Telling the parents

[lyssa_girl]

Hey, I'm new here and I'm wondering have any of you told your parents? And how is the right way to tell them?

Lyssa
xx

 

[MoonMuffin]

Hi, welcome to BnB!
I'm 18 and telling my parents was the scariest and hardest part for me, but I felt so much better after I did. As hard as it is, you have to do it. How to tell them? Just do it, simple and to the point. The sooner the better so they have more time to take it in. Be prepared that it's going to be a big shock for them, so try not to let they're first reaction get to you if it's not the reaction your looking for. For me I told my dad first, because he's calm and can handle himself well in tense situations. He didn't yell or anything, he just told me that he loved me and that he would break it to my mom (she's a bit unpredictable cause she's bipolar). So if you are closer to one of your parents, tell them first if that's eaiser, or else just sit them both down and tell them flat out. I know it's scary, but once you do it you'll have such a huge weight lifted. If they react badly just give them some time to cool off and take it in, they'll come around sooner or later. Good Luck!

 

[MummyJade]

I was 18 when i found out i was pregnant. 2 months b4 19th! I took a test on the friday afternoon told a mate and fella and took another 1 on the sat morning at my fellas house, Then we went 2 my mums and i just said mum i got something to tell you! she said dont bother i already know what your guna say! then i thought OMG!! But she was fine she said I was hoping i wouldnt have 2 wait 2 much longer! then we told hubbies parents they was fine as he is 23 so a grown up man (wel meant 2 b)! Dad i was worried about cos i dont live with him but he was fine i think my brother helped there cos he made him and me mum grand parents 2 years ago so at least i didnt make him feel old!! my brother did!! I think you just gotta tell them out right. i was only 6 weeks so we didnt tell no one else till 12 weeks! x

 

[nikky0907]

Hi

I was 18 when I fell pregnant.Although I don't live with my parents they reacted horribly when I told them so I don't really want to scare you with it.

It will definitely be a shock for them but once they get used to it they will be very excited....Good luck!

 

[Hollys_Twinny]

My dad is quite "HOT HEADED" LOL Sooo i told my mum first...Just straight out said-" I think im pregnant"...I made her promise not 2 mention anything 2 my dad till I was sure..! But later that night I got a phone call from him- and to my shock..!- he was very calm ( Calmer than mum) and he just said he was upset that I felt I couldnt tell him, and that he'll support me whatever..!

It just goes 2 show u cant predict their response hun..! but the more u leave it and worry, the harder it is..!

soooo just pick a quiet time.. and GO 4 IT..!

hope it all goes ok..!

x​

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

hey im 16 and preg.

well i didnt have to tell my mum cos she got me the test and was there when i did it lol. but like one of the other girls my dad is very hot headed and i dreaded telling him i thought he was gunna flip. but my bf told him and he was fine he rang me and was really supportive and even told me he would support me and the baby. just sit both you parents down and tell them hun its all you can do. nothing they can say is going to change the fact you've got a bubba on the way
xx

 

[sophiecouldwe]

hi i got pregnant this feb when i was 17 and had a m/c and didnt tell my mum untill it was all over 4 months later. i really REALLY regret not telling her because i no she wud have helped me a lot but i was just very scared at the time.
my advice would be tell them as soon as pos because in my case i needed both parents more than i realised but i realised it too late.
theres no easy way of telling them, 4 months later i still found it hard but it was definatly worth it.
hope it goes well xxx

 

[missjacey44]

The sooner u tell them the better i think. I knew my mum would be ok with it but was still hard to tell her, i found it more embarasing if anything! I told my sister before i told my mum and my sister was there when i told mum which made it a little easier. I just went round to my mums house.. asked her to come into the living room and sit down with me and my sister and straight away she said 'what are u to planning..whats going on' and i just said it.. 'Im pregnant' and she was very happy! Im not very close to my dad and was scared he would go mad so i asked my mum to tell him for me. but he was fine with it

 

[Becky]

Hello!!!

My mum has known since i was about 12 weeks and it was a very emontional few weeks when she first found out!! at first yes she did hit the roof but now she is coming round to the idea!! and has even bought me loads of maternity bits!

I only told me dad yesterday i was so scared and got myself all worked up, and all he said was 'oh ok' which was a relief in a way a bit more enthusiam wouldnt have gone to far!

your parents will respect you a lot more for telling them early on and not letting them find out another way!! there is no right or wrong way of telling them!! your the one that knows them best so do it how you think is write!!

x

 

[Bec Haile]

My mum told me I was pregnant just after my 18th birthday! I didn't even notice!! She took me to the doctor to find out if that bump was a baby or not and it was. I was 6 months!

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Crikey bec! 6 Months!!

I found out on my 20th birthday in April, and rang my mum up straight away and said that I hadn't come on, and I'd done a test. She just said "Ohh god" Because her and my OH don't get on. We split up at xmas, and he was getting abit aggressive towards my mum, shouting. And she hasn't forgive him for it, so she wasn't happy that it's with him. But she's fine now. Just it's awkward my mum n dad not liking my OH, when my mum and OH are going to be at the birth. Ouch, how awkward. Just tell them when it's right, i'd tell them as soon as poss, personally. x

 

[Luhweez]

the longer you wait the harder it is, as everyone else says you just have to do it, im 18 and i told my mum when i was 23 weeks, and i came to this forum for the samee reason you did, advice on telling the parents! and everyone told me the same, just tell it to them straight, it really is all you can do, my mum was shocked i'd hidden it for so long, and dad was abit upset but only because im such a daddy's girl! now their both really excited! just go ahead and do it, you'll feel sooo much better once you do and you'll bebale to talk about it with your mum! =) *hugs*