The good and bad,happy and sad...longggggg

[nikky0907]

So...*takes a breath*
I've told everyone important about my pregnancy.My parents,friends,sister and the baby's dad.
My friends and sister were greatly supportive.My sister even cried.I think that's a reaction I needed to see from someone...My friends were also very happy for me,a little worried,but we celebrated.
The dad was very schocked and I had to see him the other day too when he recovered.We decided it is best that we stay friends,he said that he will be there for me and his baby,we didn't agree on anything regular,but he can see it whenever he wants.We even agreed to go to the movies tonight to talk some more.
That leaves only my parents....The hardest part....Everyone who tought that they will be supportive-was wrong.
I mean it wasn't bad-it was even worse.
I told them,they couldn't believe it,then they started yelling that I ruined my life that I HAVE to get rid of it or marry the father.I tried to explain but they were unreasonable,a huge fight broke out and I left,they later told my sister that I'm on my own and they want nothing to do with me or ''the *******''.That's how they called my baby.
Anyway,with this begins a whole new chapter of my life...I won't have to leave my apartment(they bought it) because it's in my name,but they won't pay my credit cards(I know,embarrasing,but that's how they raised me so I got used to it),so today I took the scissors and cut them all except one in half...not spending anymore.But I do have enough money saved and a steady income because I work in a bookshop,so I'll be fine in that area.

I also told my guidance counselor and she told me that I can finish my freshman year in june and than for my sophmore I'll just take tests and not go to classes,and then normally attend the junior.


The extremely happy part of this is that I HAD MY SCAN!!!
It was beautiful,hearing those heartbeats and seeing it...It really felt real,I was on
It was the most amazing thing ever,to see it move and its little body...amazing,I never tought I could feel something like that...To finally see that little creature in my stomac...
Anyway,the gyn seemed concerned about my low blood pressure and said that she will run some more tests.I mean I've had low blood pressure my whole life but I didn't know it could be serious...Anyone had the same thing?


Another pic of my bumpy:


Thanks for reading my little confession....

 

[Lauz_1601]

aww hun Im so sorry you got this reaction from your parents. If they are going to treat you like this then hey, you dont need them, you show them you can do it on your own and they'll soon come back apolagising!

Its great new that the babies dad is being supportive, if the both of you can be good friends then that will be a great support to you. And you have your sister and your friends who are happy for you.

Look at who you have around you supporting you, you will be just fine hun, and hopefuly in time your parents will realsie how unfair they are being.

bump picture is gorgeous btw xxx

 

[bird24]

well done hun facing it all and telling everyone

Your parents are a nightmare!!

Has the dad told his parents?

The scan pic is awesome!!! so cute!!

well done on cutting the credit cards and stuff, you will have the support from your friends and sister that you need so thats good!!

Congrats - so happy for you!! xxx

 

[Mervs Mum]

It's disappointing when you dont get the reaction you'd hoped for from anyone. I guess you didnt expect them to jump for joy but a little support would have been good. Give them space and time. If you show that you are determined to do this with or without them, by being independant and getting through this in a mature and dignified fashion, who knows they may well come to have a new found respect for you. You've already started by cutting up your cards and organising how things will work at college etc.
You're gonna be fine sweetheart.

The pic of the baby bean is beautiful!
xx

 

[Spartacus]

Sorry to hear your parents reaction you never know that may have been their knee jerk reaction and hopefully they will come around. But I think you have been really strong and thinking positive and ahead well done you great picture of your baby and I guess that probably put it all into perspective for you yesterday.

chin up hun

 

[hollie86]

wow great pic of your baby!!!
As for your parents they are probably in shock thats why they have reacted that way, im sure they will come around eventually, if not its their loss not yours.
But remember they are parents themselves so I bet when they are faced with their grandchild they'll fall in love and spoil it rotten at the end of the day it's family.
Glad to hear that the dad and your friends are gonna be there for you that will be a great network of support for you and your baby.
Keep smiling you're gonna do great
xxx

 

[nikky0907]

Thanks guys,hopefully my parents do come around but knowing them...they have too much pride...the picture is cute,isn't it?It's weird to think that this little bean is going to become a person one day...

