Thought I'd got over it but...

[MarieLou72]

Hi everyone

Had to get my feelings out as don't know what else to do.

My friend and I both fell pregnant at the same time - our due dates were only 5 days apart. We met in hospital just after having our first babies and have become really close since. Everything was going great until I found out at 8 weeks that I'd had a missed mc, then mc'd naturally a week later. I was devastated. It had taken almost a year to get pregnant. It only took my friend about 3 months.

I had a few days of crying, but then starting feeling more positive and looking forward to TTC again asap. My friend called me today - she went for her 12 week scan yesterday and all's well. I'm really happy for her, but every time I think about her I start crying as she is going through all the stages of pregnancy that I would have been going through had it not been for the mc.

Sorry for the long post. Am just finding this much harder than I thought. I'm 36 and just feel like my body clock is ticking and can't believe after a year of trying to get pregnant I lose it. Also I haven't a clue when I'll ovulate now so scared I'm going to miss my first chance to conceive again.

 

[jk28]

Oh hunni

So sorry for how you're feeling & what you're going through at the moment. It's so hard following a mc & every pg woman & baby makes you want to burst into tears. I've had 2 mmc's & since then the amount of friends falling pg or have had babies, well I've lost count, & each one just seems to hurt a little more. It must be so hard when you have your friends pg as a reminder to you, & there's nothing I can say to make you feel better. I just wanted you to know you're not alone & there are people here who understand & will listen. Take care

Love Jayne x

 

[hellotasha]

I just want to say im so sorry for what you are going threw. I wish you all the happiness in the world xxxxx

 

[todteach]

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. Sorry about your loss. Four months after my mmc, I'm still finding it hard to cope, but the girls on this forum are wonderful. If you need an ear, know that we are all hear to listen. Take care hun.

 

[cerilou]

Hi hunny, you are not alone. I have 2 close friends who are pregnant and I would have been about 3 weeks behind them. I find it really hard sometimes to deal with their excitement after each scan but feel I can't be miserable around them.

Your time will come. In the meantime, look after yourself.

 

[Lazy Leo]

I'm so sorry hun, this must just rub salt in a painful wound. I don't know how you get through this one, but somehow you will find a way. Sending you massive hugs and keeping you in my thoughts xx

 

[JJF]

Marielou-your story sounds very much like mine My best friend and I were both prego with our #3's and we were due 9 days apart. She has had 1 previous MC and I had had 2 previous MC so we both sort of knew that one of us may lose the pregnancy and sure enough it was me I had a very hard time for many weeks, wanting to be supportive to her and didn't want her to feel like she couldn't share but everyday she complained about her Morning Sickness and how bad she felt, I just wanted to say, I'd gladly hang over the toilet (as I did with my 1st two children). I has gotten better, don't think Idon't still calculte how 'far' i am behind her, ect, but I've finally made some peace with it thanks to this site! Another irky part is she wasn't sure yet if she truely wanted to have a 3rd, and she THOUGHT she had OV already that month so she sort of got prego with out truely knowing yet if she wanted another and i found it interesting she just happend to have un protected sex 'around the time she thinks she was ovulating' anyhoo, I'm done ranting, ha.

 

[scrubgrub]

I sympathize. Of the 6 couples we hang out with regularly, 5 of them are as well as 2 of my co-workers. It's hard. I think to a certan extent I am handling it well, but every now and again I just think about my mc and just cry, or sometimes I just feel sad and don't even know why. It's nice to have these boards, and to go through all the announcements and just see all the wonderful girls on here. it's motivating. I guess I feel like I'm here with people like me (not like all my prego friends ), who are trying and it's motivating... but because it's been 3 months now for me, and I'm still a bit sad inside, and I still thing my hormones are still a bit wacky.