The one thing I can't stand hearing (Rant)

[MommaAlexis]

Is "maybe he just got cold feet" or "he might change his mind after LO is born. This was a planned pregnancy, we've been together for about 2-3 years and were engaged. The day of the ultrasound when pregnancy was confirmed he told my roommates he wouldn't come home until I moved out and accused me of cheating. he's been in and out of his two daughters lives (different mothers) and only sees them when it suits his needs! To be honest, I don't WANT him to come back. Even if he did come back he would have to work like hell to see LO because I've seen how unstable he is with his other two. And now he's walked out on me and haven't heard from him in over a month. So, no it's not cold feet. And even if it was, I don't care. just irritated with everyone saying we'll get back together and how a kid needs a dad. You're right, a kid needs a dad. Until I see a dad standing in front of me he will get a closed door. rant over. *exhales*

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i don't believe a kid needs a dad at all hun. A kid needs a parent what's going to love them, care for them, be there 24/7 for them, protect them etc whether it be a mam or a dad. If they have 2 people what can provide that then its a bonus, but myy son is perfectly happy with just me bringing him up & i know for a fact if i was still with his dad he wouldn't be the same happy little boy he is now you're better off without him x x

 

[george83]

i don't believe a kid needs a dad at all hun. A kid needs a parent what's going to love them, care for them, be there 24/7 for them, protect them etc whether it be a mam or a dad. If they have 2 people what can provide that then its a bonus, but myy son is perfectly happy with just me bringing him up & i know for a fact if i was still with his dad he wouldn't be the same happy little boy he is now you're better off without him x x

well said!!

 

[ZombieQueen]

I strongly believe that a child is so much better off with one loving parent and stability rather than one loving parent and a second parent who comes and goes and leaves the child wondering "where's daddy?" Which is why I made the choice to leave my husband, he can't commit to me, our future or our LO, so I'm not gonna sit around and watch him change his mind over and over and hurt our little girl. People tell me that he will change his mind, but I flat out tell people that he had his chances, dozens of them, and I'm done. We dont need these jerks.

 

[peapod11]

i really wish i had ur strong attitude
my fob let me after 4yrs together and im not coping at all... i dont really text him, so its not like im nagging him im just not dealing with things well

 

[MommaAlexis]

It's just so frustrating hearing how we'll work it out, etc. Thanks girls! Just had an annoyed moment haha!

 

[xxxjessxxx]

You sound like a strong women who know best

 

[MommaAlexis]

Everyone in my life is trying to make it seem like it's out of spite and being silly. I haven't heard from him in over a month now though. I wish I could just make people stop asking where he is haha.

 

[Laura2919]

If one parent is giving the child all they need and the other is a waste of space they are better off without.

Keep strong

 

[moomin_troll]

I certainly didn't need my dad and I've done just fine without him!
My boys can't have their dad, but they have a mother who worships the ground they walk and crawl on and that's all that counts.