The father is giving us a chance..kinda :/ what should I do?

[JennyBLove]

So he left me when we found out. And he was seeing someone else, well now that didnt work out and he had been helping just a bit before. But now he called me while he was on vaca n says he wants to give me n family a chance n that I have to prove to him we can be good. I just dont need anymore stress I barely makn it with rent n food n bills n wrkn fulltime n alone in this state. But he doesnt pay me much attention now and I just feel hes gonna hurt me n get back w her n ill be left again. Its been worst almost 7 mnths in the world n cant handle no more, already broken. He said he realised me n baby is whats important to him but I not feeling that at all. I just dunno what to do. he paid most my rent this month that was late n I need his help n him by my side but I feel this other girl baggage is too much. N worry it wont go away. I went without him whole time already n sucks either way, just want our family together but I cdont feel love from him now. I dunno just lost...i kno I can do alone but right now w no family n help n baby due soon I cant handle it. I just dont get him!!

 

[Jade--x]

I personally would never take him back as a partner..I won't be second best to anyone and that's how I'd feel if he left me for her it didn't work so he came running back..But I wouldn't give a second chance for that regardless of the circumstances. I'd personally say I want him there for the baby and to help and be a Dad but that as a couple it wouldn't work, but its really got to be what you want. Us ladies could say what we'd do but if you want him back you want him back

ETA: As for he's told you you need to prove to him..Screw that he's the one needs to prove to you he's staying around and isn't going to run off with another woman again.

 

[JennyBLove]

Yeah h# ignored me all night then blocked my number and said today was cuz he needed sleep. Im backing off from him as I dont need his games. Too bad. It would be niceif he was respectful, true n honest but guess he cant be. N yes its pathetic im his second choice aftter it didnt workout

 

[ravenmel]

Girl why are you even considering this? He left you once pregnant,shame on him but if you take him back and he cheats and leaves you again shame on you. I know your hormones are bubbling on high overload right now.(Mama knows, I've been pregnant and single) but you already said you don't love him! you sure as hell don't trust him so what is there to decide?
This is gonna sound harsh, but he doesn't love you and doesn't respect you. His using you because the other girl probably saw his true colours and cussed him out for leaving his pregnant girlfriend. Now his using you and his child, which is low, to boost up his ego and talking rubbish about you have to prove to him that it can work? Is this fool for real? When his said that line I would have got up and walked away.
If I was you I'd call him or text and tell him please don't call me unless it's about the baby or if it's about child support for the baby. Anytime he tries to argue hang up, if he starts talking about any other subject other than baby hang up or walk away.
I think you need to do what you have to do to make it alone without him paying your rent or food, coz his gonna try hold that over your head and use it against you. Get on welfare if you have too, that's what it's there for, when you're down and in need and tell him to keep his money.

See each other for the baby only. I know everyone want to work things out for the kids etc but not with a man that doesn't love you lies, cheats and doesn't seem like he even wants it to work.

 

[whatwillbe]

I agree with what pp's have said, to leave you while your pregnant with his baby, he can't love you I know it's hard but you sound like your doing better without him, I was left when I got preg also for another woman, it's horrible to go through but so worth it in the end when you have your beautiful baby, you don't need him and you defiantly don't need to prove anything to him x

 

[JennyBLove]

Thanks for the advice, I should know better. Maybe it is the horomones but we werent together when he got with other girl, however who really knows, also just the fact he left me while preg is YES HORRIBLE. Its harder that we botj moved to this horrible state together and im kinda stuck stayin here now. Theres only welfare if totally homeless and no job. I work fulltime now and have a.home till end of april, but still looking for dif place. Just getting past these rough financial times on top of it all is tough. But I know it will work. I am deeply in love with him, always have been but dont understand how I am. I did mess up right before pregnancy n we had rough times that he holds against n thats y he says I need to prove, but yes he just needs to cut the shit n be here for us not expect all this proof while im in 3rd tri just cuz it didnt work with his Miss America pagaent model gf. Just crazy. He talked again today n said I need to stop and that im pushing myself farther away by giving drama whenall I did was call to talk yesterday. He says I have 24 hrs to be an adult and blah blah n that hes not talking till then. I just am in shock how dumb he is for how smart n talented a man he is too. Hes crazy. My phone off just ffor tmrw anyways n id rather just keep it off. Its tough being preg, maybe just cuz shit I been thru in last halff year, but I hate it. Thanks agains ladys for encouragement.

 

[Linz88]

I wouldnt take him back in a million years hun reading what u wrote shocked me he said you have to prove to him psssh! Stay strong and just do you and your child.. Ur betta off alone until u find someone else