That b*tch!

[mBLACK]

Well, I met up with the father about 2 weeks ago. He didn't ask anything about Jujube, just questions about me. He never talks about him unless I bring him up. I asked for the child support last week & he said no because he owes people money?
I have a really really close friend who's a better father than he's been! This guy actually asks about him all the time, loves holding him, pushing the stoller, talking to him cuddling him etc.. (Whereas the father told me "Take him now, I'm starting to smell like baby" when he was holding him)
I know I shouldn't be but I'm starting to think of this other guy as my baby's daddy, he's been around the entire time I was pregnant when all my other friends deserted me, he's stuck by my side through thick & thin.
I know I should just be relying on myself for everything but I just really wish my son had a father who wanted to be there.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Mary, can you apply for legal aid and take him to court for child support? They'll MAKE him pay for it, it'll come straight out of his paycheck. Who the hell cares that he has other people to pay back? He has a son to take care of and that comes first. Did you put him on the birth certificate? You're going to spend the rest of your years arguing and fighting for money that you won't get if you try to do it by yourself.

 

[Suz]

Yes... I agree hun... Take him to court. He needs to own up to his responsibilities.

 

[sam's mum]

Mary, can you apply for legal aid and take him to court for child support? They'll MAKE him pay for it, it'll come straight out of his paycheck. Who the hell cares that he has other people to pay back? He has a son to take care of and that comes first. Did you put him on the birth certificate? You're going to spend the rest of your years arguing and fighting for money that you won't get if you try to do it by yourself.

I agree...and

Sounds like an awesome friend you've got there. Your ex should take a few lessons from him x

 

[BurtonBaby]

Your ex sounds like a real dick! But it's really good that your little man has a positive role model to look up to, even if the father is absent, other men can really help.

 

[mBLACK]

Who the hell cares that he has other people to pay back? He has a son to take care of and that comes first. Did you put him on the birth certificate?

No, I didn't. Thing is if I want to have complete control over when he sees him, etc. and no private visitation then I just have to deal with this because if I force him to pay child support, he will automatically be allowed private visitation & there's a whole other court battle I will have to fight. & Quite frankly I just don't have the money for court right now.

 

[Sarah88]

I'm starting to smell like baby? What a wanker! He needs a good kick up the ass.
I don't think it's a bad thing that there is a positive male role model in your sons life! It's great that he has been there for you through it all.

 

[Lynxylaydee1]

hun u should be entitled to legal aid, got o ur local citizens advice bureau, or call them up. they will help you and make sure u get all ur entitled to, xxx

 

[brownhairedmom]

Who the hell cares that he has other people to pay back? He has a son to take care of and that comes first. Did you put him on the birth certificate?

No, I didn't. Thing is if I want to have complete control over when he sees him, etc. and no private visitation then I just have to deal with this because if I force him to pay child support, he will automatically be allowed private visitation & there's a whole other court battle I will have to fight. & Quite frankly I just don't have the money for court right now.

No I know exactly what you mean. I'm not putting Adam on the birth certificate or taking child support from him either so that he has no rights to come see the baby when he decides in 5 years that he made a mistake.

 

[cuddles314]

What an asshole! Hope you manage to get something sorted soon. Sounds like you've got a really good friend there though, at least there are some good men out there...
xxx

 

[Rachiebaby24]

Does this either guy like you? I know you say you are really close friends? Its lovely that he is there for you and bubs....and if he does stay like that then it is good for your son to have a positive male in his life regardless of whether he is his dad or not.

As for your son's dad....what a waste of space...i cant believe he said he didnt want to smell like baby.....some men dont deserve the sperm that they have!