Taking out ttc stress on OH

[Ragnhild]

Hi ladies,
Lots of similar threads exist already but I wanted to start a new one that doesn't go off course or get sidetracked - one of the biggest challenges I'm facing ttc is that I vent all my frustrations and stress on OH. Everything is fine until cd 13 or so. Then once that OPK turns to smiley face, I'm constantly stressing and obsessing over every little detail. Even abou things totally unrelated to ttc.
I think part of it comes from my controlling personality - getting pg being something totally out of my control has me trying to micromanage everything else. unfortunately it means either dh becomes the target or caught in the crosshairs. He's been very patient and supportive so far but there's only so much everyone can take. So I'm just looking for any advice, coping strategies, stress busters etc. The stress of ttc is bad enough - I don't want this to ruin my relationship too.

 

[cutestuff]

Can you journal or talk to a close friend? I know I'd get pissed with dh while TTC but it was almost always about timing and sex not other stuff so I'm not one to talk but I found if I started literally talking to myself about my feelings and not him it helped . and I still sucked. If I could do it again I would fi d someone I could talk to outside our marriage and dump on them. I would also seek counseling for some of my more self destructive behaviors cause once your pregnant or looking at the baby you tried so hard to get there is no more control in your life still learning how to cope with that life lesson