SarahBear
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Things have been off in our house for a while now with multiple rounds of sickness sweeping through the house and I don't know if that has anything to do with it, but Violet has been just awful lately!
Not awful all the time, but she goes through these absolutely wretched screaming tantrums. The most recent one was at bedtime this evening. Leo got to bed early because he wasn't feeling great and I didn't want to brush her teeth too early, so we were reading a book with short stories and math problems in it She was great and we were enjoying each others company. I didn't want to brush her teeth too early because she's on antibiotics and her morning dose was a bit late, so I didn't want to do the medicine too early and I wanted to brush her teeth after the medicine. Well, she wanted something to eat after the medicine. I let her know her options. She didn't like her options. So she had a tantrum over that. Eventually she gave in and let me do the medicine and had one of the options I had previously offered. Then it was time for stories. She had a screaming tantrum because we didn't have the book she wanted - I don't think it even exists. Since she spent so much time screaming about the medicine and the story that doesn't exist, I told her we were out of time for stories and we just needed to get her teeth brushed. I usually let her watch youtube while brushing her teeth. Well, she wasn't cooperating with teeth brushing and when I tried to get the video set up, she was saying no to it. So I put the computer away and told her she still needed her teeth brushed before going to bed. So she absolutely REFUSED to let me brush them. I didn't want her falling asleep without her teeth brushed, so I brought her into the hallway (she was in her bedroom). Eventually we ended up in the kitchen to keep her from curling up on the floor and going to sleep without her teeth being brushed. Geez, I feel like I was using torture techniques, but the kid just wouldn't crack! Eventually, after 45-60 minutes of refusing to have her teeth brushed, she FINALLY cracked and let me. They weren't done well, but they were done and she went to bed. I gave her some cuddles before leaving the room because (a) I always do and (b), so we could end on a positive note.
Yesterday she was having screaming tantrums over... Heck, I can't even remember! I don't think I was even trying to get her to do anything. But maybe I was, I don't remember. I almost didn't take her to the birthday party she was invited to, but I didn't want her missing out on it. It was a half hour away, so I got her in the car when she was no longer screaming but still not party-ready and I told her that if she didn't calm down in the car, we wouldn't go in. Luckily, she did calm down in the car.
She had out of control screaming tantrums like this in the past, but probably not since she was about 3.5? And not quite like this. I think she's now a heck of a lot more stubborn.
And on top of this, my husband says she doesn't act this way with him.
Not awful all the time, but she goes through these absolutely wretched screaming tantrums. The most recent one was at bedtime this evening. Leo got to bed early because he wasn't feeling great and I didn't want to brush her teeth too early, so we were reading a book with short stories and math problems in it She was great and we were enjoying each others company. I didn't want to brush her teeth too early because she's on antibiotics and her morning dose was a bit late, so I didn't want to do the medicine too early and I wanted to brush her teeth after the medicine. Well, she wanted something to eat after the medicine. I let her know her options. She didn't like her options. So she had a tantrum over that. Eventually she gave in and let me do the medicine and had one of the options I had previously offered. Then it was time for stories. She had a screaming tantrum because we didn't have the book she wanted - I don't think it even exists. Since she spent so much time screaming about the medicine and the story that doesn't exist, I told her we were out of time for stories and we just needed to get her teeth brushed. I usually let her watch youtube while brushing her teeth. Well, she wasn't cooperating with teeth brushing and when I tried to get the video set up, she was saying no to it. So I put the computer away and told her she still needed her teeth brushed before going to bed. So she absolutely REFUSED to let me brush them. I didn't want her falling asleep without her teeth brushed, so I brought her into the hallway (she was in her bedroom). Eventually we ended up in the kitchen to keep her from curling up on the floor and going to sleep without her teeth being brushed. Geez, I feel like I was using torture techniques, but the kid just wouldn't crack! Eventually, after 45-60 minutes of refusing to have her teeth brushed, she FINALLY cracked and let me. They weren't done well, but they were done and she went to bed. I gave her some cuddles before leaving the room because (a) I always do and (b), so we could end on a positive note.
Yesterday she was having screaming tantrums over... Heck, I can't even remember! I don't think I was even trying to get her to do anything. But maybe I was, I don't remember. I almost didn't take her to the birthday party she was invited to, but I didn't want her missing out on it. It was a half hour away, so I got her in the car when she was no longer screaming but still not party-ready and I told her that if she didn't calm down in the car, we wouldn't go in. Luckily, she did calm down in the car.
She had out of control screaming tantrums like this in the past, but probably not since she was about 3.5? And not quite like this. I think she's now a heck of a lot more stubborn.
And on top of this, my husband says she doesn't act this way with him.
