Tired of people saying my 2mo is "too small"..

[starshinebby]

My EBF 2mo is apparently "too small" according to just about everyone. He was 8lbs 7oz when born but I don't remember what he weighed in at during his last doctor's visit (I think he was about 4 weeks then?). We haven't been to his well baby checks because he's not sick and we aren't vax'ing him.

He eats great. He actually weaned himself off the nipple shield just yesterday and we've been using it since my milk came in. He pees a good amount a day and does his little poos ever few days, which are all signs he's eating good. He's content after eating, I can hear him swallowing and if he's not getting any for whatever reason he fusses to let me know, I fix the problem and he's good to go.

I think he's just small. But because I EBF and everyone in my family formula fed they're trying to hint at me supplementing with all these comments. It's frustrating and I'm tired of my son being called tiny because I know what they mean by it... ):

 

[optimistic1]

I would tell them all to shove it and stop worrying about your lo if you wanted there judgy opinions you'd ask! If your lo went from using a nipple shield this entire time to not with no struggle that's amazing progress and can only help weight gain supplementing with formula would be ridiculous just because your baby isn't as "big" as your family would like. That's why he's your lo and not theirs! Sometimes I feel like people push formula out of jealousy especially when there's no need for it. When someone says I am going to breast feed in a family full of formula feeders there first thought is she'll never stick with it because they didn't and when you do stick with it instead of being happy for you they want to take it away. (that may not be the case for you with your family but that's how it is with mine)

 

[missk1989]

As long as he isnt loosing weight he is fine. Ignore all! YOu can never win with these things. MY lo is big for his age and i always hear peaple saying how big he is. My Grandma even said i feed him too much the other day. I ignored her!

 

[Tess.ie]

It just makes you want to tell people there's no prize for growing the biggest baby!!! Your lo is happy and healthy and that's what matters

 

[tinytabby]

I had this problem. My LO was on the 9th centile and I was always being told she was too small. She's just a wee pixie!

If you're getting lots of wet nappies, baby is putting on weight and meeting their milestones then you've nothing to worry about. Good for you for sticking to your guns and feeding your baby the best way.

 

[Bevziibubble]

As long as your LO isn't losing weight and is having plenty of wet nappies then I wouldn't think that there was any cause to worry. Some babies are just naturally petite

 

[Rachel_C]

I think normally people do just like to comment on a baby's weight, it's a pretty easy thing to say and I doubt they mean any harm. I know I'm guilty of it myself. Whatever they weigh, however old they are, I either think a baby is teeny tiny and oh so cute, or gorgeously chubby and oh so cute. I never mean that they're overweight or underweight, just that I forget how small young babies can be, or how cute chubby arm rolls can be!

If the comments are definitely pointed though, I'd just come out with a few prepared comebacks and hopefully after a few your family will realise you're not going to agree with them. Maybe something like "Yeah isn't it great? It's so easy to overfeed a formula fed baby but you really can't with a BF baby so you know they're eating the perfect amount for their body" or "Gosh yes, isn't he tiny compared to the usual big fat babies our family has? Thank goodness for OH's slimmer genes" or simply "Well he's happy and healthy so that must be the weight he's meant to be, he's so perfect". Then smile and ignore them

 

[iwantabub]

Formula baby's actually supposed to have a different growth chart to bf babies as I understand it...

U can over feed bfing and u can't under feed really or they will let u know...

My man has put on 1.3kg in his 5.5 weeks and everyone was saying how that was soon much... But my LC and mw said u can't over feed em and he's just a healthy gainer

However he's actually really small built (was born 7 pound 7) and still fits easily in newborn clothes at nearly 6 weeks.. So everyone who doesn't know his weight says I don't feed him well enough...

Genetics has a lot to do with it. I weight a fair bit more than I look... I hide it well lol... Bubs must be the same


Tell em to fob off...
If ur Lo is happy then who cares

 

[Fortune Cooki]

I'd be tempted to comment about their weight! Hehehe.

 

[maidelyn]

Are you weighing him yourself? That was the main reason I went to the baby clinic.
My little boy is dinky and has gone from just under the 25th at birth to around the 9 th but dropped down to almost the 2nd in between.
If the charts they are using are for ff babies then download the who ones which are for bf babies

 

[TheNewMrs]

My Dad used to reassure me about my LO saying "Well someone has to be the biggest and someone has to be the smallest...... Shes a whopping 28lbs now at 15 months....

 

[lily28]

Hey, my son is on the "small" side too!

I don't have a problem with my family, they actually know to appreciate a petite baby, and they often say he looks tall and perfect compared with preemie me when I was his age.

The problem is with me, I think he is too small when I compare him with babies his age. They are all HUGE! Even if they are BF babies or FF, it doesn't matter they are all 1-2+ kg more than my boy (he is 5.8 kg at 3 months). When I see their chubby legs and faces I think "oh maybe I don't feed him enough"... I know he is ok, he pees, he poops, he is happy and super active, he has plenty of meals as he eats on demand etc... But there is always doubt in my mind.

I wish I could get over it!

 

[summer rain]

Well my youngest people keep commenting on how huge he is, but he isn't! He is just under 12lb at 2 months but was born 8lb 14 so he hasn't gained a huge amount (i think in kgs it is 1.35 or close to that) and though he has chubby thighs otherwise he is slim to average IMHO, he gains 7oz a week. He has grown significantly in length but mainly in the torso, and his head circumference has gone from 25th centile to 91st but so far they are not too concerned as most of my others were on the same centile HC wise or an even higher one, at this age. He really isn't massive though, he is still in 0-3 and 3-6 months stuff (except for my eldest the others were going into 6-9 or even 9-12 months stuff by this age )xx

 

[snowfia]

Everyone kept telling me how small LO was when she was born and was saying it was because I BF her and didn't believe me when I said she was 7lbs 8oz when she was born. But now she's no smaller than other toddlers her age and has put on weight steadily etc.
Just try and ignore them, nothing wrong with them being small if everything else is fine