jessmke
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My DD was the easiest, most independent and easy-going baby until she turned 1. Then for the last year it has been non-stop clinginess and whining and I just can't take it anymore! She gets a lot of one-on-one attention, I went back to work when she was 1, but only for 6 months before start maternity leave again, but even when back at work she only went to daycare 2 afternoons a week because my OH and I worked opposite shifts. So in the last year she almost always has one of us home with her. I don't think any of it has to do with the birth of her brother because it started before he was born and didn't change or get any worse after his birth (and she absolutely adores him and hasn't had a single moment of jealously that we've noticed). If we are out of the house at playgroup or a friend's house where there are other kids for her to play with she is an absolute pleasure, but at home she just does.not.stop.whining. She has also started asking constantly to be picked up, and since we started telling her "sorry I can't pick you up right now because I'm ___" she now asks constantly for a hug because she knows we won't say no to that. We play with her a lot at home and give her a lot of affection, but sometimes I need to go throw the laundry in the dryer or scarf down a piece of toast, I can't just spend every waking minute playing with her or walking around holding her. It is starting to drive me insane and after a year of this I just feel like I don't enjoy spending time with her at home anymore. She also does not like to be cuddled, so we can't just lay on the couch and have a cuddle, she asks to be picked up all the time but then when you do pick her up she is just squirming and trying to grab things of the counter or asking "whats this" and pointing to everything she sees (even if she knows exactly what it is), so I don't think she is looking for affection when asking to be picked up. When she starts whining I tell her I can't understand her when she whines, or I ask her to stop whining and just tell me what she wants. She will then repeat without whining what she wants, or she will just ask to be picked up or for a hug. Can anyone else relate, or give me some tips on how to deal? We are out of the house at activities or playgroups Mon-Thurs from 9am-noon, but I can't just leave the house every time she starts whining and clinging to my pant legs. Help!