Thought I was managing to stay calm

[marina294]

this pregnancy is after my missed miscarriage two months ago naturally I feel worried but have been able to keep calm. I haven't had many symptoms yet other than minor waves of nausea every once in a while and cramping. I know cramping is normal in early pregnancy but yesterday it was a constant highly feeling in my left side for nearly an hour,feel much better today. I don't why but was struggling to pick up the phone and book a booking in appt.anyway ring this morning only to be told they have changed there policies since I had my last booking in appt two months ago saying I can't book with the midwife I have to book with gp and get a form to book it. And the only appt they have is in two weeks otherwise I'd have to ring for an on the day appt which I feel is a waste because before with dd2 they said I needed to see the gp and even he said it wasn't necessary but they have changed policies again.
I am irrationally thinking it's some sort of signthat something will go wrong and hung up in tears.
I think I felt like I could have some control of the situation by booking the appt then waiting, I knew what to expect,having to see the gp almost feels like I need to prove i m pregnant and I will have to explain past history not only to him but then the midwife...I know it sounds like a weird ramble just hate being in limbo you feel so on your own in this first few weeks of pregnancy

 

[mummy2o]

First of all big breath. They are terrible about changing policies here. I've been pregnant 4 times in the last 4 years (only 1 baby though) and the booking in appointment has changed every time. This time I had a snooty receptionist tell me I could only have a booking pack if I had an appointment with the midwife, which I do but wouldn't believe me so I haven't got a pack.

Its normal to feel scared about the next pregnancy after a miscarriage, especially until you hit the magic 12 weeks (although will be 24 for me as I had a 2nd trimester miscarriage) and your worry about every cramp, stretch and anything else going on. As long as your not bleeding I would say try to relax. I know easier said than done as I'm terrible for this as I've also had no morning sickness so haven't really felt that positive. But I did have a scan at 7 weeks and saw a heartbeat, although since that was ages ago I've been worrying again. Just take one day at a time.

 

[marina294]

Thank you for taking time to reply and I'm so sorry for your loss.it is almost like I'm trying to control something that is beyond my control to try to protect myself if you know what I mean and after being so nervous to make that call and deal with theoretically an obstacle threw me off but feeling much calmer now.I know what will be will be just easier said then done to go with the flow. I hope everything goes well for you to x

 

[AnnNI]

I completely understand where u are at - i had second mc in March....im feeling exactly the same. Im 6weeks tomorrow (and even saying that - im trying to protect myself and not allowing myself to get excited). I worry every time i have an ache or twinge and wonder - did i feel like this during my last 2mc or did i feel like this with my DS 3years ago?? Its so very hard....I wish someone would hand me miracle dust ...Your doing great - keeping so calm. xxx

 

[Blu10]

Early pregnancy after loss is awful! The worry and stress are no fun at all. Im now 11 weeks pregnant after 2 losses and refused to see a midwife and do my booking paperwork again until we had an early scan as i felt it was a waste of time. Ive had lots of bleeding with this baby but so far all seems well x