the nerve some pregnant women have...

[tamithomas]

I think I'm at the end of my rope right now..My cousin is going on a freak out because of her major hair loss that most post partum pregnant women get when hormones go out of wack after giving birth. Like really? Do you really need to be complaining about something so freaking stupid to me out of all people who would kill to have given birth to not only one, but a 2nd child? Most easy fertile women really don't understand how good they got it. I'd get my head laser shaved so I'm stuck with no hair for the rest of my life if that's what it would take to be a mother. The nerve some of these people have is unreal... not saying she doesn't have a right to complain, but finding hair loss to be the end of the world while you got two beautiful boys in your home and a loving husband.. is that really all you care about is your looks? On top of it they're probably about to TTC again and I'm just waiting for the instant snap of a finger announcement of yet another BFP. Jealousy 101 running through my blood today

 

[hopefulbaby]

I totally understand how you feel.

Ladies who can get pregnant in under a year have no idea what it's like to be constantly BBT, peeing on sticks.... and then trying to be happy for all your real life friends who get pregnant so easily and then ask you when you're going to try for a baby, without realizing that you've been trying for a loooooooooooooong time. Even my mom makes the remark about her "future grandchildren" and she knows about the infertility treatments we've been going through.

It all hurts, none the less. I'm ashamed to admit I've gotten to the point where I avoid the baby section in stores.

I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it doesn't. Just hang in there and keep your chin up! The only thing that has worked for me is to try not to think so much about it so I can at least stay somewhat sane.

 

[tamithomas]

I totally understand how you feel.

Ladies who can get pregnant in under a year have no idea what it's like to be constantly BBT, peeing on sticks.... and then trying to be happy for all your real life friends who get pregnant so easily and then ask you when you're going to try for a baby, without realizing that you've been trying for a loooooooooooooong time. Even my mom makes the remark about her "future grandchildren" and she knows about the infertility treatments we've been going through.

It all hurts, none the less. I'm ashamed to admit I've gotten to the point where I avoid the baby section in stores.

I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it doesn't. Just hang in there and keep your chin up! The only thing that has worked for me is to try not to think so much about it so I can at least stay somewhat sane.

Agreed 100%. Been TTC for 3 years, and within those 3 years at the 1 year mark my cousin conceived her first son, then at me 2 year mark conceived her 2nd.. my 3rd year mark just passed so I'm expected a 3rd to be announced soon. At the 2nd year mark, no disrespect to older TTC'ers I respect them loads but I went to my annual family reunion..first of all, kids everywhere, 2ndly couldn't believe it but my aunt who is in early stages of menopause at the age of 47 managed to get BFP so she was walking around with a nice round bump. Made the excuse this year that I was sick so I could avoid the reunion, was too much to handle this year. Wasn't up for it. First thing I thought of when I showed up and saw her with a bump was "really? She gets a bump while I'm a younger 23 year old and what is considered the ultimate child bearing age and doesn't?" needless to say I drank 3 very tall glasses of wine and spent most of the reunion outside on the porch while I was still a smoker then (been quit for 4 months now yay!)

Just like many, I have my good days and my bad days. Today with my cousin freaking out over something so silly when she's got what I want the most made it one of the bad ones. Tried explaining to her in a calm fashion that she should count her blessings of the cause of the side effect and nope, that crossed right over her head. Thanks for listening

 

[MissOleiane]

I understand. I want to slap my SIL everytime she says TTC was "soooo stressful" when they got pregnant the first month they tried... We've been trying for 18 months, really wanna talk about stress!?

It was hard being happy for her.

 

[tamithomas]

I understand. I want to slap my SIL everytime she says TTC was "soooo stressful" when they got pregnant the first month they tried... We've been trying for 18 months, really wanna talk about stress!?

It was hard being happy for her.

woah wait, so she thinks TTC is stressful when she only went through one 2ww? that officially goes on the number one slot of stupidest things I've ever heard in the TTC world lol.

 

[MissOleiane]

I understand. I want to slap my SIL everytime she says TTC was "soooo stressful" when they got pregnant the first month they tried... We've been trying for 18 months, really wanna talk about stress!?

It was hard being happy for her.

woah wait, so she thinks TTC is stressful when she only went through one 2ww? that officially goes on the number one slot of stupidest things I've ever heard in the TTC world lol.

Yep

Her baby is 5 months old now and she still talks about how stress she was when they were trying... and wonders how she will make it next time

 

[Armywife84]

It's unreal how women take what they have for granted.

I'd gladly give my right arm for a viable pregnancy!

 

[Just_married]

A pregnant 47 year old? Woop! I'm in with a chance then!

 

[vermeil]

When I was in the hospital careteria with my son fighting for his life in the nicu, the pregnant woman next to me kept complaining for a solid 30 minutes how ugly her feet were because they were so swollen. Are you kidding me?? I would have given ANYTHING for my son to reach 30 weeks gestation and so have better survival odds and you find your feet ugly?? I was sooo upset I had to get up and leave.

A good friend was depressed because she didn't get the homebirth she wanted. Everything else was textbook and her baby was healthy. But she was upset for months because she didn't get a home birth.

In a baby store a lady threw a FIT and YELLED at the clerk because her baby was due this month and she couldn't get the furniture in the tone of blue she wanted.

All I wanted was for my son to survive. Those months were just surreal. Definitely reorganizes your priorities in life.

When I hear pregnant women complain they are getting pudgy, or ladies moan and cry because they've been ttc for a whole 3 months, I seriously want to smack them. I'm only 9 months in for #2 and I already feel completely looney.

You ladies are all so brave and strong.

 

[tamithomas]

A pregnant 47 year old? Woop! I'm in with a chance then!

Hehe, indeed you are. Like I said, I have major respect for the older TTC'ers it was just my aunt in particular that rubbed me the wrong way because of it being an oops BFP while I'm trying everything at the age of 23 had me on the rocks. to you

vermeil: I feel you completely, I mean yes they have a right to complain but seriously those are such small things to complain about. How about counting your blessings instead of searching for small negative things to make yourself sound like a selfish mother who doesn't seem to understand what a miracle a baby really is (meaning the mothers who complain about small things). Will keep my fingers FX for you for you #2

 

[B.J.Ld]

I feel your pain ladies. I wish people would just consider what they are saying and WHO they are saying it too!

 

[Kimiw]

It is silly the things pregnant women complain about. I had a friend who was pregnant (which was an ooops one night stand) and all she complained about was how she already had two teenage boys and a 12 year old daughter. She didn't like being pregnant again and she complained the whole time. I just wanted to slap her. I would have KILLED to have what she had (a baby not an oops one night stand lol). I have been trying for 6 years with my husband, she has a drunk ooops experience and gets knocked up, I was pissed.

 

[hopefulbaby]

It's unreal how women take what they have for granted.

I'd gladly give my right arm for a viable pregnancy!

AGREED! Ugh...

 

[PinkPeony]

I had some major hairloss when I went off birth control - basically same reason it can happen after having a baby. At the time I thought it was the END OF THE WORLD. Looking back.... That was seriously nothing. If I ever have a baby and that happens again I know I won't even bat an eyelash after everything I've gone through to get there.