Telling OHs family tomorrow.. scared shitless.

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As most of you know, I'm 27 weeks and OH still has not told his family. Tomorrow my mom will tell them because he's too scared.
I am so scared and worried on how this will all play out. I mean I know in the long run everytjhings gonna be fine but I am just so terrified. I never liked them much but they will most likely kick out OH and omfg I'm just so nervous and scared :(

And once his whole family finds out omfg I am so scared I'm crying.
My family is easy going and supportive but his..
They will probably ask why we didn't abort..
My mom said she wants to go alone as she is my parent and doesn't want them to hurt me. And also because they are our parents and they need to speak and what not.
I'm so fucking scared and crying and my hearts racing.
I just know that this won't end well and I'm so scared. :'(
I just know that they're gonna hurt OH and if they kick him out his heart will be broken. If they hurt him he may take it out on me. Knowing him he will take it out on me for a while :/
I just feel so scared. I know "think positive and you never know how they will react" I know how they will react.
Oh good lord Jesus I'm so scared.
Any bodies family react badly? I just need some helpful word or something :'c
 
My OH's family kicked him out of the house. He is currently living with me and my family, and after we got our gender scan we brought the pictures over to their house and they essentially told us to go away and that they would never accept Dash because he "isnt legitamite". They are super catholic and were really angry about the whole, sexbeforemarriage thing. Now that we're getting married, they are coming around a bit more though. thats nice. Trev was devestated.
 
I just feel like if they hurt him its gonna hurt me so bad :(
 
calliebaby said:
Is your boyfriend abusive towards you?
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umm, i dont think that was the purpose of this thread. I think he already knows, but shes nervous about how his family would react to hearing the news that they are going to be parents.
 
No he is not, like Liz said.
I'm not afraid of him physically hurting me, I'm afraid of how it can play out in our relationship.
 
Aww I'm so sorry to hear you are so scared hun! :hugs: Try not to stress too much though, its not good for your health...why do you think his family is going to be so angry? I'm sure even if at first they dont seem excited or happy about it, they will come around.. As time goes on they will probably love to meet their grandchild!!! I was sooo terrified to tell my family, especially my dad. But he gave me the most opposite reaction I was expecting! He was actually very excited and supportive about it and now cant stop talking about meeting his little grandchild. I expected him to be really angry and call me an idiot...so you never really know how somebody is gonna react...I wish you all the best of luck!! Fingers crossed they arent too upset for your sake!
 
My parents freaked out when they found out I was pregnant with my 1st... My mom kicked me out I was only 14 at the time..It took her awhile but she did come around and loved my son to death once he was born....
 
:dohh: Pretty sure she meant that he will get stressed and take it out on her as she is the person there? (correct me if I'm wrong!)

Have you told them yet hun? :hugs:
 
Omg you guys I just ugh!
They took it sooo o fucking well.
They were tough on OH about it but my mom said that when she had told them they were soooo excited. And she said that when his dad seen the ultrasound that he said "wow that is definatley Diegos!"
:"")
But I'm soo nervous because tomorrow I have to go to my ohs house and talk to them and his sister and brother. His siblings hate me and have no respect for me at all :( so that won't be too fun..



Also guys, THEY WANT ME TO MOVE IN WITH THEM.
Omg I just don't know what to do.
I'm gonna move in with them because my family smokes in the house and always has people over being loud and annoying. And at the same time I don't want to go b/c his family only speaks spanish. Lol I don't know too much espanol!
But I'm not in school right now and I would just be moping around his house all day with his mom while he was working :(
And plus his siblings live there "they're in their thirties) one lives in the attack and the other in the basement. I just see them coming home every day and not even look ing my way :(
And I know that sounds dumb but it hurts me
 
I totally understand! My OH's family is the exact opposite. Trevor's Brother and Sister both LOVE me and we get along really well, but his parents cannot stand me. they have no respect for me at all. (Also, his mom is Puerto Rican and his dad is fluent in spanish. Most conversation over there goes on in spanish. I can have a basic conversation, but other than that I was completely lost when I used to go over there!!!)

So happy they took it so well!
 
Everything will turn out great hun. And thats great they took it well. Mabye you could go back n forth between yours n his house? Do whatever your most comfortable with and whats best for you and your son.
 
That's the thing. Its more comfortable for me to be at my home. But its better for my sons and my health if I go :/
I guess they're right right when they say you sacrafice a lot for your little babies :"(
 
Yeah its true we sacrifice anythings for our LOs. But I can understand where your coming from. Id like to go back n forth between my dads n ohs moms until we have our own place. My dad smokes in the house too. But I dont want to put his family out, and theres more privacy at my house. But mabye you could stay at both or something. Its something you have to think about. But you will want to feel comfortable wherever you are trust me!
 
My house is literally so cramped. 8 ppl in a 2 bedroom apartment. :/
I definatley gonna move but his parents said that if I wanna go spend weekends at my home that's fine!
 
jozylynn896 said:
My house is literally so cramped. 8 ppl in a 2 bedroom apartment. :/
I definatley gonna move but his parents said that if I wanna go spend weekends at my home that's fine!
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not for nothing, who are his parents to tell you your allowed to spend weekends at your home??

that was weird...I say do what makes you feel comfortable...

my grandmother was braught up in a one bedroom apt with 11 siblings and two parents..granted times have changed..but if its less stressful for you to be at home right now..
stay at home and spend weekends at his house....remember stress is not healthy either and can really put a strain on a relationship too.......

im sure you will figure it out....but also go with your gutt...if your gutt is telling you moving in isnt right then its right....mother nature gave it to us for a reason :)

your baby will be happy as long as your happy :)
 
I feel kind of right being here at OH's. :)
So funny how everything turned out well.
I was freaking out before we told them! :laughs:
 
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