TTC #1 for 14 months and looking for some buddies!!

[TooExcited]

Hello ladies

I have been a long term stalker of the boards but have rarely posted so have decided today is the day to come out of hibernation!

DH and I have been trying for 14 months now and each month has brought with it a fresh wave of heartache. This isn't meant to be this hard!

After a lot of tears in my GP's office we have been referred to the fertility unit for help and whilst that has eased my worries a bit, in the sense that we are seeing a specialist who know's what he is doing and should be able to help us, I am still frustrated about how long it is all taking. I had a HyCoSy test earlier this month which showed a possible blocked tube so he's ordered a Lap/Dye plus HSG and tubular reconnulation (sp?). I know i should be grateful that they are looking into all the physical stuff I'm worried that even if I do conceive then my short LP (of between 8-10 days) won't be enough to sustain a preganancy and no one has even mentioned that that might be an issue...

This month has been odd. Ov'd 3 days later than normal so I was expecting AF to come 8 days later but here i am 6 DPO with mild cramps, spotting and that dreaded sense that there will be tears in the morning! I thought the LP was the same length each month so if OV is late then AF should be equally delayed???

I am the last of my friends who I know are trying to get the bean to stick. I am obviously thrilled for them all but it makes our failure that bit more painful each time.

Anyway, sorry to rant - it has helped to get it off my chest!

Baby dust to you all. I'm sure we will all get there one day when the baby gods decide it is our time.

xxxx

 

[diliapickle]

Hello! Welcome out of hibernation sorry it has been a long journey for you, I feel your pain! I hope the doctor can help answer your questions so you see that bfp sooner rather than later!

 

[stayinhappy]

Hello! I have been TTC numero 1 for 20 months...I know the frustrations of what you are feeling! Hopefully your dr can help you out...perhaps find a reason! I joined here recently b/c I was in need of chatting with women who actually get how difficult this journey can be...so welcome aboard!! Wishing you well...and a sprinkle of baby dust too!

 

[abbie23]

Hi there- We've been TTC for 16 months now. I'm scheduled for a HyCoSy next week and am feeling a bit anxious about that - hope it doesn't hurt too much. Nice to meet you Too Excited. (And the rest of you ladies.) I'm also getting rather antsy and just want to be pregnant already.

When my husband got tested last month his SA showed low count and morphology, which was a huge shock for us. I'm trying not to get disheartened, but it's hard not to feel as though we've been trying so hard to no end. I'm going through a bit of a down period right now where it's hard to imagine ever getting pregnant.

Anyway, it is nice to be able to chat with others who actually understand what this feels like and what I'm going through. Hopefully they'll find out if there's anything physically preventing conception for you, and don't worry - if your short luteal phase is a problem, there are drugs they can use to help extend it. It is better to be going through the check-ups now. The quicker they find out what the problem is, the quicker they can sort it out and help you get pregnant!

 

[laustiredttc]

hey girls hope you dont mind me joining in? I have been ttc with dh for 14months. All the preliminary tests, so bloodwork, vaginal ultrasound, dh sa have all come back normal. We have the fs in sep and will probably start with a hsg. There have been times throughout this journey where i have wanted to crawl underneath the covers and stay there so i wont have to deal with what the world has to throw at me. Coming on here and meeting strong ladies such as yourselves has given me the courage to carry on. I hope we all get our much wished for soon ladies

 

[emz1200]

We've been TTC for 18 months now, had all the blood work & scans DH has had his SA done & all fine. We had our appointment with the FS & she couldn't really understand why we were there as we hadn't been trying 'that long' in her words. We've got another appointment to go back in Feb if nothing has happened but she said that unless they find something wrong there is nothing they can do until we've been trying for 3 years, NHS rules or something.
Anyway welcome to the boards xx

 

[TooExcited]

Thank you ladies - this is such a hard journey and it is so nice for us to be able to support each other along the way.

Good luck with your HyCoSy Abbie. I hope it shows everything is in perfect order. Sorry to hear about your husband's SA. Do you have him on prenatal vitamins? I've heard that they can be quite effective.

I am the last of all of the ladies I know to get a BFP... Whilst I am happy for them of course, it only deepens my own misery for not being pg already. I feel like life is on hold until we get that positive test result!

Shall we check in each week and see how we are all doing?

Big hugs and baby dust to you all xxx

 

[laustiredttc]

i think thats a great idea huni. nice to have ladies who understand what this journey is all about

 

[laustiredttc]

We've been TTC for 18 months now, had all the blood work & scans DH has had his SA done & all fine. We had our appointment with the FS & she couldn't really understand why we were there as we hadn't been trying 'that long' in her words. We've got another appointment to go back in Feb if nothing has happened but she said that unless they find something wrong there is nothing they can do until we've been trying for 3 years, NHS rules or something.
Anyway welcome to the boards xx

hi hun, i have the fs in sep and as far as i have been told by my dr they will do a hsg and if that is clear a poss lap! i know the rules about assisted conception that you have to wait 3 years but i would have thought they would have done some of the tests to check for endo and tube blockages?

