Success stories anyone?

[lilmisscaviar]

I'm not really sure where to put this so I thought I would try here. I apologize ahead of time for the long post.

As some background history, I have had five pregnancies. My first two resulted in live births. My third ended in D&C in October 2014. I became pregnant with my fourth in January 2015 but ended up having another D&C late in February due to MMC at 7/8 weeks. My fifth I became pregnant with in April. I found out the baby had no heartbeat at 6/7 weeks gestation but this time I decided to let nature take its course after having the two D&Cs and miscarried naturally on July 12th.

Tests revealed nothing abnormal. My periods came back like clockwork after my last MC. I've had two periods since then, my first one came at exactly 21 days after I stopped my MC bleeding and was really light. It only lasted 3 days and I barely had any cramps. My next period was a day late and was a real doozy. It was super heavy for five days with lots of bleeding, cramping, nausea (something I almost never get with my periods) and bad headaches. I'm kind of wanting to get pregnant right away, especially after a period like that, but I'm not sure if I'm giving myself time to heal. I'm so afraid my cervix in incompatible from the D&Cs and will start dilating before baby is ready.

When I ask my midwife the question of when is a good time, she always tells me "when you feel you are ready". How do I know when that is? I go through this period after every loss I've had where I absolutely cannot stand seeing big families or babies on Facebook or even knowing that one of my friends is preggers. I can't even go on these forums. Everyone I start making friends with in the first trimester I end up having to say goodbye to as I find myself in the miscarriage support group while they work their way into the second tri. Even going to the store makes me envy every pregnant woman I see and I end up coming out of the store in tears. It is pretty pathetic, especially given the fact that I already have two children, but I've always wanted a big family and two of the same gender. Then I get to this point of acceptance where I start thinking about the future rather than the past. Things begin to lighten and I start getting baby happy again.

So I guess what I'm really looking for is thoughts on how long I should wait to TTC? Also if anyone who has had multiple losses has any success stories if they've ended up pregnant with a healthy baby? How long did you wait to get pregnant? Did you have to do anything special, like take extra folic acid or hormones? All stories and thoughts would be much appreciated

 

[Dill]

I'm so very sorry for your loss! I can understand the point of frustration that you're at right now. It can be very difficult to cope with.

I am currently pregnant (so far, so good -- I'm in the home stretch!) and it is my 5th pregnancy ... and will be my first child. I've had 4 losses, one of which was a double MC that required a D&C. My two most recent MCs occurred within a 5-month span ... I was pregnant in June, experienced a loss in August, had the D&C in September, conceived again in December and lost it in January, then came up positive yet again in February and am expecting in November. It's been quite the rollercoaster!

The doctor who performed the D&C recommended waiting at least 3 cycles before TTC. My nurse recommended 1 cycle. I do feel I conceived too quickly after my August loss; it took FOREVER for my count to drop to 0, and my first cycle afterward was barely a cycle at all, and so I don't think my body had really recovered before I became pregnant again.

Ultimately, I'd say to just listen to your body. If your cycles seem normal and you think you have physically recovered and are emotionally ready to try again, go for it! If you feel that you could benefit from a longer recovery period, then let your body rest and allow yourself to mourn your losses.

It's different for everyone.

Hang in there -- your rainbow will happen.