Terrified of miscarrying after 2 previous miscarriages

[Laura8922]

Hi there, I recently found out on 2nd March I am pregnant, from LMP due date is 31st October which makes me 6+4. I miscarried in August 2006 (I was between 5 and 6 weeks) and again last February at around 7 weeks. They were complete miscarriages, determined by blood testing for HCG levels. For both miscarriages I had bleeding with no pain. First resembled a heavy period but with the second I felt the clots pass after coming back from the hospital having been told they "didn't think" I was having a miscarriage. I fell into deep depression for a number of months after.

I am now ecstatic to be pregnant but terrified I am going to miscarry again. I have an early scan in 2 weeks and I am just desperate to get to that without any bleeding or complications. Then have 12 wk scan on 20th April.

Everyone keeps telling me not to worry, that every pregnancy is different, but it just isn't that easy. The one comforting thing is that this is the first time I have noticed a change in my breasts and a slight bulge, not a baby bump, but definitely pregnancy related (I am very slim so any changes are easily noticeable)

Has anyone been in a similar situation to me? x

 

[rm16]

Just wanted to say I know how scared you are...I'm pregnant after a missed miscarriage over a year ago, and I am terrified to lose this precious pregnancy, I get so scared every day and every new symptom or lack of a symptom sends me running to my laptop to google if something might be wrong!
People telling you not to worry is hopeless, and sometimes downright annoying, especially if they have never been in this situation! But they are also right, worrying won't change anything.
We just have to take one day at a time, which is hard when every day feels like a week! Time goes so slowly....but I wish you lots of luck and hope this one works out for you,
Hugs x

 

[Laura8922]

You're so right, the last week has felt like a month! Thank you, and best of luck to you too x

 

[fingerscrosed]

hi gils i 2 am the same i had a mmc in jan and went on pill after as i couldn't cope with another loss this year. but looks like i got preg the wk i wnt on the pill i am so happy but so scared as i had no symptoms with the mmc was told baby had no hb when i went 4 my 12 wk scan baby died at 7.4wks again i am having no preg symptoms so just cant help but worry its going the same way apart from this morn i woke up feeling really sick cant even drink my cup of t lol never thought i would be so happy 2 feel ill hopefully this is a good sign i seen doc fri he thinks i am 6/7 wks so hes going 2 try and get me a early scan will find out tues if i am aloud. cant help but wish these wks away so i no may baby is safe. good luck 2 us all and rip our little angels

 

[patiently]

Definately feel the same too. I had two mc's last year an dbegan bleeding in both at about 4/5 weeks. I didnt have any symptoms to start with but had severe cramping on saturday morning. Went to A&E and they have scheduled me in for an early scan. Since saturday I have had sore bbs but mostly near my armpit. I did have this before i got my bfp in my last two pregnancies but this time it has taken a week to come. I also have sore nipples on and off...Other than cramping i havent experienced anything else. I really hope that this is all of our forever babies and its very true we have to take one day at a time. FXed and God bless to you all. x x

 

[chistiana]

Hi ladies. I m one of you but i m a bit further along. I had a mmc at 11w1d in april 2011 and a mc at 6w5d in august 2011 (so basically 2011 sucked!!). I got pg again straight after my last mc (no af in between). I was excited yet soooooo scared i didnt even aknowldge the pg, felt i had to protect myself. One thing that i was told and it does sound cheesy is "think positive"...GOd knows how many times i ve had absolutely terrifying thoughts but i kind of believe that our bodies can 'hear us and act accordingly' so i ve tried everytime a bad thought comes to consciously push it away and tell myself everything is going to be fine.
My pg so far has been far from perfect, i started bleeding heavily at 12w4d and been on bed rest since then (i am 26w today)...will be on bed rest till birth, put a stitch in at 17+6 to prevent ic and now counting the weeks like a flipping mad woman! But i m trying to remain positive we ll have our happy ending!
Sorry if this was too long but i hope my story helps, we can all get there, 2012 might just be our lucky year (touch wood!)!!!