TMI- not sure what to make of things...

[Laylagirl]

Hi ladies....so here is my deal....im normally very insecure... Especially since gettimg pregnant again with the weight gain and body changes. When husband and I dtd I usually leave my shirt on so he doesnt see my growing belly....

Well, the other day he kicked up the foreplay a notch and sex was incredible.... I want it everyday!! We skipped a day and then had incredible sex again!

I know i am enjoying this more because of the foreplay... We don't usually have foreplay because he suffers from low testosterone and sometimes his erection doesn't last long...so we kind of have to hurry...

But the other day after we were done we were laying talking and he said he lasted longer because i let him take my top down and I wasn't stopping him from undressing me...I usually do tell him I don't want to undress because I don't like my body so thats distracting and takes away from the erection timer, and that he was more rested....

But my concern about this is do you think he could be having sex elsewhere that now he's turned up the foreplay? Am i just letting my insecurity ruin this new experience? I don't know....

Im insecure about the women at his job... I always worry they might catch his attention and he will come home and say SEE YA!

But when he's here at home he's 100% with me. He doesn't hide his phone, i have password to the phone. So i have no doubts about him when he is here.... Am I just being paranoid?

 

[Ladylinks]

Para indeed. Stop second guessing your own godessness!! Embrace it! Many men find their partners growing curves and ample boobage a bigggggg turn on. Revel in your partners new found interest. Why not kick it up a notch you do the instigating in some lovely lingerie. You are woman here you roar!!

 

[Mummy to be x]

It's so easy to become paranoid while pregnant, I've been the same, like you I hide my tummy at times and my growing body, but like you say you know passwords to his phone etc and if there's nothing there to prove he's been upto no good, I say relax!

If you let your mind run away with you it could get very messy, I've done it before and I've learnt to control any paranoid thoughts.

Could you sit and talk with your hubby? Make him understand how you feel? Pregnancy is hard sometimes but it's important your open with hubby so he gets what's going on in your mind x

 

[Laylagirl]

It's so easy to become paranoid while pregnant, I've been the same, like you I hide my tummy at times and my growing body, but like you say you know passwords to his phone etc and if there's nothing there to prove he's been upto no good, I say relax!

If you let your mind run away with you it could get very messy, I've done it before and I've learnt to control any paranoid thoughts.

Could you sit and talk with your hubby? Make him understand how you feel? Pregnancy is hard sometimes but it's important your open with hubby so he gets what's going on in your mind x

Thanks ladies....yeah, we usually have a check in talk about once a week... He always tells me I have nothing to worry about and that he's not going anywhere... And I have voiced my insecurities about the girls at work. He says he goes to work because he needs a job but we have our whole lives together. That he loves what he has with us... But as said, i let my paranoia run wild and I can come up with dozens of ways to see him as a cheater.... Or wanting to cheat. I know he tries hard for our family, but I'm always looking for a negative. Since i fear he will cheat or leave, i want to catch it first before i get blindsided.... My creative imagination.... Bleh.

And Lady, I will definitely be wearing some cute nighty!! Lol

 

[Brightxeyes]

It's natural to be paranoid when you're ever growing.

Maybe every time you've kept your top on he thinks 'why doesn't she want me to see her body?' Obviously he'll know you're insecure but he may start to get paranoid about himself!

It's probably because you did let him undress you and it was just so natural and stuff that he managed to last longer and gave HIM a confidence booster!

So I'd say enjoy it while you can!

I get paranoid also, and I do try to keep my top on unless I'm really hot!!
My boyfriend loves sex, but he works hard and is too tired for it, so when I'm tired and say no he's pretty indifferent cuz he could do with catching up on sleep too! He also never masturbates which I did have a flying paranoid thought thinking does he get it elsewhere? But I've accepted he's too busy.

Maybe your partner has also felt quite self conscious hence low testosterone, like he knows he doesn't last long and it makes him paranoid about not being good enough?
But knowing you're self conscious about YOUR body he's trying to concentrate on making YOU feel good, forgetting about his own worries, getting super turned on, resulting in amazing sex!
I'm pretty sure it's that ^^^

Enjoy it while you can before baby arrives!!!

 

[Laylagirl]

It's natural to be paranoid when you're ever growing.

Maybe every time you've kept your top on he thinks 'why doesn't she want me to see her body?' Obviously he'll know you're insecure but he may start to get paranoid about himself!

It's probably because you did let him undress you and it was just so natural and stuff that he managed to last longer and gave HIM a confidence booster!

So I'd say enjoy it while you can!

I get paranoid also, and I do try to keep my top on unless I'm really hot!!
My boyfriend loves sex, but he works hard and is too tired for it, so when I'm tired and say no he's pretty indifferent cuz he could do with catching up on sleep too! He also never masturbates which I did have a flying paranoid thought thinking does he get it elsewhere? But I've accepted he's too busy.

Maybe your partner has also felt quite self conscious hence low testosterone, like he knows he doesn't last long and it makes him paranoid about not being good enough?
But knowing you're self conscious about YOUR body he's trying to concentrate on making YOU feel good, forgetting about his own worries, getting super turned on, resulting in amazing sex!
I'm pretty sure it's that ^^^

Enjoy it while you can before baby arrives!!!

Thank you for that..made me smile....

 

[lala222]

I'm a very confident person..when im NOT pregnant. I so wish I could be one of those pregnant women who feel so beautiful and love their changing body and embrace their curves and roundness and feel sexier than ever.but...im just not! I feel so insecure when I'm pregnant. If me and my hubby are out and I see a good looking girl I purposely look over at him to see his reaction and try and catch him sneaking a peek at her-which he usually does. hes a guy. When im not pregnant, this doesnt bother me..but does it ever when I am! I like, wont talk to him the rest of the day when I see him checking out a girl. I find it so insensitive to do it right in front of me while I am carrying our child! Yes, Im hormonal so that has to do with it but lets just say in general-I cannot wait to get my pre-pregnancy body back and just feel confident with myself again!

