think ive just become single...

[AriannasMama]

lately OH and i fight all the time, we just had a huge one and now he says he wants "space" and that i dont care about him. i do not fucking get it or him, i feel so stressed out about it like i need to tip toe around him to not piss him off, he is a sweet guy but when we fight deff not. idk what to think right now, we were fine a few days ago and now were not ok at all and i dont know why or what to do. =/. i dont wanna do this alone...also he was getting mad at me all day for reminding him to request off the day we have our gender scan, i told him about 5 times and he still never did it, im starting to think he doesnt care about me or baby

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

I'm sorry he's acting this way.
Have you tried asked him calmly why he hasn't requested the day off yet? Maybe he's afraid of his boss?

If I were you and I wanted to fix things, I'd try talking to him about seeing a couples therapist. I know it sounds silly, but having a baby takes a huge toll on any relationship and sometimes it takes an outside party to make us see the ways we can improve it. Before FOB and I stopped talking completely, we were going to do to it. Not to get back together, but to learn how to deal with each other without it involving murder.

 

[AriannasMama]

Well its a new job but he had already requested off another date for a regular baby appointment and forgot what date the scan was, which is why i kept reminding him. I know he is probably stressed with everything going on (just started 2 jobs, this baby coming, him trying to find his daughter -previous post, having some trouble with his ex not allowing him to see her) but he cant take it all out on me, and I feel like he doesn't understand that i am going to be more emotional than usual. I dont think he would go for therapy...I think he really just needs some space. Idk, I just dont want to loose him.

 

[AriannasMama]

I am sure the forgetting to request it off is just a man thing but I was telling him all day to call in and request it off and he just kept saying "ok" but never got around to it cause he was doing something on the computer (probably playing a game for all i know). ugh, I'm sure some if it is my hormones but I wish he understood that. Also he is now telling me if I give him space he cant "promise me anything because he gets lonely often" meaning he cant promise that he will stay faithful? wtf. if there was a smiley of someone pulling out their hair I would put that in here, lol.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Hugs hun. Things will be ok xx

 

[ktm]

men are from a different planet to us, they never think about the little things i have t constantly remind my man about dates etc. it could be hes stressed out at work.
im sure you'll work things out give him time to calm down and try talking to him tell him how u feel about things but also ask him how hes feeling about everything u both got going on at present, it will make him feel appreciated and thought of.

i have a 7 yrs old daugther from a previous relationship i was a single parent before she turn 5 weeks old it was hard but i did it. i knew it was the best thing for me and my daughter to go it alone due to arguements and constant bickering i didnt want her around that.
im not saying thats want u should do am sure things will turn out fine with u both but just so u know been a single parent is hard but ur strong enough to do it if u needed too.
x