Telling your parents??

[chocci]

Glad it went down well, good on them!

MIL and FIL coming up to ours this weekend and I said to hubby I would like to tell them and get it in the open but he does not want to said they would worry too much, he even said he doesnt want to tell them if it does not work this time...........grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, kind of feel he is being slightly selfish, its hard for me to hide especially when they mention babies etc....sorry for the rant hun

 

[Mrs G]

That is exactly where we were hun and tbh I used a bit of a guilt trip on him... I said that it was me who was having to do all the injections, me who would have the gen anathestic, me having the scans etcetcetc and under any other circumstances my parents would be aware of all that. I also said, what is something happens to me, what would he tell them....

Bit bad I know, but actually it is how I felt. I don't think he'll be happy to tell anyone else but I think he realised how important it was for me to tell them. I don't think he'll ever tell his family what we're doing, even once we're pg. But that's just the sort of relationship they have.

xx

 

[chocci]

Sounds like my fella haha, hmmmmmmmmm sounds awful but if the problem was with me perhaps he would not care about telling people, and it would be other way round me wanting noone to know, tis hard! I dont think he will mind if I tell my parents, my parents keep themselves to themselves and will respect pur privacy, but my mum is good to talk to and very private so I feel i want to tell her at least. I may do so today but my step dad my be around so will play by ear. Think hubby doesnt mind that, he just doesnt want to tell his parents and it truley is becasuse they will worry and he knows his mum will ask questions ALLL the time so I suppose he is right. If this FET does not work though I am going to have to have serious words with him as its getting too hard to hide from them, for one, i think they think I am denying them grand kids and there son wants to have kids but I dont............if only they knew they may be a more understanding........i think i would feel relieved, didnt want them to know before, but now I want parents all to know. I may try your emotional tircks haha XX

 

[honeycat]

I think only you can answer this. Some people like to talk about their IF and some parents are support and some aren't. For me I like to tell people about IF because I think it is better that they learn these things instead of being ignorant and then saying something hurtful to someone who is having trouble ttc. Now my mom is very catholic and I wish I never told her about the whole ivf stuff. We have had many huge fights about it. I don't understand how she can be so unsupportive and against something when she doesn't have any logical reason (I'm Catholic and can't believe that the church would be against a medical treatment to help IF couples reach their dream). I have given up with her and it does really hurt me that this has ruined our relationship. I still love her but it will never be the same. I haven't told her we are doing another cycle and won't until I reach the 2nd trimester if I'm successful.