I was babyish and didn't 'dare' look at what actually went on down there. I just took the midwives word for it. Peeing really stung for quite a few weeks, that was my main gripe. Keeping very well hydrated helped (diluted the pee and made it less stingy). I'd say about 4 weeks before I felt everything was 'okay'. On the day of being 6 weeks PP I did look with a mirror and couldn't really see any signs of what went on. I read my notes and it said perineal and labial I think.
I didn't have sex until 6 weeks...I was dead nervous. It was 'ok', the worst part was anticipating any pain rather than there actually being any. and then the next time pretty much normal. I felt like a tiny bit of stinging re-occured around 7 weeks or so, but now at 9 weeks I feel totally normal.