Team yellow but thinking on finding out, questions

[LadySlipper]

OK so last pregnancy we were team yellow and stayed that way. This time dh wants to know before birth. I am on the fence. Part of me wants to know. Another part worries how I would feel after, would I be disappointed that I didn't wait. Crazy as that may sound.

So question for the previous pregnancy team yellows. If you opted to find out this time, how did you feel afterwards? Happy to find out or regret not waiting for the surprise? Were you less excited during the pregnancy compared to being team yellow?

To make a weird analogy of my concern. Have you ever accidentally, or on purpose, seen a Christmas gift early and felt guilty afterwards? That is what I am afraid of in this situation. Probably doesn't help that it will be a December birth.

Gender disappointment isn't really an issue. I strongly want a girl this time but would be fine with another boy.

I'm just so darn torn. My next scan is on Monday. So I have to make up my mind soon. Sorry for all the questions. My brain just feels like a giant ping pong game, going back and forth debating with myself. I need outside input at this point I think.

 

[lj2245]

I was team yellow with my first and with my 2nd DH wanted to find out. I was on the fence but agreed. At the scan the sonographer said she couldn't tell and I was so gutted we booked a private gender scan for the following day and were told it was another boy. I was delighted, we bought lots of blue, named him, etc. We still had the surprise of what he looked like and his weight, when he would arrive, whether he would have hair or not.

In all I am so glad I did it both ways. Both were just as special and on the day of each birth it didn't make a blind bit of difference whether I knew or not.

This time we opted to find out again for practical reasons as DS2 is only 16 months old and we have a house full of boys baby stuff. We are having a girl and again I am so glad I found out as we now have time to sell all the blue and sort some pink.

 

[pinkribbon]

I've done it both ways, I found out the first time and didn't the second time. 3rd time we've opted to stay team yellow again. Much as it's difficult - and believe me I've studied my scan pictures to within an inch of their life - I find it is a magical moment to find out at birth.

It's different for everyone though, some people feel more bonded and prepared when they find out. For me it's not really an issue and I always end up buying when the baby arrives anyway

 

[Wishing89]

I stayed team yellow first time around and found out this time. Not finding out made the last few weeks so anticipating although I was always told the labour is easier when you don't know... Not true lol. I loved the surprise and getting to tell everyone when baby came. I had a boy.

This time I just didn't want to wait and found out we are having a girl. I'm super excited and I am glad I found out but at the same time now all those little fantasies about both genders are gone and it's giving me more time to worry about having a daughter and what kind of a mum I'll be to her etc. it is giving me a chance to buy beautiful outfits though which I didn't get to do with my son.

I don't think I'd find out if I had a third though. I do feel a little like I "opened my present before Christmas" but I was just dying to know lol.

 

[HelenJane]

I didn't find out first time but was dying to find out this time. I am glad I did and you really won't feel disappointed at all.
If you stay team yellow then the anticipation when you're nearing the end is exciting however even if you know its a boy or girl you will still feel excited to meet them at the end

I think for you it will be a case of deciding on the day when you are asked, just go with your feeling

 

[Reidfidleir]

I was team yellow last time. Hubby had a hard time waiting and wanted to find out this time. So we did. I had the same questions you did.
We are team pink this time.
I am happy to have found out and honestly relieved. I was hoping for a girl but I think it would have helped too if it were a boy so I could feel good about it (glad its a girl but it would be nice for my son to have a brother too)

Overall it was a good experience and I'm happy we found out even though I love surprises and loved being team yellow last time.

 

[FlatShoes]

I'm in the same situation! We didn't find out the first time but I was convinced I was having a boy (my partner really wanted a boy) so my daughter was a surprise! Didn't care at all obviously!

This time round I think I want to find out but I keep worrying I am going to ruin the surprise! I have alot of girls baby clothes from my daughter - do I just wait and then if its a boy put him in pink for 2 days or so hehe