snugglemuffin
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Hey to all of you 
I haven't posted on here before and i thought i would start here. I had my little boy when i was 17. He is now 5 and at school
. I thought i would tell you how it went for me as it might help any of you who are scared or confused.
Me and my partner broke up a couple of weeks before i found out i was pregnant. We had been together for two years before we broke up and we were still close. I actually did my pregnancy test in Morrisons Loo's as i couldn't face doing it at home. I had had a miscarriage a year previously to finding out this time i was pregnant and it took me a month to tell my dad that i thought i might be. This time i was convinced the same would happen and i would loose the baby so i told only my best friend who was with me at the time, however my dad worked it out and sprang the question on me while giving me a lift somewhere. I actually considered termination and told my dad that was the decision i had made. My dad was with me no matter what i decided but was very upset i would consider termination (he discussed with my older brother but never told me) i actually got to the stage of getting the scan to see how far along i was and wether a termination would be possible. I was convinced i had already lost the baby but i saw the tech doing the ultrasound smile and i knew i couldn't do it so i left the hospital and told my dad i was going to have my baby!! I told my family and friends at 12 weeks when everything was confirmed as fine and going well.
After a while my friends dropped off a bit as i couldn't go out or do pretty much anything they were doing but my best friend tried and stuck with me although we didn't see much of each other. Everything was new and i didn't have a clue how to look after a baby or what being pregnant involved. I did learn though and coped although labour was super scary and long (9lb 10oz baby) i got through it!
My ex partner was also with me through the whole thing and we decided on the rules and how things would work before Joshua was born. We remained friends and he stayed with me for the first month to help me take care of the baby, as he was brought up with 5 brothers and sisters and he was the oldest he knew allot more than i did, and gave me all the support i needed. Joshua has never gone a week without seeing his dad even though we both have our own partners and he has a baby girl with his fiance and me and my partner who will have been together for 4 and a half years are expecting our first baby together.
It is hard work maintaining a relationship when a teenager anyway let alone when there is a pregnancy and then a baby! People can however tell you that your life is over and once you have had a baby there is nothing else you can do. It's crap! From being a part time barmaid where i had to lie about my age i am now doing a degree in animation i work in the tax office, i have a house and a car of my own (after starting out on the homeless register and getting a council house as a single parent with no education or employment!) Most of all i have a fantastic little boy who i love more than anything else in the world!
You can do it, it gets scary but many have done it before you and many will do it after! Mines off to school now and was the narrator in his christmas play this week. Its not always ideal but it will be the best thing that ever happened to you!!
Apologies for rambling and the bits that don't make sense but hope it helps a lil x
I haven't posted on here before and i thought i would start here. I had my little boy when i was 17. He is now 5 and at school
. I thought i would tell you how it went for me as it might help any of you who are scared or confused.Me and my partner broke up a couple of weeks before i found out i was pregnant. We had been together for two years before we broke up and we were still close. I actually did my pregnancy test in Morrisons Loo's as i couldn't face doing it at home. I had had a miscarriage a year previously to finding out this time i was pregnant and it took me a month to tell my dad that i thought i might be. This time i was convinced the same would happen and i would loose the baby so i told only my best friend who was with me at the time, however my dad worked it out and sprang the question on me while giving me a lift somewhere. I actually considered termination and told my dad that was the decision i had made. My dad was with me no matter what i decided but was very upset i would consider termination (he discussed with my older brother but never told me) i actually got to the stage of getting the scan to see how far along i was and wether a termination would be possible. I was convinced i had already lost the baby but i saw the tech doing the ultrasound smile and i knew i couldn't do it so i left the hospital and told my dad i was going to have my baby!! I told my family and friends at 12 weeks when everything was confirmed as fine and going well.
After a while my friends dropped off a bit as i couldn't go out or do pretty much anything they were doing but my best friend tried and stuck with me although we didn't see much of each other. Everything was new and i didn't have a clue how to look after a baby or what being pregnant involved. I did learn though and coped although labour was super scary and long (9lb 10oz baby) i got through it!
My ex partner was also with me through the whole thing and we decided on the rules and how things would work before Joshua was born. We remained friends and he stayed with me for the first month to help me take care of the baby, as he was brought up with 5 brothers and sisters and he was the oldest he knew allot more than i did, and gave me all the support i needed. Joshua has never gone a week without seeing his dad even though we both have our own partners and he has a baby girl with his fiance and me and my partner who will have been together for 4 and a half years are expecting our first baby together.
It is hard work maintaining a relationship when a teenager anyway let alone when there is a pregnancy and then a baby! People can however tell you that your life is over and once you have had a baby there is nothing else you can do. It's crap! From being a part time barmaid where i had to lie about my age i am now doing a degree in animation i work in the tax office, i have a house and a car of my own (after starting out on the homeless register and getting a council house as a single parent with no education or employment!) Most of all i have a fantastic little boy who i love more than anything else in the world!
You can do it, it gets scary but many have done it before you and many will do it after! Mines off to school now and was the narrator in his christmas play this week. Its not always ideal but it will be the best thing that ever happened to you!!
Apologies for rambling and the bits that don't make sense but hope it helps a lil x