 

[lala222]

and I realize I sort of when off topic there lol..about your situation..I really don't think your OH is cheating as hes having so much sexy time with YOU...I would think if he was cheating he wouldn't be so involved with pleasing you and wanting so much sex with you! Maybe he can sense your insecurity and he just kicked it up a notch to reassure that he finds you beautiful and you have nothing to worry about!!!

 

[RinnaRoo]

He was probably super hot for you because you let him actually see your body. Men are very visual and the like seeing moving breasts and watching as you get undressed. He's your husband, he loves you and your body. If there's one person to be 100% free with, it's him. Judging by your profile picture, I'd say your body looks just fine.

 

[Laylagirl]

He was probably super hot for you because you let him actually see your body. Men are very visual and the like seeing moving breasts and watching as you get undressed. He's your husband, he loves you and your body. If there's one person to be 100% free with, it's him. Judging by your profile picture, I'd say your body looks just fine.

Awww thank you! He told me the other day that not fighting him about my shirt was nice and it took some pressure off because usually when he wants my shirt off I argue and say "no, I don't like my body" and he doesn't argue...we just dtd... So he said i actually went with it making more fun and less distracting (i say that because of my initial post about the low T and short timing as far as the erection)...so it became very enjoyable.... But i always thought he didn't want to see my body...Iam 21 weeks pregnant and this is the first time he's actually seeing my preggy
boobs..lol

 

[Laylagirl]

and I realize I sort of when off topic there lol..about your situation..I really don't think your OH is cheating as hes having so much sexy time with YOU...I would think if he was cheating he wouldn't be so involved with pleasing you and wanting so much sex with you! Maybe he can sense your insecurity and he just kicked it up a notch to reassure that he finds you beautiful and you have nothing to worry about!!!

Thank you.. Im just so insecure about the "not pregnant" single good looking ladies at his work....

 

[sashadoll]

I completely understand. I actually love my preggo body. I always get undressed put on a pouty face and say babe am I fat he smiles and say get over here girl. It makes me feel so sexy when he growls at me lol. I want him to see all of me like I love seeing all of him. Enjoy it hunny!

 

[Laylagirl]

I completely understand. I actually love my preggo body. I always get undressed put on a pouty face and say babe am I fat he smiles and say get over here girl. It makes me feel so sexy when he growls at me lol. I want him to see all of me like I love seeing all of him. Enjoy it hunny!

thats so sweet and romantic.... I dont think my hubby will get THAT adventurous with me! Lol

 

[sashadoll]

I completely understand. I actually love my preggo body. I always get undressed put on a pouty face and say babe am I fat he smiles and say get over here girl. It makes me feel so sexy when he growls at me lol. I want him to see all of me like I love seeing all of him. Enjoy it hunny!

thats so sweet and romantic.... I dont think my hubby will get THAT adventurous with me! Lol

Well than you him get over here boy. And give him the good stuff lol. It's fun and helps me forget about being sick all the time.

 

[lala222]

and I realize I sort of when off topic there lol..about your situation..I really don't think your OH is cheating as hes having so much sexy time with YOU...I would think if he was cheating he wouldn't be so involved with pleasing you and wanting so much sex with you! Maybe he can sense your insecurity and he just kicked it up a notch to reassure that he finds you beautiful and you have nothing to worry about!!!

Thank you.. Im just so insecure about the "not pregnant" single good looking ladies at his work....

I would be if my husband worked with single good looking girls too. Luckily, in his line of work I believe a lot are way older or married already (which sometimes still doesnt stop me from being insecure) sometimes he will talk about a girl from work he had a completely platonic conversation with (even sometimes talking about me and our son) and I'll still feel jealous..lol, oh pregnancy hormones!

 

[prbetsi75]

There is something I read or heard somewhere that I always think about when I start to get a little insecure about my body in front of DH.....When men are turned on and in the moment, they will focus and look at the parts of your body that turn them on. In other words, he's focused and looking at your beautiful big boobs and doesn't even notice the belly! They are not paying attention to the parts of you that you may feel insecure about....they're focused on the parts of you that they LOVE and make them hot!

 

[DJMooMoo79]

I would say your fine. Since he suffers from low testosterone to begin with, if he was getting any anywhere else, he def would not have anything to bring home to you. And considering its almost every day I say your pretty good lol. Congrats on keeping up with the sex life!

 

[Laylagirl]

There is something I read or heard somewhere that I always think about when I start to get a little insecure about my body in front of DH.....When men are turned on and in the moment, they will focus and look at the parts of your body that turn them on. In other words, he's focused and looking at your beautiful big boobs and doesn't even notice the belly! They are not paying attention to the parts of you that you may feel insecure about....they're focused on the parts of you that they LOVE and make them hot!

Lets see how long this lasts....lol

 

[Laylagirl]

I would say your fine. Since he suffers from low testosterone to begin with, if he was getting any anywhere else, he def would not have anything to bring home to you. And considering its almost every day I say your pretty good lol. Congrats on keeping up with the sex life!

Yeah, i think it used to be worse....he was on androgel for a while and now hes afraid because there are a lot of commercials about lawsuits againts androgel.....but he seems to be improving on his own.....which is why I started thinking he was getting it from somewhere else too....but hopefully its just the pregnancy paranoia and we are just really learning how to enjoy this pregnancy experience every possible way... Lol with our first baby, he never saw my naked body after the fourth month....so hopefuly we can ride this out together...pun intended! Lol