Thoughts - TTC 2.5 Years

[mrsbertrand]

Hi All,

I've posted on here a time or two, and am just feeling like I need to express a few things about my TTC journey.

My Hubby and I decided to TTC December 18th of 2013. I had 6 months left of my college program and was set to graduate in June.

We BD'd every day for two months - no success.

from there I went to an OB-GYN who sent me for hormonal testing - All is well.

Being told there is nothing wrong when you can't seem to conceive is very frustrating. Gain weight they said. Well my mum conceived when she was 90 lbs, and I've a friend or two who have done the same. I can't make it past 115 lbs so that's not really a feasible thing...

Anywho..... Friends and family members got pregnant and had their babies, and we still have not.

Now we're in 2016, began testing at the fertility clinic in April, all is good, tubes are open, no issues for me. Ovulation day 16, BD's within recommended time frames, still nothing.....

His morphology is abnormal, and his motility is a bit low but the specialist did not seem concerned. Prescribed some suppliments but hubby is forgetful......

I did one round on Femara in June, and have since stopped going.

Let me tell you, trying to conceive takes the fun out of sex, when you feel like if you don't do it you are single handedly ruining your chances if you're not in the mood.

We've since decided to focus on work, and love, and our sex life vs trying to make a baby, but when your coworker, your cousin, your brother and a good number of your friends are on Baby number two in the span of time you've been trying to conceive, it is very difficult to convince yourself that your single goal in life isn't to start a family.

I am trying to fight the sadness that comes with learning another couple is pregnant, as I would not wish infertility on anyone, but I am left wondering - When will it be my turn?

So for anyone who is feeling this way, you are not alone.

Thanks for listening!

 

[MKaykes]

Hi Mrsb! I hear ya! I have tried to keep myself off Facebook as I feel like at least once a week someone posts a pregnancy announcement! And yeah, I don't wish this long journey on anyone, but does always make me a little bitter. Like the one that came up this weekend, they just got married in May and are 12 wks along. I've been married 2 years and TTC for 20 months.

One thing I have to remind myself too is, you never know how long they were trying, but sometimes you just know it was either an accident or a lucky thing for them.

Good place hear to let it out! I think it is one of those things only someone who has been through it really understands.

 

[2ducks]

Hey girl! I just read your whole post three times. You have has such a hard road. We were ttc 15 months which felt like an eternity, 2.5 years is a very long time. My best friend got pregnant and had a baby in the time we were ttc. Every time I got a new video or picture texted of her baby it made me feel so sad. Timed sex loses its fun after just a few months.

It sounds like you and your DH need a nice long break from ttc. Its not preferable since you wanted to be pregnant 2.5 years ago but you are completely taxed. Come up with a new "start date" where you get back on fermera and start timed sex again. In the meantime its great that you and DH are focusing on your relationship. Take a vacation this winter, Cancun is cheap and fun! When you get to your new start date, restart Femera and continue with fertility treatments. In the meantime, your DH should be taking his supplements every day. It takes 3 months for new sperm to fully develop and he needs to be consistent. I had to really help my partner remember his supplements. I bought him a daily pill organizer and set it up every Sunday and also set a morning alarm on his phone.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. The universe is unfair. Hang in there and don't give up hope!

I spent most of my time on the TTC#1 forum, its a forum dedicated for people who are trying for their first, it is very chill and not as busy as the regular ttc thread. There are a lot of really nice girls who are having fertility issues who support each other. I would recommend heading over there and checking it out. I found a lot of comfort with the TTC#1 community.

 

[MrsMcCurdy]

Girl, I so feel ya... You took the words right out of my mouth... I've done clomid 3 times, had testing with nothing obviously wrong except I don't ovulate(major problem, hah!).... Lots of my friends have had their first and my SIL is preg with second and started trying for her first a year after I started... Feels so unfair.
There's no magic thing to do with ltttc, it's daily a different battle. It sucks. Most ppl don't understand unless they've been there but us ltttc gals are pretty tight knit peeps and we're always here to listen.
Good luck! Finds ways to keep it fun.

 

[mrsbertrand]

Thanks guys! It's great to have a source for support.

Good luck and baby dust to you MrsMcCurdy & MKaykes. Congrats to you 2ducks! I too am here to listen, and appreciate the advice

 

[2ducks]

How are you doing??? It just kills me that total crackpots get three pages worth of responses and your wonderful, thoughtful thread only gets three!

 

[krissie328]

I can completely relate. It took 8 years of ttc to get our ds. All of my friends have mods in elementary and one is even in middle school.

Fast forward and we started ttc number 2 in November 2014 and we are still trying.

I agree with the other poster about taking a break. Maybe ntnp and set a new date to get back to ttc. If you can afford it plan a vacation.

Also, ask the doctor about iui. It sounds like you might be dealing with a sperm issue and that could help.

 

[mrsbertrand]

I can completely relate. It took 8 years of ttc to get our ds. All of my friends have mods in elementary and one is even in middle school.

Fast forward and we started ttc number 2 in November 2014 and we are still trying.

I agree with the other poster about taking a break. Maybe ntnp and set a new date to get back to ttc. If you can afford it plan a vacation.

Also, ask the doctor about iui. It sounds like you might be dealing with a sperm issue and that could help.

Hello Krissie!

Thanks for your reply.

iui has been recommended, but unfortunately it's not in the budget right now

We are waitlisted for funded IVF 2018, so perhaps we will try to budget for iui in 2017.

7 dpo and my teeth have been killing me for 2 days. Who knows, we're just playing it by ear for now, and not stressing about it

A vacation would be lovely lol.

Baby dust to you and FX!

 

[mrsbertrand]

How are you doing??? It just kills me that total crackpots get three pages worth of responses and your wonderful, thoughtful thread only gets three!

Hello! I appreciate the thought lol!

I'm doing ok, focusing on my growing business and my hubby. 7dpo and teeth are sore as hell lol. Maybe this month? Who knows, but we aren't stressing about it

How are you and the little bean?

xx