Trying for 3 years, time for a new approach...

[Coletta86]

Okay, my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for three years now. At the beginning I just stopped taking my birth control and we figured it would just happen when it happened. After a year went by I started to get concerned, but figured it just wasn't happening because we weren't really trying. Another year went by and I started really worrying. So, I started to chart my ovulation online, and we began to try more avidly. Now it's been three years, I have spent tons of money on pregnancy tests, countless mornings of tears, and every month my period comes I fall into a mini-depression (I always get back up...eventually). I have only told a couple people about my problem because I guess I am ashamed, though I shouldn't I cannot help but pity myself over this sometimes. The few people I have talked to about it never seem to make me feel better, so I decided to talk to you guys, and see if it helps.
I just finally ordered some ovulation testers and some vitamins that have been known to help with infertility, which are: Chasteberry, Dong Quai and Black Cohosh. My husband and I have been having sex at least every other day for the last few months, so I am just hoping and praying at this point. Does anyone have any suggestions/ideas for me, because I am really hurting and struggling...oh and if you say "just stop thinking about it or stop trying" I may lose it

 

[Pinkie 33]

Hi

Sorry about your situation and that you find yourself here

Have you had any tests done? I would suggest that you go to the Doctors together and explain your situation. If you dont have any idea why its not happening you dont have a starting point.

Most of my 'normal' friends although supportive, can offer few words of comfort as this is a situation you cannot fully understand until you are in it yourself. I find 'just relax', 'dont try and stress so much', 'it will happen eventually', 'have you considered adoption' are all stock answers when folks cant think of anything more helpful to say. I've realised its not out of spite, just arkwardness.

x

 

[Coletta86]

Oh I totally agree, my friends don't know what to say so they say what they think I want to hear, and I appreciate it even though it doesn't really help =) We haven't gone to the doctors yet because infertility problems aren't covered under our plan ( I cannot even find a medical plan that does cover this).

 

[Pinkie 33]

Ok, we have a different system here. Our tests are funded through the NHS even if not all of the treatment is. There are ladies in the US on here who do have insurance for it I think, it might be worth asking the question. Good luck x

 

[Spockette]

hon!

Sometimes, these things do take time but there could be an underlying cause as to why you're not conceiving. Start off with some blood tests for yourself and a Sperm Analysis for your hubby then take it from there.....

Good luck xxx