how awful it is when something comes along unexpectedly and makes u feel so upset