The NHS really does bloody annoy me, one rule for one and totally different for others. I hope you get your before then hun fx

 

[diliapickle]

Wow that is crazy you have to wait 3 years! Here we get referred to fs after 1 year! Sorry you have to wait but hopefully you get bfp and dont need them!

 

[RCAFWife]

Hey there!
We've been ttc #1 for 18 months, currently on the 19th cycle. I haven't had any of the procedures you ladies have mentioned, but I am waiting to see a doctor about all of that. I am also anxious to see a doctor because my mom had endo and I want to make sure that I don't have it. She had to get a lap, and I'm wondering if I'll need one too Either way, I just want some answers.

DH has had 3 SAs done and the last one said his count is 15 million with 50% normal and all my u/s came back normal, so we've just been trying random things on our own to get pregnant (i.e. soft cups, preseed, zinc for him, prenatals, hips elevated after bd, etc). I'm hoping for a natural BFP, especially since assisted conception is SO expensive

Here's to speedy BFPs for everyone! Good luck to you all

 

[emz1200]

We've been TTC for 18 months now, had all the blood work & scans DH has had his SA done & all fine. We had our appointment with the FS & she couldn't really understand why we were there as we hadn't been trying 'that long' in her words. We've got another appointment to go back in Feb if nothing has happened but she said that unless they find something wrong there is nothing they can do until we've been trying for 3 years, NHS rules or something.
Anyway welcome to the boards xx

hi hun, i have the fs in sep and as far as i have been told by my dr they will do a hsg and if that is clear a poss lap! i know the rules about assisted conception that you have to wait 3 years but i would have thought they would have done some of the tests to check for endo and tube blockages?

The NHS really does bloody annoy me, one rule for one and totally different for others. I hope you get your before then hun fx

I've had one scan done & they did the internal one aswell which hurt like hell. The woman said that i need to come back for another one because she wasn't sure if there was something on one of my ovaries or if it was just because i was ovulating. I'm still waiting for my appointment to come through & i've chased them up about it once already just to be told that they didn't have the diary dates (should be end of Sept) & that she could see that i was 'pending'. If it doesn't come through by the end of the week i'm going to have to chase them again.
The FS wasn't really that helpful & because all the bloods & DH's SA were normal she didn't really want to help & it felt like she only booked the scan cos i was sat infront of her.
Good luck with your FS & hopefully they will be more helpful than mine

x

 

[laustiredttc]

hey hun i had all the scans, bloodwork done at the doctors so hope that i get some further testing when i get to the fs. TBH i hope i get my before i go the fs. oh well a girl can dream eh I hope your wishes come true ladies. Howz everyone getting on btw?

 

[Praying4bump]

Hi! We have been ttc for almost 14 months. I had a lap & dye in march and was diagnosed with severe endo. They removed it but my tubes were fine. I truely understand the rollercoaster of emotions. Im trying to stay positive but its not easy especially when it seems like everyone around you is getting pregnant. I know our time will come.

 

[RCAFWife]

laustiredttc, I'm on CD 3, slowly getting through AF's visit...waiting to start bd'ing again.

Is a lap & dye typical diagnostic for endo? Endo runs in the family so I am thinking that the doc i see will suggest it...

 

[laustiredttc]

hey prayingforbump i really do hope you get your magical soon fx

rcaf wife, the hsg checks for blockages in your tubes but it is the lap that checks for endo. It is a small surgical procedure and you are under for it i think. They make two small inscicions, one for camera and one for laser i think? Hope that helps hun?

 

[RCAFWife]

Yes, thanks! That made a lot of sense When you say incisions, I think "scars"! Oh well, all in the name of baby making!

 

[TooExcited]

Good morning ladies - how are you all feeling today?

I am doing my very best to keep myself busy over the weekend. I had to endure an afternoon and evening with my DHs colleagues yesterday. Oh the joys of being the only sober person in the room!!!

As for me, I am waiting for AF. On a normal cycle I would technically be 2 days late but I ov'd 3 days late this cycle. I've had 4 days of spotting and cramping so am bored of the pre AF-ness!!!

Hope you are all having a happy Sunday!!!

xxx

 

[diliapickle]

I just got all my ivf meds yesterday! So ready to start!

Tooexcited - hope AF gets here soon! FX for you!

 

[laustiredttc]

hey girls, very mundane sunday here, 4dpo and no symptoms hope all you girls are well