Trying too hard, it's putting me off sex!?

[rebeccalouise]

Month after month, I've seen nothing but on pregnancy tests. I've now found out I have PCOS, but I'm so fed up of trying now. We're desperate for a baby, but I don't see it happening any time soon. We've been everyday/every other day, and now my problem is, I don't look forward to sex any more! I don't enjoy it, in fact I'd go as far as saying I don't like it any more! I feel awful, as my partner has no idea I'm feeling this way. Is it just me? I think I'm seeing sex as just a baby making thing now, I don't see it as pleasure any more?

Any advice ladies? X

 

[Becky61]

This is something OH & I have had differences on this last month.
I track my cycles & use OPKs, but don't temp. He has no idea how much I think about TTC. I spoke to him this month about my FF app, & how I mark down every time we BD. He flipped out saying he doesn't want our love making to become scientific baby making (think he would just like more drunken fumbles & cow girl postions!) I see his point but I'm the one who knows my body (when I'm Oing etc & face BFN time & time again.) He just tells me it will happen when it happens, like it's no big deal!!!!
Up until 2 weeks ago, our sex life was utterly amazing. Spontaneous, romantic, dirty, love making... You name it we did it, morning, noon &/or night. But 2 weeks ago I suffered with a really dry foo foo. No matter how aroused I felt in my head, my lady parts just didn't want to play along. He completely blames our TTC. To be honest, I think he may be right. I just don't feel *it* at the moment. Safe to say our sex life is currently non-existant
Sorry for the self-absorbed rant. You are definately not alone though x

 

[rebeccalouise]

This is something OH & I have had differences on this last month.
I track my cycles & use OPKs, but don't temp. He has no idea how much I think about TTC. I spoke to him this month about my FF app, & how I mark down every time we BD. He flipped out saying he doesn't want our love making to become scientific baby making (think he would just like more drunken fumbles & cow girl postions!) I see his point but I'm the one who knows my body (when I'm Oing etc & face BFN time & time again.) He just tells me it will happen when it happens, like it's no big deal!!!!
Up until 2 weeks ago, our sex life was utterly amazing. Spontaneous, romantic, dirty, love making... You name it we did it, morning, noon &/or night. But 2 weeks ago I suffered with a really dry foo foo. No matter how aroused I felt in my head, my lady parts just didn't want to play along. He completely blames our TTC. To be honest, I think he may be right. I just don't feel *it* at the moment. Safe to say our sex life is currently non-existant
Sorry for the self-absorbed rant. You are definately not alone though x

I'm glad I'm not alone! It's horrible though, isn't it? my OH says the same, he has always believed in "if it's meant to happen, it'll happen." It drives me mad every time he says it, because I feel like my life has been taken over with TTC! X

 

[apreslaube]

I definitely can't help you with this. I don't like sex in general, so we never have it. There's absolutely no pleasure for me, in fact it often hurts. However, trying for a baby is great for my husband because now it means we are having sex . The only thing I can think of, is that having sex *all* the time isn't helping. You only need to have sex in your fertility window. Having it only at that time may help you to enjoy it more. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.... or something like that

 

[stiletto_mom]

I feel you. Sometimes my mind is super turned on, but my body just isn't cooperating. =(

 

[rebeccalouise]

I definitely can't help you with this. I don't like sex in general, so we never have it. There's absolutely no pleasure for me, in fact it often hurts. However, trying for a baby is great for my husband because now it means we are having sex . The only thing I can think of, is that having sex *all* the time isn't helping. You only need to have sex in your fertility window. Having it only at that time may help you to enjoy it more. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.... or something like that

well I have pcos, so I never know when I'm going to be ovulating it's a pain! I stopped bleeding last Sunday, and last night I had all the signs of ovulation. X

 

[Ashlene]

Both DH & I feel that way when we go into "baby-making" mode. It feels like a task and we don't enjoy it at all. I know it shouldn't be this way but sometimes it is so hard to just relax and let it go when you really want something so much.

 

[spicyorange]

Maybe it's time to take a break from "trying", just have sex when you want to for a while, there's still a decent chance of getting pregnant. Remember also what you did love abut it, spice things up, romance each other, don't just do it because you have to