Terrified of losing this baby

[Sophiejash]

I'm 5+4 and absolutely terrified that i'm going to lose this baby as well. Every little twinge and ache and i'm thinking the worst. I'm thinking oh no it's ectopic or its a blighted ovum as I don't have very strong symptoms. I just can't change my trail of thought to be positive. I have an early scan booked for 8th Dec when i'll be 7+1 and scared silly of what it's going to show. Need some comforting words please.

 

[LDC]

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I don't have anything that will take away your worry but I am in exactly the same position as you. I think you just worry about everything once you've had a loss and everything becomes scary with our brains working overtime. I've been trying to take things a day at a time and just tell myself "right now, at this moment in time, I have no reason to think anything is wrong". It's really difficult and an anxious time. I had a meeting with my consultant today and he said he'd be more concerned if I wasn't anxious but that I just need to keep talking and not bottling things up.

I'm sure you're on countdown to your scan now (my 12 week scan is on the 23rd Dec and I want it to be here yesterday), not too far to go now and I'm sure everything will be ok xxxx

 

[Bumblebee117]

Congratulations!

I can only send you a big hug and wish you a happy and healthy 9 months.

I am worried every day, I can't stop thinking that something bad will happen again. Thank goodness I have a Doppler and I can listen to my baby's heartbeat once a day. I can only recommend getting one after you're about 8/9 weeks, it takes the worry away for a few hours a day and has calmed my nerves a lot.

Let us know how your scan went next week! x

 

[eva1978]

Hugs, same boat here. I'm now 8 weeks and my last pregnancy I lost the embryo (mmc) at about 7w3d, just 1 day after I had a great-looking scan (the "bad" scan was 2 weeks later). I also find it hard to get out of this "debbie downer" mood! But I agree with what LDC said - you have nothing right now proving that anything has gone wrong, so for the moment you can realistically believe that things are going along fine.

I have a doppler that I used in my last healthy pregnancy from about 11 weeks, and assuming I make it that far I plan to use it again with this one. I ordered it from Amazon.

Hugs and positive thoughts!

 

[Sophiejash]

Thanks everyone, the last 3 days I've been feeling sick during the day, nothing too bad but it's making me feel more positive about the pregnancy. Trying to be positive