this might go to court.. D;

[stephanie20]

okay so i'm 15 weeks pregnant with my ex who decided to do a runner after i got pregnant.

since we split up he has been to the first scan where he said he was "gutted" when he saw the baby come up on the screen and said if i had it i'd be on my own making me cry in the hospital then telling me to shut up because it was making him look bad.

he then bought a scan picture from the hospital and then posted it through my door later on in the day and walked off, then came back and threatened to smash my windows if i didn't give it him back. I didn't give it him back but later went round to his mums house to give it to her.

heard nothing off him but a few days later got a random message on facebook off my ex before this one saying that my most recent ex has told him that he is the father of the baby when that is impossible.

i know he has also been in trouble with the police before for stealing, taking drugs and dealing drugs (cocaine) and i know now that he is dealing again (cannubis)

my question is if i decided i want him to have nothing to do with the baby (which i don't now tbh) can he take me to court for custody or even visitation rights and if so, is he likely to win or will i?

i have never been in trouble with the police and i am trying to do the best for my child

thanks

 

[Snowball]

If you don't have him on the Birth Certificate he'd first have to prove he's the father to get his parental rights. Then he can take you to court if he wants but from what I've heard, it can be so so long winded, some men get bored and give up midway through.

From what you say it doesn't sound like he has a hope in hell of winning in court. I'd just stand back and let him try. Aslong as you are a good mother and your baby is well cared for, you don't have a thing to worry about

 

[stephanie20]

Well i don't want him on the birth certificate but i want to claim child support off him and I'm thinking when he gets a letter off them he'll deny that its his baby anyway so they'll make him do a DNA test so it will be estabilished that he is the father.

If the court process is so long winded he'll probably get bored lol.

Thanks

 

[angelpkj]

DONT put him on the BC
worst thing i ever did with my fob cause he brings it up as if hes dad of the year

csa are hard work and not worth it

realisticly u have to think,if u want him to pay for a child he doesnt see is that fair??

i dont want fob around my lo so i dont ask for money,he trys giving me the odd 10 bob here and there but i really would rather not have it,not worth him bringing it up "ohh well i give u a tenner other week for him"


my ex is a dealer and involved with drugs,he lives with 2 other people who are the same so i dont want him near my LO he also has a little girl so i've seen how bad he is as a father

i changed my number 3 times as he has my mums-there is no need for him to have mine
he got hold of it somehow the other day and said i will be sent solicitors letters and he will see me in court :/

they will always grant visits no matter how bad the father is,this i strongly disagree with

 

[darsilver1]

I personally have always had the attitude of leaving the door open for my LO to see his child. I have an almost 6 yr old son and I have always told his father that if he wants to see his kid, he can. But he never has taken the initiative. I have an active child support order against him because I believe he should be financially responsible for this child since I didn't create the child on my own. I have never once denied him access to his son. Now I do believe that if LO father became a danger to child he would not be allowed to see LO but that is not the case. I believe children often grow up hating the momma when they decide at a later age "oh let me find out about my dad" and then dad often says "well your mom wouldn't let me see you". Then kids goes on hating mom. So to minimize the chance of this, I have always been cooperative in the aspect of visitation. No one can say I interfered. I will be the same way with the LO even though LO father and I are on real bad terms. I have to put my anger aside and remember that LO may want to see her dad regardless of how I feel about him. I also plan on taking him to court as well for child support. I just think that children don't understand what mommas have to go through when they are at the young age seeking out father. When they get older, most do seek out the other parent. I don't want anything to be used against me because I worked hard to raise this child on my own, and I would damned if LO father tries to reap the benefits of the hard work I have done when he hasn't been involved. Hope things work out.