Too early to break the news?

[Plenora]

I have a friend/work colleague who's just told me that she's pregnant but only tested a week ago so is now five weeks officially pregnant. She was only going to tell me and a couple of close friends but now she's over excited and told almost everyone. I really hope this is it for her and that it sticks but I've read some sad stories on here of people having m/c at 8 weeks so I'm on tenderhooks now for her until the twelve week period as if anything happened it will be so much worse now. I feel like I should have warned her but I don't like telling people what they should do!

What would you do? I think I would wait a bit longer myself as I'd hate to have to go through that. Fingers crossed for her anyway, she's healthy and young enough that she should be OK.

 

[Melanieanne77]

I think that if she miscarries she will probably need some thyme off work and then everyone will know anyway - that's what happened to me - I miscarried one twin at 6weeks and then the other at 8 weeks and pretty much everyone at my work knows - they had to find out as I was off work a lot and going for appointments...

I think it will be harder for her if she's told friends of friends and/or facebook (i managed to not tell all my friends nor facebook)...but I dont regret my work knowing...

Im TTC and if I am lucky this month hopefully I'll get past the 8 week mark whilst im on holidays, thereby sidestepping having my vagina up for work discussions...

 

[readyformore]

As long as the person is comfortable, it's never too early to tell everyone and celebrate a pregnancy.

There is no guarantee at 12 weeks either. I know of someone that waited until 20 weeks to tell everyone, then her baby died at 25 weeks. She then regretted waiting because she only had 5 weeks in which she could share her pregnancy with everyone.

 

[goddess25]

I think its a personal preference.. I believe that if you have sadly have a m/c then you are going to need support from family/friends unless you decide not to tell them...I personally would tell close family and a few friends and my work... I work in an office with 3 other girls and we know everything about each other. I get very pukey while pregnant for a long time, while looking pale and exhausted in the 1st tri, its not something I could hide.

I would not however tell my wider work circle or facebook, or friends that I see from time to time or all my family members...a select few that I can trust to be discreet.

I hope that everything goes ok for your colleague.