 

[Ann-Marie]

Thats really sad the way your parents have reacted. Hopefully it was just the shock. They may be feeling awful about their response. They will change when they actually see that little person you have in there ( gorgeous pic ).
Your sister sounds like she will be fab support for you, and it's good to hear that Daddy isn't running away too. Have you seen your ex at all ?

Keep strong and focused on yours and the babes health for now. Thats what's important now, the parents can be worried about when they're worth it

 

[Rumpskin]

Firstly, what a great scan picture Nikky, your little one looks so snug in there!

Well done on telling everyone. I am sure the shock of your news made your parents react in that way. They are just worried about you lovely. Give them time and i am sure they will come round to the fact that they are going to be grandparents, like it or not.

xx

 

[leeanne]

You were very brave and I am proud of you for telling everyone Must have been quite a week!

Honey, I am sorry about your parents. I would just let it be and see how they come around And they just may.

But you are lucky to have the support of all your friends, your sister and the baby's dad. You do have people around you who love you and that's the main thing. You are lucky that way

Don't forget, you have all of us too.

You've made a fantastic decision keeping your baby and I bet the experience of the scan made your decision more cemented in you.

You'll be a great mom, I can tell!

Many hugs to you!

 

[leeanne]

And, your little baby is so sweet in those pictures!

 

[nikky0907]

Thank you.It was a very emotionally stressful week,a questioned my decision thousand times.Thank you for all the lovely things you guys said...My parents have been a disappointment to me many times and especially this one....oh well,the atleast showed me what kind of parent I don't wanna be...

 

[leeanne]

Thank you.It was a very emotionally stressful week,a questioned my decision thousand times.Thank you for all the lovely things you guys said...My parents have been a disappointment to me many times and especially this one....oh well,the atleast showed me what kind of parent I don't wanna be...

Live and learn from them sweetie

 

[nikky0907]

exactly,maybe they did teach me something,never tought I'd say that...

 

[lifeguard]

When my SIL got pregnant it was like the world was ending for my in-laws. Big deal!!! But believe me, by the time he was born they were 100% on board & have been there every step of the way since.

If so many others thought they would be supportive I would guess once they've had some time to digest it & accept it they'll come around.

In the mean time keep taking good care of yourself!

 

[nikky0907]

I'll try.Thank you for beliveing in my parents!

 

[Gabi]

Sorry to hear the reaction wasn't as you'd hoped.

I remember when my SIL fell pregnant a few years back her dad actually exploded at her (we were there) he told her they were both stupid.

She was in college and living at home and her b/f was living there with her.
I think she terminated that pregnancy herself. I remember walking out to their back garden and seeing her with a beer in one hand and a cigarette in the other telling me she was having one last party.

Either she's really stupid or that was a well thought out plan. She miscarried a week later and took her place as daddy's little girl once more.

I'm glad that you've chosen to not allow this to affect you. When your parents see how well you're doing they'll soon turn. I think it was just the shock to them. If not then wait till the birth. I've seen many parents turn suddenly after the baby is there.

We all need the support of those around us when things like this happen. I'm glad that your friends, sister and the baby's father are happy for you.

All the best!

 

[vickilouise]

may sound harsh but bo**ocks to them nicky.
concentrate on looking after yourself and getting things ready for your lil one.
take the attitude of if they come around they come around no sh*t off your shovel so to speak.
if they come around nice one but if not dont get down over it just remember your going to have a son or daughter soon and he or she will be the center of your universe.
my dad took it not bad as such just asked me about what i was going to do about uni and made me feel like shit when he was askin me where i was going to live and how we are going to afford it etc he didnt react like your parents but he didnt exactly run round whooping and hollering haha. now though theres no stopping him he takes pride in telling people he's going to be a grandad.

it'll all work out just dont stress about it. let them come to you.

 

[maddiwatts19]

Awww bless you hun!. Thats horrible!. But as some of the other girls have said, if they're going to be like that, you dont need them!! You dont need them to stress you out right now!. I'm sure that in time, they'll come round. Hope everything works out for you.
xxx