To those who have had a MMC

[Nina83]

I'm so scared of having another. Those are the worst words to hear, "sorry, no heartbeat".

I know that symptoms sometimes don't mean anything, they come and go and I shouldn't be worried if one day I have and the next day I don't, but right now that's the only thing that is keeping me optimistic that the baby is growing.
I never had any symptoms whatsoever with my MMC, I thought I was just one of those lucky ones who was nausea-free. So I didn't get a sort of "heads up".
I've heard that some women keep having nausea and symptoms even after the baby has stopped developing, so my question is- how was it for you? Did you continue to have symptoms?
I'm just trying to reassure myself that this nausea is a good thing

 

[K123]

Sorry not to give a more reassuring answer but I was still throwing up with morning sickness the day I had my ERPC following my MMC. Symptoms/lack of symptoms can be so different for everyone so I'm trying not to think about them too much this time...

 

[Mummy to be x]

I continued with symptoms but we found out three days after our baby died so rather quickly. Miscaraige is a terrifying thing I'm petrified of having a third loss but at the same time I can't help get excited that I'm pregnant again....but then I find myself trying not to get too attached (just incase ) it's hard to stay positive but we must try. xxx

 

[Topanga053]

I know it's different for everyone, but I had almost no symptoms with my MMC and a good amount of symptoms w/my daughter. With my daughter, the symptoms did still ebb and flow. Around 9 weeks the nausea went away almost completely, so I rushed in for an emergency reassurance scan, convinced that I'd had a MC, but everything was fine. It's SOOO tough to PAL and know that there are no gaurantees, but for me, nausea was a good thing!

 

[charlie15]

I was the same as pp. with my mmc I had slight symptoms from 6 to 7 weeks but they never really progressed. Then they just gradually disappeared, so when I had a scan at 9 weeks I wasn't surprised. But with my dd I had stronger symptoms from 6 to 9 weeks. Then at 9 weeks they suddenly disappeared, the result of that pregnancy is sleeping peacefully now. In short, you just don't know as everyone and every pregnancy is so different. But I knew something was up when I had my mmc.

It's very hard but try to stay positive, but I am sure it's very natural to be so scared and worry after a MMC.

 

[george83]

With my mmc I had really small symptoms and by 8 weeks they had totally disappeared, I too hoped I was just one of the lucky ones but deep down I knew what it meant. With my rainbow I did have lots of strong symptoms but they were completely different to those that I had with my first child. I'm sure your rainbow is doing fine but if your anything like I was you'll be worrying up until the day they are born

 

[londongirl]

I think research has shown that, on average, being more nauseas is generally a good sign.

I had a chemical pregnancy. Then I had a MMC with D&C at 11 weeks. I then had a MC at 6 weeks. After this, you can imagine it'd never work for us.

Then I got pregnant again (this time) and had barely any symptoms. I'm now nearly 19 weeks and everything is measuring well.

All I'm saying is please don't lose hope - trust me, I know how soul wrenching it can be.

And remember, MMC are meant to be rare, and repeated MMC is insanely rare.

 

[KBCupcake]

Hi. I too have had a MMC. My baby stopped growing at 6w but I continued to feel MS just past wk 7. By 8w it was pretty much gone but I thought nothing of it. At 8w we had our first scan and were given the bad news. I'm now at what should have been 9w4d and I'm still having breast heaviness and tenderness. Blech.

All I have to say is, please try to not look too into anything. I know it's hard, but even though I had some funky things going on with my body, I tried my darnest to enjoy the pregnancy up until my bad news was confirmed. I don't regret any of it. I wish you lots of luck on this pregnancy.

 

[Nina83]

Hi. I too have had a MMC. My baby stopped growing at 6w but I continued to feel MS just past wk 7. By 8w it was pretty much gone but I thought nothing of it. At 8w we had our first scan and were given the bad news. I'm now at what should have been 9w4d and I'm still having breast heaviness and tenderness. Blech.

All I have to say is, please try to not look too into anything. I know it's hard, but even though I had some funky things going on with my body, I tried my darnest to enjoy the pregnancy up until my bad news was confirmed. I don't regret any of it. I wish you lots of luck on this pregnancy.

I'm so sorry for your loss cupcake ((hugs))

 

[KBCupcake]

Thanks very much Nina, sending hugs to you too!

 

[Leinzlove]

I'm so sorry for your losses. With my MMC I didn't have MS, but I had lots of symptoms and didn't know anything was wrong until my first ultrasound. There was baby no heartbeat measuring 2-3 weeks behind...

However, with DD1 I had loads of symptoms and she was fine. DD2, I had no symptoms and she was fine... Its hard.

With this baby, I've been non stop sick, symptoms galore.

With my 4 early losses... They seemed fine and I had symptoms. However, the pregnancy tests end up get dark more slowly or I'd start bleeding.

 

[LPF]

With my MMC I had amazingly dark lines on pg test, plenty of symptoms from week 4-11.5 (not severe sickness like with ds but bad enough that I wasn't concerned). I suddenly started bleeding about 2 days before my 12 weeks can and it was a blighted ovum. I'd spent 2 months feeling wretched for absolutely nothing, there was never a baby. I was so shocked. It has completely shaken my faith in being pregnant.

 

[FlatShoes]

I had sickness and other symptoms right up to my erpc which was a week after we were told there was no heartbeat and 2 weeks after the baby stopped growing.

Although this doesn't sound like a very positive post it just shows that symptoms or lack of don't necessarily link to a healthy baby! So we have to try not to worry either way!

 

[anxious mommy]

And remember, MMC are meant to be rare, and repeated MMC is insanely rare.

Here's hoping. Lmp says 6 weeks 4 days. No heartbeat on u/s. Last pregnancy ended in a mmc and baby only progressed to 5 weeks 5 days. OB thinks there's a shot I ovulated late and we'll see a heartbeat in 2 weeks. Meantime, I'm in the same waiting boat as last time. Here's hoping my January rainbow is actually a February rainbow.

 

[Leinzlove]

Don't give up hope just yet.

 

[ginny83]

I have had 3 MMC. All three of them I was still having MS right up to the D&C.
The first one was found at my 12 week scan, the baby measured 11+5. Then the next pregnancy I used a doppler, couldn't find the heartbeat one day so went to emergency the next day and the baby was found to have passed and measured exactly when I heard the heartbeat last 15+4. The last one was found when I should have been 14 weeks along and the baby measured roughly 13 weeks, I had a scan at 12 weeks where everything had been fine.

Very scarey to have go through all of that but I have my fingers crossed that this time we will have our rainbow x

 

[nickyb]

When I had my mmc I didn't have strong symptoms but then I've never really suffered even with healthy pregnancies, the mild symptoms I had were there right till the end when I took the meds to start the bleeding, the woman who scanned me actually showed me on the screen the hormones still being released even though my baby had died 3 weeks prior I was so angry with my body for not knowing!

This time I've got zero symptoms not even tired, so I'm struggling to believe this is going anywhere.