To work or not to work???

Gemz

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I'm just wondering how many of you are stay at home Mums/Dads or will be when your baby comes along? Is it the right decision for you? I currently work 2 days, but now I'm expecting another I'm thinking of giving up. I'll be the only one out of all my mummy friends who will be a stay at home mum and I know I will be looked down upon. Also a big concern is money - I'm so confused right now. HELP!
 
Hi Gemz.You have to do what you think is right for you and LO without worrying too much about what everyone else thinks.
I'm a SAHM to my little girl and will be for another couple of years atleast yet.I worked for a little while last Xmas when she was 6 months old but it didnt work out because I was too exhausted and hated being away from her.
Money is tricky and has to be really budgeted but its worth it for me to know that my little girl has me at home everyday and I can see all her milestones and watch her grow up :cloud9:
xxxx
 
Hey.

My OH is a stay at home dad and I work 16 hours a week. It works out ok for us. We aren't the richest people in the world but we have enough xx
 
Why do you think you will be looked down on by others? We have 4 children. Before we had number4 I used to work a few nights a week in the community. Daytime work was not an option as could not have afforded 4 lots of childcare/primary school etc. Gave it up, we had little time together as a family and I was so tired. We manage ok. As my mum says you cut your cloth to meet your needs.
Do what is right for you and littleones
 
Interesting discussion. I couldn't wait to return! But 2 Months in and I've decided I'd rather spend my time with my baby. My life was just too hectic, and it really was affecting my health and happiness. Now in the mornings I still get up early with the baby but don't have the morning mad rush, commute and nursery drop off to stress me out before the day has even begun.
 
I'm a SAHM and it wasnt my intention. But after Alex birth I decided the first few years o her life were the most important in her development, and I wont be able to get them back. So sod it. I'm not going back. I dont care what people think - I'm doing it for Alex. I miss people and work sometimes, and I feel like I get no adult conversation most days, but it'll be worth it.
 
I a SAHM for the time being but an going to uni next year

Do what you feel is right for you hun
xc
 
I was told I was a terrible mum for going back to work when Josh was 12 weeks old, I don't partically NEED to go to work but I want to. I certainly don't look down on anybody that chooses to stay home with their children, its a personal preferance.
 
Well, you get looked down upon whatever you chose to be honest :shrug: A lot of people have said mummys should be home with their baby, people shouldnt have babys to hand them over to someone else to look after, you'll miss your babys milestones etc etc

I have to work to give amelie the things she deserves :shrug:
 
When I said I want to go to work it's not because I don't love my child enough to stay home, I want to be able to buy him nice toys, clothes and take him on hol, It's not purely for my needs. If I could stay home with my little boy and still afford everything that we need plus a bit extra then I would jump at the chance, I just don't have that option atm. Blah I can see exactly where you coming from x

Just thought I'd add that in before people judged me lol!
 
Well, you get looked down upon whatever you chose to be honest :shrug: A lot of people have said mummys should be home with their baby, people shouldnt have babys to hand them over to someone else to look after, you'll miss your babys milestones etc etc

I have to work to give amelie the things she deserves :shrug:

:hugs::hugs:
 
think you get judged no matter what you choose to do, i have worked full time, about 50 hours a week for the past few years and stopped at 26 weeks with pretty much no intention of going back to work after this lo arrives, its amazing how much i am enjoying staying at home already lol - just do what you feel is rigt for you and your family x bugger everyone else
 
Moms can't do anything right, according to everyone's million opinions, right?:dohh:

Do what is good for you.

Personally, I am going to be a SAHM. I have my university degree and I have a very good career, but since I can stay home, I will choose to do so. There is nothing wrong with it.

A lot of moms can't afford to stay at home, and others prefer their child to benefit from daycare (yes, I'm a teacher, and there are many benefits to daycare! Just as there are benefits to staying at home!). Or, mom just needs a bit of time to stay independent. So many reasons. Don't let anyone tell you what to do with your life.
 
I agree, just do what you feel is best for you and your LO, I've done uni and gone back to work with my first 2 but since DH got new job we decided I would stay home and I defo feel its the best for us!
I must say though I have found more people look down on you for going back to work not being a SAHM:shrug:
 
I would love to be a SAHM but i think when my mat pay finishes we're just not going to be able to afford it, so back to work it will be for me :(
 
With my OH currently out of work, we're both SAHparents at the moment. In theory we have a deal, whichever of us gets a good job first, the other becomes the full-time parent; in reality, I know it's more likely that I will return to work and OH will become the SAHD because that's the way our interests lie.
 

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