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[SophiasMummy]

Im sure your all sick of my posts about FOB by now but I need to rant, he asked me if he could come to her jabs today, after I had to cancel going shopping with him to get her late birthday presents from him because her jabs were on the same day. Well woke up this morning and he text me canceling again, I dont know why I even believed him and trusted that he would come down I was so excited for someone else to be coming with me while she had her jabs as every other time it was just me and LO. Now im so angry with him everyone told me he would cancel but I hoped so much he wouldnt I couldve so used the extra support from him today with LO, plus he was meant to be bringing money for her so I could buy her some stuff, so I know we will never see that money now. Arrgh I feel like such a mug for wanting to believe he was changing and taking real interest and he has the cheek to say hes caught a bug so cant come down (this is always his excuse) he is such a lier! I really hate him, he said he wants to come down next friday instead now and I really feel like saying no thats how much I hate him right now! I just want to cry but know ive gota be strong for sophia esp today with her 1 years jabs this afternoon

 

[Rhio92]

He's an areshole! x

 

[jessrabbit]

Agree with above, take it he didnt show up at the birthday party in the end then? x

 

[bumphenders]

If he keeps cancelling on you and LO and not showing up, tell him, you'll give him one more chance and thats it...

Its not so much of a bad thing for LO atm, but when she is older, and she is waiting for her daddy to come and see her and he doesn't, she will be disappointed and upset everytime.

He obviously doesn't realise how much of a good thing he has right now!

Hope you sort something out

 

[Laura2919]

If he keeps cancelling on you and LO and not showing up, tell him, you'll give him one more chance and thats it...

Its not so much of a bad thing for LO atm, but when she is older, and she is waiting for her daddy to come and see her and he doesn't, she will be disappointed and upset everytime.

He obviously doesn't realise how much of a good thing he has right now!

Hope you sort something out

I think its past the stage of giving him another chance personally. How many times is it now he has let you and your LO down.
Just tell him to bugger off, you can do without him letting you down all the time..

 

[bumphenders]

I'm not aware of the full story, I just know from reading that, that he has cancelled on her... If it has been a lot, then stop him seeing her...

 

[xSophieBx]

Oh hun his a prick and doesn't deserve these chances or your tears. You've brought Sophia up for the last year on your own and done a fantastic job and you will continue to do so... You don't need his help... his a tosser and hopefully one day he'll wake up, grow up and really regret what his missed out on. I would say no to him personally... or if u don't wanna make it so final(I know how keen u r on getting him involved) just say your busy that day and will have to be another day so he knows your not there for his beck n call!

Have u been to CSA? xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

Thanks girls, im going to tell him he has 1 last chance now and thats it, I know he doesnt deserve a last chance but this is definiatly the last one, I havent been to csa yet but after he let us down today im going to speak to citizens advice about csa on monday as hes never bought her even 1 present or given me any money for her and I just cant be nice to him anymore, when he doesnt deserve it. Im so glad sophias not old enough to know whats going on, I wont allow this to happen when shes old enough to understand its not fair on a child for that to happen. we didnt need him today anyway she was good as gold for her injections only cried a little bit then cheered up completly after some chocolate buttons lol, and even the nurse said sophia doesnt need a man like him in her life lol xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

Agree with above, take it he didnt show up at the birthday party in the end then? x

He showed up 2 days before her birthday with his sister, his sister had a card and present for her and he just brought a card saying he has no money x

 

[xSophieBx]

Don't waste time going to cab about csa, just ring them up and start the process of your claim.. u do it all over the phone... do u know his address? Where he works? will help loads if u do. Get the claim in now as CSA take ages as it is... should of done it when she was born and he would of had to have back dated to then... they can only back date to when u make the claim though. xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

Don't waste time going to cab about csa, just ring them up and start the process of your claim.. u do it all over the phone... do u know his address? Where he works? will help loads if u do. Get the claim in now as CSA take ages as it is... should of done it when she was born and he would of had to have back dated to then... they can only back date to when u make the claim though. xx

I tried finding a phone number for csa ages ago but couldnt find one hence why I was going to cab about it, will have a look for a number again when I have access to a computer over the weekend. Unfortuniatly I dont know his address or where he works so it will take ages to go through but ive managed this long without anything from him so dont mind waiting a while for csa to sort it out, I just want to hit him where it hurts and give my LO the extra things she deserves that I cant afford by myself xx

 

[xSophieBx]

Here u go hun found this on directgov and says general enquires 08457 133 133. So start with the number on there and they'll direct u to where u need to ring.

Is there noway u can sneakly get that info out of him without him realizing what u want it for? U just need his address...

Exactly thats how I look at CSA now as I'm still not getting maintenance... they will back date it to when u make the claim though but I have heard its hard getting the back payments... xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

He lives with his gf but wont admit it so no way I can get the address if I asked his family they would tell him I was going to try get money off him, all they ever say when ive asked him for money for her is 'oh but he doesnt have any money but he loves her so much so money doesnt matter' they are all deluded I swear, yet he manages to buy takeaways 4 times a week for him and his gf, paid to have all the locks changed for his gf as he lost the keys etc. Oh and pays to get to football everyweek and has just bought new footie boots. He's such a waste of space if I mention money now he either changes the subject or ignores me xx

 

[xSophieBx]

Ugh Sounds like someone else I know which is the reason I went to CSA!!

What a total waste of space... & him and his family sound very deluded!! A 'man' that loves his daughter 'so very much' would bloody well walk over hot coals to provide for her!!

Apply for CSA, don't let them fob u off about not being able to find him if u have no info as they can... the first time I rang up they told me if I had no info there was nothing they can do.. rang up again and the person said he doesn't know why I was told that... So make sure u chase them up and log everything. You will get money eventually but like u said u've lived without it this long...

 

[SophiasMummy]

Yeh thanks for that number hun will get on to them as soon as possible, I know they can do it with just a phone number, name and dob all of which I know, so hopefully they wont try telling me they cant x