The big rant thread

[sparkle83]

Be it emotional or physical, bring your rant here!



Mine for today: my younger sister is talking about her future plans with her husband. I'm expecting this to mean her dropping out of the RAF and having kids. I just freaking know she'll get pregnant healthily the first month she tries, and give my mum the first grandchild she's been waiting for for 9 years. I know it shouldnt matter, but it just reminds me how useless I feel, how cheated and wronged by fate and my own body. I know I'll have to congratulate and try and be nice, but I'm fed up, I'm not asking alot, just a healthy baby for crying out loud, something that everyone I know in real life gets the moment they choose to get pregnant.

 

[MillieMoo]

I know what you mean! I think i'll have a rant too. I'll try not to waffle on too much but the basic story is my brother (who at the time was 18) started sleeping with this girl and within 1 month of them seeing each other she was pregnant. They don't even get on. they argue all the time and she uses their son as blackmail against him. They are constantly splitting up and then getting back together. Then a couple of weeks ago I found out she was having another (they weren't even trying). It makes me so upset that it can happen so easily for some. Now the big shocking thing is that she just told me that when she was 18 the docs diagnosed her with PCOS and told her that her ovaries were so bad that she probably wouldn't have kids! Its just not fair!

 

[sparkle83]

she sounds awful! do they know you're having problems?

 

[MillieMoo]

Yeah. Thats how i found out what her doctor said about her.
None of my family understand and they are all of the same opinion 'it will happen soon, theres plently of time, your only young'. ARRRRRHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

How do you explain to them just how hard this is and how much it means to you? Whenever i try to start talking about it with them i get too emotional and just feel myself starting to cry.

 

[BizyBee]

I have some too!
-A ridiculous amount of people I know recently had a baby (or twins), are about to have one, or just found out they're pregnant.
-We've been together for 11 years (married almost 3) and a few friends have started dating (and are now expecting) in the time that we've been TTC. It's so frustrating!
-Listening to people complain about pregnancy symptoms. Seriously, do they not realize the gift that they've been given? I just want to scream and tell them how lucky they are.
-A friend who's gloating about her making her husband get a vasectomy because "she's just too fertile".

The list goes on and on... Thanks for giving me a place to rant!

 

[bababas]

i would probably have ranted 1 month ago ...

But today I am just soooo sad, my rant has changed into bitter watery tears

By bestfriend is expecting, and how I wish I would be preggers with her together just feel useless. I was happy this morning, waking up with happy thoughts of taking studio baby pictures with me future baby ... but just like that ... everything is grey ...

 

[sparkle83]

Bababas *hugs* I'm sorry hon

 

[hopeful4baby]

I'll join in. On Saturday, my sil had a baby girl. The first grandchild and the first girl in DH's family (DH has 2 brothers). I'm happy for her it went all well. She was worried sick as she has a hereditary condition and she could have had a disabled child and we could have had a disable nephew/niece. But it all turned out well. But still I couldn't bring myself to go round yesterday. I could take it if only me and DH went but not the whole family! I would feel like I was thrown into lion's cage. I'm just so so sad, that this baby girl should have been a cousin to a either my 2,5 or 1,5 year old owhich I "should have had"!!! In two weeks time my friend is asking us to a bbq (we are group of 4 long term friends), but her and another friend have just had babies. How do I do it? Where they will all be just full of smiles talking "only" baby stuff and "complaining" about lack of sleep etc... My stomach shakes already...

to everyone! We know it's not fair, but the world isn't fair!

 

[sparkle83]

My SIL had a baby in march, pregnant the first month (of course) and I saw her twice through the pregnancy because I couldnt bear any more than that. Now that my niece is born, I actually find it easier, and we go there lot. I hated the whole pregnancy 'look how perfectly feminine and fertile I am' type vibes I got, but now that the pregnancy is over, it's better. I would avoid the family get together (possbily cold/stomach bug that you dont wanna risk passing to a newborn) and then go just you and DH. I'd also probably avoid the BBQ, but then I'm not very strong...

 

[hopeful4baby]

Thanks Sparkle!!!!
Yeah, I wouldn't mind seeing my BIL and SIL with the baby on their own, but when I see my MIL running around all excited and crazy, it hurts me so much! I don't even know WHY! I don't know what I'll do about the bbq yet. At the moment I've got few days to AF and I KNOW it's coming so this is the worst time of the month for me.

Believe me, YOU ARE STRONG, because you have to be. We deal with it as best as we can. Life goes on around us and inevitable happens, people around multiply and sometimes it seems with a speed of light!! I feel for you with the subject of your sister.

 

[Bexy]

My rant is:

Seeing at least 4 - 5 pregnant ladies just on my way to work every-single-day!!!! It's not even like they are the same group of ladies just a random crop of them sent to show just how fertile the world is apart from me....

Grrrrrr xxxx

 

[sparkle83]

I work in a shopping centre and see them all day every day... but my theory is that at least some of them may have had assistance, or had to try for years for it, then I dont feel so bad...

however, people from my year at school with kids already and pregnant again makes me GRRR

 

[sparkle83]

Oh yeah, and health workers who dont get it! I just came back from blood tests, LH, FSH, oestrodial, testosterone, TSH, full blood count and SHBG. She said 'well, I dont know what this SHBG one is, but it's probably a hormonal thingie'. :O

 

[chocci]

<rant apologise>
Can i join in............ my rant is about the chavs on council estates with no future, no money, no job, no hope, who get pregnant so easily!

My worst day was when a friend from work who's 15 yes 15! year old daughter got pregnant on purpose!!! My friend and her daughter have an awful relationship to the point the fought in their street (cringe!!!!) I call her a friend but really she was just a work collegue who i sometimes went to lunch with. The "friend" knew what i was going through though i dont know why i told her as even when i told her that the problem was my husbands side and i was ok, she hinted at donating eggs!!! I was like do you know anything about the human reproductive system thicko, 1) i have my own eggs 2) i dont have a problem its my husband are you listening at all and 3) i wouldnt want your eggs thankyou!! (all in my head anyway haha)

Baring in mind she knew my situation she kept giving me daily updates as to how her daughter was coping with the pregnancy and all i could think was what a bloody chav! Has she no consideration at all for me, i think eventually she got the hint when she brought in her daughters scan to work to show me!!! I mean WTF, i said i would go to her desk and look and obviously never did. Then i think she thought i was jealous but you know what the last thing i am is jealous of a chavy girl having a baby and living in a shit hole with no partner and no prospects I was just really annoyed at her insensitvity!!! <end rant apologise>

 

[Smurfette]

Totally feeling the chav thing!!!!! I used to work with children and young people in distress and had to cope with parents every day who had no interest in their children and the parenting skills of a mouse dropping and yet they're probably still churning out children!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know life isn't fair etc etc but it JUST ISN'T FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also feel like a rant about the . A couple of days late just to get your hopes up only to get a great big 2 days later when you let yourself belive that this might just be the month you've been waiting for.

Always great to come on here though for all the support from you lovely ladies!

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Sprat]

feeling the need to rant! 2 of my sisters have got pregnant since we have been ttc. Both of them first month of trying. The first had her baby last month and the other is due next month. Family get togethers are a minefield. Why is it so easy for them and not for me?