Tips needed for scan tomorrow - so scared

[Blondie007]

Hi everyone, I haven't been posting much until now as been taking each day as it comes. I had a miscarriage in Febuary after TTC for 1 year and I was devastated. I was 10 weeks. I was having early scans due to spotting and I had to keep going back weekly till I had a scan that showed the heartbeat.

On the 3rd scan the sonographer said the words that will haunt me forever and told me that I would miscarry as she could tell the sac was showing signs of collapse

I had to wait a week and go back for one last scan as they spotted a very slow heartbeat but really that was it. After my 4th scan, I miscarried that weekend.

So, I waited 2 cycles and ttc again as had waited more than a year last time and I am 31. I was starting to panic that I may never fall pregnant again. So, I was over the moon when I fell the very next cycle and I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I haven't booked in to midwife yet and haven't had an early scan as I am just too scared.

The EPU near me is so good and have told me that I can go in for a scan whenever I feel up to it. I am just so scared about walking in to that scan room. My scan is tomorrow morning because I am now past the time things went wrong in February but I really don't know if I can walk in to the room without breaking down and having some kind of stupid episode

I was wondering if this feeling is normal and also if any of you lovely ladies have any words of wisdom for me to help me stay calm tomorrow?

Thank you to anyone that replies and also I am sorry for all your losses xxx

 

[tiny tots]

Hey Blondie

Reading your post is an exact experience as me. I havent posted much on here too as so scared its going to happen again. I am also 31 and even though so many people keep saying that i am still young i am starting to panic on how much time i have.

I too had a miscarriage in February. I was almost 10 weeks. The baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. It was absolutely devastating going for that scan.

Now i am 11 weeks pregnant!!! I had another scare last weekend and so had to be referred for another scan last Tuesday. I really thought it was over again. I cryed with happiness when she showed us on screen that all was fine and there was a heartbeat. I know how scary it is going into that room and just waiting for the news. You can do it!! I was shaking when i was called in and was on the verge of tears. It has now put my mind at ease and stopped me stressing so much. Like you i am now further gone then last time and i am having symptoms this time whereas i didnt have hardly anything before.

I take it you havent had any scares in this pregnancy? xx

 

[Blondie007]

Hi tinytots. Firstly, so sorry that you have had to go through this too. It was just so awful. Thanks for your message. So far, I have had no scares (almost scared to write that!). It makes me feel better to know that you are in the same position as me and you are doing well. I am terrified about tomorrow and will probably be in tears.

I am so worried that they will tell me it is a MMC. I am having symptoms but no MS, just feeling of not really fancying much to eat.

Fingers crossed for tomorrow and hope you have a very healthy remainder to your pregnancy xxx

 

[tiny tots]

How did it go Blondie??? Hoping it went well. xxx