textss from the ex.

[karamel]

Hi ; first time posting here ; I'm a newly single, soon to be mom

It was about 3 weeks ago that I left my fiance ; horrible break up that consisted of him threatening to give me an abortion ; me calling the police and him being arrested.

So now ; he has conditions which include that he's not to contact me.
And now ..

He's decided to start sending my mother texts ; actually saying "Sorry I tried. It saddens me that i failed" and "She and the baby okay?"

And i dunno ; i just needed to rant a bit ; i mean ; what kind of piece first threatens to end the babys life and now apparently cares to know how me and the baby are?? Ugh ; it just irritates me! He didn't care when we were together how I was feeling, how things seemed to be going ; he cared more about his dope and the fact that i made him stop smoking it. But now ; because it's over he suddenly cares?? WTF!!
I'm 17 weeks today ; and the last thing i needed to hear was that he started texting my mother! And that he's claiming to care! What a tool!
My fear is that he's going to start obsessing about me like he did his one ex. Almost restraining order material. I just don't know what to do. And if he keeps with the messaging ; i really don't know how i'll deal with that.

Again, sorry about the rant. I just needed to.

 

[MummyCarly]

I left the Father of my 2 children about 3yrs ago, He also smoked dope and drunk all the time, he pushed me around (even when I was pregnant) I tried to get him to stop smoking and drinking and I couldnt do it. Trust me YOU are better off leaving him now and making a safe place for your child to be brought into, I was 6yrs too late and I can see the effects it had on my first child, The day your baby comes into you and says "Why does daddy hit you" is the worst feeling in the world.

I applaud you for leaving and calling the police, From my experience I wouldnt answer any of his crazy txt msgs and stuff, noone can tell you to leave someone you will when you're ready, but even if he just threatened to hit you "abort the baby" - WHICH IS DISCUSTING may I add. If hes gone as far as to do that then you dont need him

 

[nievesmama]

how awful for you.
I went through something similar with my LO dad.He hassled me all through my pregnancy, and it got worse when i gave birth. He had a weed habit, threatened to do me in and take my daughter. I also had when first preg if you dont want to be with me then abort.
I had to call police due to the threats, and had to move away. My advice is to ignore all txt , phonecalls. And log everything down, no matter how small. Thats what the police told me to do, i also have to ring and update them when anything happens.
Does he know where you live?? If so see if you can get the police to put a TAU ( treat as urgent) on your house. That way if he comes to your house the police will be out asap when you ring. They can also send a bobby van around, they can put window alarms, make sure your doors are secure and give you personal alarms.
I think its awful hes texting your mum, and extra stress on you that you dont need.
Hope this is some help for you. If you ever want to chat, feel free to pm me x

 

[karamel]

how awful for you.
I went through something similar with my LO dad.He hassled me all through my pregnancy, and it got worse when i gave birth. He had a weed habit, threatened to do me in and take my daughter. I also had when first preg if you dont want to be with me then abort.
I had to call police due to the threats, and had to move away. My advice is to ignore all txt , phonecalls. And log everything down, no matter how small. Thats what the police told me to do, i also have to ring and update them when anything happens.
Does he know where you live?? If so see if you can get the police to put a TAU ( treat as urgent) on your house. That way if he comes to your house the police will be out asap when you ring. They can also send a bobby van around, they can put window alarms, make sure your doors are secure and give you personal alarms.
I think its awful hes texting your mum, and extra stress on you that you dont need.
Hope this is some help for you. If you ever want to chat, feel free to pm me x

Thanks.
He does know where I'm living ; but he won't come near here. Part of his conditions include not coming within 200 meters of my house. And that was the apartment we were living in together. But, im living back at home, and my sister was actually there when everything happened, so the conditions apply to this residence too. So even though he's completely moronic, and doesn't think before he does things ; I'm an hour from where he is (and he doesn't drive) and I dont think he'd risk going to jail just to show up at this house.
Trust me though, if he continues to try to contact me and keeps messaging my mother ; I will take more action in getting him to stay away for good. I'm going to let the fact that he's messaging her slide, but if it continues, I definitely WONT. I don't need to bullcrap or the drama.
But thanks for the advice, greatly appreciated